At about 7:50 a.m. on January 12, a woman squeezed her child's face fiercely on Line 7 of the Beijing subway and made her kneel in public, causing the passengers in the same car to look sideways. Experts say the act of having children kneel in public has broken the latest law.
The child was punished to kneel nearly one stop
Ms. Wei boarded the subway on Line 7 yesterday morning towards Beijing West Railway Station. At about 7:50 a.m., she saw in the carriage that a seven- or eight-year-old child was sitting on the opposite seat with a mobile phone, and a woman squeezed the child's face fiercely, causing the mask to be pulled off the child's ear. The child silently put on the mask, and the woman knocked off the child's hat with her hand, and this time the child did not dare to wear the hat. Then, the woman snatched the mobile phone from the child's hand, raised her hand to hit the child again, and the child subconsciously reached out to block it.
"I heard the woman say to the child, 'Don't sit down,' and the two of them went to the other carriage. She threw the child's school bag on the ground and made the child kneel. Ms. Wei said that the child knelt from Wanzi Station to Beijing West Railway Station station, kneeling for a quick stop. After the subway arrived at the station, the woman put her hands in her pockets and left, and the child quickly picked up her bag and ran after her on her back. In the car, someone in the carriage advised the woman, but the woman replied, "I said my child, I want him to do whatever I want." ”
"I don't know what the child has done wrong, it is really inappropriate to beat the child in public and let the child kneel." Ms. Wei said angrily.
The child knelt from Wanzi Station to Beijing West Railway Station.
Expert reviews
Having children kneel in public can easily cause social anxiety
Liu Yonghe, a well-known child psychologist, said that publicly letting children kneel down on the subway to admit their mistakes is not only a wrong way of education, but also has violated national laws. Article 5 of the Law on the Promotion of Family Education, which came into effect on January 1 this year, mentions that family education should respect the personal dignity of minors and protect the legitimate rights and interests of minors. In the face of a seven- or eight-year-old child, taking a rough approach to education not only causes psychological trauma to the child, but also causes psychological discomfort to the people around him, which is an unreasonable and irresponsible performance.
Liu Yonghe said that publicly letting children kneel down and admit mistakes will hurt children's self-esteem, make children have inferiority personality, and may also cause children's social anxiety and social avoidance behavior. Because after the child kneels in public, the relationship between himself and others is no longer equal in his heart, and he can no longer face interpersonal interaction normally, which is easy to cause social anxiety.
From another point of view, parents shoulder multiple pressures such as work, life, support and parenting, and children are prone to anxiety and impatience when they have problems. Liu Yonghe gave several suggestions:
First, parents should set a reasonable "expectation range", so that education has flexibility and pressure will be reduced; second, to evaluate objectively, do not label children as "ignorant" because they have made a mistake; third, three points of emotion, seven points of expression. Parents should realize that emotional catharsis does not allow children to pay attention to problems, but will put their energy into coping with parents' emotions, and even problems such as avoidance, flattery or lying. In public, it is more important to protect the child's self-esteem, and parents' respect and understanding of the child can awaken the child's introspection and self-love. Liu Yonghe called on parents to carry out family education and study, and not to have similar incidents.
Source Beijing Evening News
Reporter Shi Yue Provided by the interviewee
Process Editor Wu Yue
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