Xiang Shi's kind words: "If you have a son and are widowed, it is advisable to persuade him to keep the festival, to ask without a child, and to live in front of him." "Speak without asking for people: "The young man praised him for his long life, and the old man Xu Jia Fuze." ”
Xiangshi is an ancient and mysterious profession, and their stories are mostly talked about after tea and dinner. For example, Yuan Shoucheng in "Journey to the West" can calculate the location of the Jinghe Water Clan, and the Jinghe Dragon King is deeply angry, disguised as a white-clothed Xiushi, and goes to Chang'an City to find Yuan Shoucheng's trouble, asking him to calculate the time point of tomorrow's rainfall, and leave a message if it is wrong, he will drive him out of the city. As a result, the Heavenly Court suddenly descended on the Holy Will, requiring the Jinghe Dragon King to rain tomorrow at the time points that were completely consistent with Yuan Shoucheng's calculations. The Jinghe Dragon King did not want to accept defeat, and privately changed the timing points of the rain, violating the Heavenly Rules, and the result was known to the Heavenly Court. Yuan Shoucheng asked him to seek help from Emperor Li Shimin of tang, and Li Shimin promised to save him, but in the end he was still beheaded by the Celestial Official Wei Zheng in his dream.
Yuan Shoucheng's story has a mythological color, but it is not enough to believe. In the Han Dynasty, there was a famous female xiangshi named Xu Negative, but because her prophecy was very clever, she was crowned marquis by Liu Bang, the ancestor of Han Gao. Her prophetic story can not only be described as legendary, but more thanks to her social experience and art of knowing people. Xu had several famous prophecies, all of which turned out to be true afterwards. For example, she had predicted that Bo Ji, the concubine of the Wei King Leopard, would be the mother of the world, and if she had a repetitive heart, she broke with Liu Bang and wanted to go it alone. As a result, Wei Wangbao was killed, and Bo Ji was taken into captivity in the Han Palace and became a laundry lady. Later, Liu Bang rose on a whim and blessed Bo Ji. Unexpectedly, Liu Bang's gun head was extremely accurate, and Bo Ji was pregnant with a dragon, that is, the later Han Wen Emperor Liu Heng.
In addition, Xu Fu also predicted that Deng Tong, the favorite of Emperor Wen of Han, would die of poverty and starvation in his old age, and Liu Heng did not believe in evil, saying that only he could protect Deng Tong's wealth for a lifetime, and gave Deng Tong a copper mountain where he could cast money himself. Because of the support of Emperor Wen of Han, Deng Tong was soon rich and invincible. However, as soon as Emperor Wen of Han died, because he had previously offended Liu Qi, who was once the crown prince, after Liu Qi took the throne, he immediately took Deng Tong down, punished him for ruining his family, and finally died of frostbite and starvation.
The reason why Xu Negative was able to make such a judgment was because she saw that Deng Tong was only a courtier who would meet the enemy and pat his horse, and his status and wealth were all given by Emperor Wen of Han. However, emperor Wen of Han remembered that in his twilight years, the Great Han would surely continue in the hands of the new world, and at that time, Deng Tong's loss of power would be sooner or later. It is not so much that Xu Negative is giving life to others, but rather that she has seen clearly the human condition of the world.
Indeed, the ancient Xiangshi did have unique tricks in "Xiangren", all of which were accumulated by generations of "professional and technical personnel". The ancient Xiangshi is the fortune teller of the current folk. They see people as "accurate", is there really such a god? In fact, they are not, they are just good at "observing the color" and using various means to make out what they want to know. Therefore, before joining the company, they were brought through the help of the master. Moreover, there are many words of experience in this line.
Like what:
"The widow asked to stay, and she was determined to rematch. The old woman sighed and was embarrassed to speak. ”
When widows and wives (elderly women) come to ask for their lives and look at their performance, they can judge their situation and thoughts. If the old woman has not yet opened her mouth, she will sigh and sigh, indicating that she must have been bullied by her daughter-in-law at home for a long time, and there is nowhere to complain, which is to find comfort. If the widow is here to inquire about "going to stay", it means that she already has the idea of remarrying in her heart, at this time, as long as she is timely, she can quote her heart, pick up what she thinks, and both sides will be happy.
For those widows who want to marry, as a professional spirit of acquaintances, they will also vary from person to person, and give guidance. One rule they have to follow is:
"If there are children and widows, it is advisable to observe the festival, and there will be good times in the future." No child asked to go, when he wanted to perch high. ”
If the widow has a son, she should be advised to persist for a few more years, and when the son grows up, he will have a blessing and give them a reason to insist.
And the childless and widowed must persuade them to make plans early and find another branch, so that the second half of their lives will be guaranteed. Such advice is in line with the characteristics of that era, because in the ancient times of low productivity, it was difficult for a weak woman to maintain a family, and finding a shoulder to rely on for the rest of her life was the right way. These also reflect the goodwill of a fellow soldier.
Of course, in addition to intimate advice, there must also be warm and good words, so that those who are suspicious and uneasy can return with joy, which is also one of the indispensable elements in the communication process. This is another rule that the peers revere:
"The young man praised him for his long life, and the old man Xu Jia Fuze."
In this way, it is exactly what they are most willing to hear, and they send a word of parting in vain, and they do not spend the cost, so why not enjoy it?
From this, it also gives people inspiration, when communicating with people, don't speak too harshly, good words are warm in three winters, and you have to spare people and spare people!
Sometimes, de liable also has to learn to let people, because only by staying in the mouth can we cause less trouble for ourselves.