Wen 丨 the end of the small north
In this life, it seems that how to choose is wrong, how to do it will have regrets, after taking this road, suddenly feel that it would be better if you took another road.
No matter how you choose, it is difficult to satisfy your heart.
For example, if you work hard in a big city for a year and don't make money in the end, you may regret it, knowing that this is the result, it is better to stay at home.
For example, after staying at home for a while, you regret that you did not work hard, if you go out to work hard, life may not be like this.
Frankly speaking, we are busy making choices all our lives, and when the choices are different from what we expected, our hearts will be uncomfortable and we will not want to accept this result.
In fact, the choice is never right, the key depends on what kind of mentality you use to face, when your mentality is good, even if there is a real problem, you will not take it seriously, will immediately adjust the direction of positive face.
If your mentality is not good, you will find all kinds of excuses for yourself, no matter how you look for results, you will be unhappy.
This life is very short, you have to believe that everything is the best arrangement, no matter what the future holds, as long as you choose to believe that it is the best, only then will you be happy.
01: No matter how difficult the day is, please smile and face it
There are smooth sailings in this world, but that is only a minority, and most people will encounter some difficulties to a greater or lesser extent, and even lose the courage to live at a certain moment.
Don't be discouraged no matter how difficult the day is, there will always be miracles if you persist, I am afraid that you are not willing to insist, admit it prematurely, and become a weak person in front of life.
It's really hard to hold on to life, but it's easy to give up, and once you give up, it's hard to get back on your feet.
The landlord Lao Hu took such a video, which is quite touching:
The girl was eating a large bowl of noodles in the rental house, the old Hu knocked on the door, after the girl opened the door, the old Hu told her to move after 10 days, the house was going to be sold, the girl just wanted to say something, the old Hu tou did not return to the ground.
Next, every day or two Lao Hu came knocking on the door, and the girl almost collapsed.
On the 10th day, the buyer came, the girl had no choice but to move, and when she came out with her luggage, she was asked if she had found a house.
The girl smiled and said, "I haven't found it yet, I'll go to the company for a few days." ”
When the girl was just about to leave, she suddenly received a phone call, and the other party told the girl on the phone that the company laid off employees at the end of the year, so that she was not used to work, and at this moment the girl was discouraged.
Although the roof leaked in the overnight rain, the girl did not complain, but put the suitcase on the open ground, dancing to keep warm, this moment was looked at by Lao Hu.
While the girl was dancing, Lao Hu came over, and the girl just wanted to speak, and Lao Hu said:
, go home with your uncle.
The girl said:
"Uncle Hu, isn't your house for sale, and why are there any extra empty houses?"
Uncle Hu said:
"I think it's okay, I won't sell it for the time being, you can live first."
When the girl was happy to follow Lao Hu, she suddenly remembered that she had been resigned and had no financial resources in her hands, and Lao Hu saw her embarrassment and smiled:
"In the past two months, you help your uncle to do some work, and it will be rented."
The reason why Lao Hu is willing to help the girl is because he sees her optimism, even if she encounters great difficulties, she does not say a word and faces it in her own unique way.
If a person can laugh at life, then life can't do anything about him, even if he is tired and tired, he will live his own spirit and live his life as he wants.
02: Your choice is the most correct
At any time, don't complain about your choice, because there is no if in life, you can't go back, since you can't go back, then you have to live a good life in front of you, no matter whether the choice you made is right or wrong, as long as you choose it, you will stick to it.
When a person is always competing with his own choices, it is basically difficult to feel happiness, which friend Kun Kun has deeply experienced.
After graduating from university, Kun Kun chose to work hard in the big city, he originally thought that as long as he worked hard enough in the big city, he could get the life he wanted, but he did not expect that this would be the result.
He worked hard in the big city for 3 years, his life was particularly unhappy, and his friends around him were mixed well, only he was still the same.
At first, Kun Kun comforted himself, but then Kun Kun began to regret it, and he regretted choosing to stay in the big city.
When we talked about this topic, Kun Kun said:
"If I had chosen to leave the big city early, I might have realized my value by now, and I really don't understand what I thought in the first place."
When he said this, I didn't refute it, because I couldn't refute it, I just told him not to think too much, just smile and accept the life now, because there is no way to change except accept it.
Many people just can't understand that they are always particularly attached to things that cannot be changed, but this is useless, even if you are still clinging to it, it is not the same as it cannot be changed.
In this life, don't compete with yourself, since you can't change, then don't change, adjust your mentality, and try to accept that it is not a good thing.
At any time, you must know that happiness is not given by others, but what you strive for, and there is no need to think too much about living happily, as long as you believe that everything is the best arrangement.
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Su Xiaobei, a young writer and marriage counselor, has been engaged in psychological counseling for 13 years and has a wealth of experience to help you solve your questions. If you have a problem and don't know how to solve it, you can ask me a question and look forward to your consultation and message.