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Feelings are a matter of two people. But love or not love is a matter for one person. Because whether you love a person or not, and whether the other person loves you or not, are completely different things.
Many times, when people feel that they do not love, they cannot say break up because they care about too many things. For example, some people will think about each other's past good, and then can't bear to say break up; some people will not be able to say break up because of the relationship between children or property.
These reasons are all there, and they are also the result of causing a cold relationship and then dragging mud and water.
In fact, feelings that have ceased to love, forced to maintain is also a pain. People live in this kind of pain and cannot obtain a happy sense of happiness.
In just a few decades of life, you always have to live the life you want to live. If this suffering is self-inflicted, it is up to you to solve it.
Therefore, in a relationship, if you are sure that you do not love, you must learn to be "fierce".
Fierce heart, not to quarrel and make trouble, nor to simply accuse the other party of not, but to decisively give up or cut off this relationship.
Of course, if there is still room for this relationship to be saved, and there is still a place for you to stay nostalgic, then try to start over. But if you are really sure that you can't continue, don't delay any longer, because the longer you drag on, the more damage it will be. It's not good for both the spouse and the self.
We have a saying that "long pain is not as good as short pain". How is it all pain, so why not cut through the mess quickly and give each other a painful pain?
Or, you'll say: You speak lightly, you speak easily, but have you experienced it? Did you know it's hard to do?
Yes, I know. But I know even more that in a painful relationship, it will drain the hearts, emotions, and even hope and confidence in life of two people.
People who live in a painful or depressed life for a long time can easily cause psychological problems. This is because, without love, life cannot be harmonious and relaxed. In the process of living together, there will be contradictions of one kind or another.
When the contradictions become deeper and deeper, the pressure of people's spirit will become heavier and heavier, and eventually it may cause two layers of spiritual and psychological pressure. Under the pressure, how can people be happy? Without happiness, people's lives cannot be relaxed, and in the process of getting along, they are more likely to quarrel and quarrel.
The days when chickens fly and dogs jump are not what everyone hopes. But in fact, when a relationship is on its way to breaking, such days happen often.
Sometimes, people want to break up, but they have to live in such pain all the time, and it is because people's determination cannot be ruthless, which will cause the continuation of this pain.
When you really feel that the relationship is no longer loving and can no longer be maintained, be that cruel person, or both can be liberated.
Some people say: I don't want to be that person, once I make that decision, I will become Chen Shimei.
Actually, that's not what it says. The reason why Chen Shimei made people scold was because after he abandoned his wife and children, he also let people go after them, which was the real reason why he was finally beheaded. But such a plot, after all, is also made up by people, and the real Chen Shimei in history is not such a thin person.
However, the world still characterized "Chen Shimei", as long as it is this name, it is the representative of the negative heart. This is also understandable, after all, people always hope to be harmonious and happy about feelings, and from one end to the other. This is the original intention of people, it is beautiful, although not everyone can do it.
However, when the relationship has been broken, taking the initiative to end this painful relationship is a completely different nature from Chen Shimei.
Modern people have been able to see the feelings more openly, and they will also judge the right and wrong of the two people in the feelings. In fact, love itself is not wrong, what is wrong is people's attitude towards feelings.
However, the person who is cruel in the relationship cannot be said to be wrong. Many times, people live for themselves. If in a relationship, you are unhappy and unhappy, what is the use of being together?
Therefore, sometimes your fierce heart not only saves yourself, but also saves the other party. It's just that sometimes the other person can't understand it.
But in the end, it is better to be in pain than to be in pain. Life is short, why let yourself have too many obsessions? You say yes?