Analects 102: When Maxima can't meet Bole, how should he deal with himself?

#论语101: the path of self-design is the most determined, better than countless shortcuts #

Yesterday we talked about serving the government with virtue, but it is not easy to do it? Through yesterday's study, I know that it is extremely difficult to do, and it is difficult to do it or not? Of course, we have to work hard, and now we can't do it to show that there are more things that need to be learned and room for improvement.

Everything does not come casually, it needs a process, and Confucius tells the process of his own life of study. Zi Yue: "I have five out of ten and am determined to learn, thirty and standing, forty and not confused, fifty and knowing the destiny of heaven, sixty and obedient, seventy and do what the heart desires, not exceeding the rules."

Confucius said: "At the age of fifteen I made up my mind to study learning, at the age of thirty I firmly believed that my ideas would no longer waver, at the age of forty I no longer felt confused about the affairs of the world, at the age of fifty I knew how to look at the world with objective laws, at the age of sixty I could accept all positive and negative remarks, and at the age of seventy I could do whatever I wanted within the limits of law and morality." This is the different stages of Confucius's life to do learning, but also revealed the necessary stage of study, perhaps there are differences in age and time, but the difficulties encountered and the problems that need to be solved must be the same, which is the objective law of study, is the path of a person's spiritual growth.

Fifteen years old ambition. A person from birth to continue to recognize the world, pre-adolescence cognition is a simple copy, to see and hear as the original face of the world, simple and pure, life carefree, just like living in fairy tales, see the vast majority of what is true, good and beautiful everything; and at this stage, if you encounter too many false evil and ugly, it will form a lifelong difficult to open knot, and the behavior pattern of psychological problems after adulthood will be deeply affected. Therefore, the study of life before adolescence must not be the real objective world, but the background of the picture of life, in order to find a way to solve the separation anxiety and solve the insecurity after separation from the mother.

From the weak to the strong stage, there will be some dependence, this dependence must be as valuable as a life-saving straw and can not distinguish between good and bad. Relying on good people, encountering good things, there will be a good starting point; relying on bad people, encountering all evil deeds, the starting point of life is not much better. Therefore, the educational environment before puberty is the most important, family, neighbors, friends, teachers, classmates, cities...

Because there is no idea of one's own, or one's own thoughts are like impermanent water, in what shape of the vessel is what kind of shape, the adaptability is very strong. Because this is the law of survival, only by adapting quickly can we settle down and live. Everything is impermanent, completely unstable, waiting for a real opportunity to take shape.

Children at this stage can be shaped, like freshly reconciled mud embryos, soft and soft, can be transformed into any desired shape, no matter how harsh and high-pressure the environment is, they can still adapt quickly. Sometimes, we adults can't resist the pressure and intensity, but it is not a problem for children, so the high pressure on learning is mostly the inferiority of adults.

Adults can't do it, but children can do it, and there are too many such things, aren't they? Believe it or not, you put your foot on the back of your head now, I can't do it, you have a hard time doing it, and my two sons, one one more than one year old and one three years old, do this easily. Such a flexible body is the self-protection of life itself to avoid harm, because the judgment and action are not as good as adults, so once it encounters a strong external impact, the flexible body is the best buffer and maneuver, and it will not be hurt. And in old age, in the year of withering, it seems that the whole body has become a hay that has lost its moisture, and it cannot withstand a little bump.

Life before adolescence is a life of uncertainty, drifting with the tide, with the encounter, it can be said that the mind is completely free; the action depends on the leadership of adults, can not go wherever you want, this is also the uncomfortable stage, that is, this uncomfortable choice, determines what children see and hear.

Therefore, the child's education must carefully choose where to go, contact with people, see, hear, feel, to adolescence, after more than ten years of observation and absorption of the outside world, physiologically gradually mature and perfect, began to have the idea of independence and self-reliance, no longer want to listen to adults at the mercy of adults, do not want to become the small tail of adults, began to plan boundaries for their own world, want an independent space, let themselves plan, want an independent spiritual space, only hold their own small secrets to see, They also have their own life examples, want to go out of their own life path, do not care about the difficulty of this road, and are not afraid of all the difficulties that may be encountered on the way forward, because in their eyes, starting is more important than anything, and the newborn calf is not afraid of the tiger, it is ignorance that is fearless.

And that's exactly the most precious beginning, isn't it? When we grow up, we gradually lose this courage, trapped in the self mode and dare not take a step forward, cup bow snake shadow, once bitten by snakes for ten years afraid of well rope.

Therefore, Confucius said that when he was fifteen years old, he aspired to learn, that is, he began to have self-awareness in adolescence, determined to take the road of learning and teaching all his life, that is, to become a teacher, did not think that this was a lifetime, and became a saint. What subjects should you be a teacher? It is the life teacher, this is the ambition of Confucius, not the math teacher, not the physical education teacher who bends the bow and archery, is the study of life university questions, for the saint to continue to learn the life mentor.

Once determined, this lofty ambition became the clear direction of Confucius's life, like a lighthouse, guiding the sometimes lost ships back to port.

Early aspirations may not be able to do or not be done, but long-term aspirations must be achieved, that is, to have a lofty ideal, to guide the progress of this life, the age of determination of contemporary people, how late. Some people graduate from college, even in their thirties, and they don't have a clear career in life, so they go with the flow, just like children before puberty. This is the manifestation of the immaturity of the mind and spirit, and the growth of the mind cannot keep up with the growth of the body.

Some people say that modern people are too hurried, and the pace is so fast that the soul cannot keep up. In fact, in my opinion, the situation is just the opposite, because of the loss of their own direction, the result of the clouds at the mercy of others. Confucius said that he was interested in learning at the age of fifteen, so he knew the trade-offs, knew that he would devote his limited life to the ideal cause of unlimited study and teaching, and would not be moved by all other temptations, so he would not be like duckweed.

When did you have ambitions in life? And what is it? What are your thoughts and impressions on the fifteen-year-old ambition? Interactive statements are welcome.