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Socrates famously said, "Know thyself." ”
Whether it is to understand in the literal sense or to interpret these five words from a deeper perspective, what he wants to express is nothing more than: a person, whether he is a person or a person, must first do a good job of himself, and do a good job of his premise, of course, must have an objective understanding of himself, so that he can better recognize people, distinguish things, and then, can he walk on the road of a masterful life with his head held high, happy and frank.
There is also a golden jade saying, called: Near Zhu is red, close to ink is black. Therefore, if you want to go to the height of happiness, you must learn to turn to good and avoid evil after fully understanding yourself.
It is easy to recognize a person's goodness, and good people are generous in speech and behavior, and they are frank and honest in their work. However, the difficulty lies in how to screen out those low-level interesting people around them who are falsely good and true evil, and avoid them, so as not to be infected by bad habits in long-term contact and interaction, and when the time comes, it will be difficult to completely "wipe clean" again.
Kai-Fu Lee said: "A person with imperfect character cannot become a person who really makes a difference. "If we want to make our lives wonderful and beautiful, and want to become the one who makes a difference, then, in addition to having good character, we must also learn to see people and stay away from low-level interesting people with these 3 characteristics."
The first trait: no self-knowledge
"Xunzi. "Glory and Disgrace" has clouds: those who know themselves do not complain about others, those who know their destiny do not complain about heaven, those who complain about others are poor, and those who complain about heaven have no ambition; those who lose themselves, those who oppose them, are not pedantic!
The meaning is roughly to say: The self-aware person never complains about others, and the person who controls his own destiny never complains; the person who complains about others is poor and unambitious, and the person who complains about heaven will not aspire to make progress. Obviously it is their own fault but in turn to blame others, is this not a mistake added to the mistake, the rebellion of the people?
Around our lives, relatives and friends, classmates and colleagues, it is inevitable to encounter the kind of people who are obviously insufficient in ability, but brag that they are omnipotent, and regardless of whether the person in front of them is a "true Buddha", they dare to blow up their fat and fat, and they will not hesitate to crush others through bottomlessness to raise their "value".
The most obvious disadvantage of such a person is that he has not found his own life position, and he is not clear about how many pounds he has. Behind this blind optimism and inexplicable self-confidence, there is often a selfish heart.
Such a person, just do things with self-centeredness, I am bored or want to ask you for help, I can always find you, you have to respond to me in time, to achieve my wishes. However, if you want to find me to do something, I'm sorry, it depends on my mood to decide whether to reply to your message or which day to return.
Before doing this, I never thought about a question: Why should others help you? Does your confidence come from good connections or is the interest exchange?
People who are not self-aware often lose most of the time at the starting line of life. With such a person, you have nothing but depression. So, staying away early is the best policy.
The second trait: I like to "set" your words in a roundabout way
"Speak out and be a true gentleman, and set up a set of please jun is a villain." There is a kind of person who never says it directly, likes to go around most of the "earth" first, and then pretends to unintentionally take the news or answer that he has always wanted to know from your mouth.
At the beginning, kind people often do not realize that they are falling into the "set" that the other party has set up step by step, and only when they are reviewed later do they suddenly realize, but often things are irreparable, and they can only silently blame themselves for being "silly and cute" and too credulous to others.
Therefore, on ordinary days, we must be cautious about people who suddenly turn sharply when chatting, it seems that they are thinking of something, in fact, that is the real intention of people chatting with you, and those innocuous things before are all paving the way for this later turn.
If you meet such a person, or try not to make deep friends, this kind of bending too many people, you are not the "opponent" of others at all, if you do not prevent it in time, it is easy to fall into the "pocket array" that people have already laid out.
The third trait: the anger is too heavy, and the negative energy is at the top
We all know that positive energy is a motor that promotes a person's self-motivation and hard work, and interacting with people with positive energy and getting along will have a comfortable experience like a spring light. On the contrary, with people who are too heavy and overloaded with negative energy, it feels like even the air is turbid.
People who are overwhelmed by negative energy are often very angry, but they themselves do not admit this. Such a person, often a little inconspicuous small thing can cause him to break the mouth, in such a person's heart, in the eyes of basically there is no good person, to see who is a shortcoming.
They are easily provoked, and even a joke from someone else can poke him in the sore spot and hurt his little heart that hurts when it is touched. You have no intention of "offending" him, he will remember you for the rest of your life. However, he deliberately ruined you, and the kung fu of turning his face was completely forgotten.
Such a person often complains about society and slanders others as his "duty", and also praises his name, and his malicious slander is straightforward.
A shady person with a bad heart, but a malicious but courageous person at any time will only make people feel hopeless about life and life, and even have a feeling of sadness and suffocation. At the same time, such a person is also uncultivated and has no moral bottom line, in addition to the ultimate selfishness and not seeing others' good, it is basically difficult to find other advantages from him, so as soon as possible, "respect and stay away". If you are a gentleman who is good with others, don't walk with the villains who are evil to others.
Whether in the workplace or in life, if you accidentally encounter the low-level interesting people of the 3 traits mentioned above, please quickly copy the nearest "fork in the road" and part ways with it, because character is the ladder of life, we want to go to the high place of happiness, we have to go hand in hand with the same people in the good character, so that we can realize the greater value of our lives and achieve better achievements.