Everything in the world has rules, rules, is a standard, rules, is a code. If people do not have rules, they will go into trouble; if there are no rules, the family will fall apart; if the country does not have rules, it will fall and perish.
"Han Feizi Xie Lao" Yun:
"There are rules for everything."
Life in the world, interacting with people, self-cultivation, everywhere is inseparable from the rules. Only by understanding the rules and keeping the rules can we keep life.
Those who make us feel comfortable with each other and have a smooth life and career are not only smart and diligent, but also their insight into human nature, they know what is appropriate, what is impartial, what is not to cross the line, know that the rules are square, and act in the rules, in order to be able to be comfortable and just right.
As the saying goes: the state has the state law, the family has the family rules; there are no rules, no squares. Rules are the essence of wisdom handed down from ancestors, and even farmers who have not read many books can say a lot of rules that have been handed down. Today we will share China's old rules.
(1) Stay at home
Elders and things must be received with both hands.
Xu xing is long after the line, and not rushed to grow first.
Don't pace around in front of the elderly seat.
Do not sigh when eating, do not reprimand children.
(1) What the elders give, the juniors should use their hands to respectfully pick up;
(2) Walk with the elders, walk behind the elders, do not walk fast in front of the elders;
(3) Don't keep walking around in front of your elders;
(4) Do not sigh when eating, and do not reprimand the juniors when eating.
(2) Dealing with the world
Family affairs should not be spoken to outsiders.
Meetings with people with disabilities should be respectful.
Pick the peddlers on the shoulders, don't bargain.
The melon field does not take care of the shoes, and the plum does not complete the crown.
(1) Do not publicize the affairs in your own family with outsiders outside your family;
(2) Meet with people with disabilities and respect their feelings more;
(3) There are many hard-working people in the world, and such people should not take advantage of them;
(4) In life, we must pay attention to avoid suspicion, do not bend down to lift shoes in the melon field, and do not raise your hand to tidy up the hat under the plum tree.
(3) Dinner
When lifting the spoon, please lift it together.
The utensils of public food do not need to be stirred.
Do not ring your tongue when you eat, and do not ring your throat in your throat.
The guest food is not finished, and the host does not start first.
(1) When eating, everyone should move chopsticks together
(2) Do not stir with your own private chopsticks when eating
(3) Don't make a strange noise when you eat
(4) The guest does not get up first before eating
(4) Go out
Ascend without shouting, without pointing, without greeting. No smoking, no chewing, no singing on the road. Don't stand on the road for a long time. One person does not enter the ancient temple, and two people do not look at the deep well.
(1) Do not shout loudly when climbing, do not point out casually, and do not make loud noises;
(2) Do not smoke when walking, do not chew things, do not sing;
(3) Can not talk for a long time on the road;
(4) When one person does not enter the ancient temple alone, and when two people do not go near the deep well.
(5) Travel
He will go far, and he will resign from his relatives and friends, and he will worship his ancestors and resign from his relatives. When you return, you will pay homage to your relatives and friends, or send some earth. Entry is forbidden, entry is customary, and entry is forbidden. If you enter the country, you will get off the horse when you enter the village.
(1) Before going out, be sure to resign with relatives and friends, sacrifice ancestors and bid farewell to both parents;
(2) When returning from afar, you must meet your relatives and friends, and simply send some souvenirs from afar;
(3) Go to other places to know the local customs and customs, customs and taboos, do not violate;
(4) Do not drive a fast car when entering the downtown area, and drive slowly when entering the village.
(6) Celebratory hanging
Participate in auspicious ceremonies, do not talk about mourning, do not look at each other, do not cry. Don't smile at the funeral. There are funerals, not alley songs. If the emblem is buried, it will be removed at the end of the ceremony, and he will not be worn.
(1) Do not say unlucky words when participating in festive events, do not look ugly and do not cry;
(2) Attend a funeral without giggling or laughing
(3) There are funerals in the neighborhood and do not sing loudly nearby
(4) The badge accessories worn at the funeral, take off immediately after the funeral and do not wear them elsewhere
In addition to these preconceived rules, there are also some oral traditions:
1. Do not insert chopsticks in the middle of the bowl when eating
2. Write letters without red pen and do not use red pen signatures
3. Gifts for the holidays do not send clocks
4, there are guests, do not clean the home
5. Juniors cannot call the names of elders directly
6, can not use the finger of people, pointing to the statue of the god Buddha
These are the rules of folk convention. With the change of the progressive environment of the times, more and more new rules have emerged. Like what:
(1) Don't shake your legs on top of row seats! Shake your legs! Shake your legs!
(2) If you don't want to sing the song that K ordered yourself, even if you can, don't rush to sing it.
(3) On the subway, do not lean against the railing alone, please leave a place for other people's hands.
In China, it is possible not to be "exquisite", but it cannot be without rules. With the passage of time, young people in modern society understand "rules" less and less, and some people regard rules as outdated feudal bad habits.
Not really! Since ancient times, China has been a country of etiquette, and rules are the expression of the popularization of "etiquette". It contains the wisdom of orthodox Confucianism to "push oneself and others" and the humanistic care of "correcting oneself and transforming oneself".
Rules exist in the spread and die out in indifference. Old rules can be disobeyed, but they cannot be destroyed...