I have three very older relatives. From 82 to 93 years old. I looked at them and drew conclusions for my future.
I'm a grandmother because I have grandchildren. But a lot of people have grandchildren. When children were young, young parents relied on their grandmothers — sitting down, walking, and letting their mothers go to work. But when do grandchildren grow up? Who will the grandmother become?
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It's one thing when people come to you out of a sense of responsibility and responsibility, and it's another when they want to come to you.
I take care of my family and study. You don't need to be old.
I hope that the madness of 20 years from now will not erase these conclusions from my mind.
My first conclusion
Does age give you the right to criticize and teach? I'm 80 years old, and that doesn't mean I can educate others. Right?
At 80, I will have to communicate with another generation in another reality of life. What will I know about her? Probably nothing.
I wouldn't give advice. I don't tell moral stories. I want to nip the "Inner Master" in the bud.
I will listen. Sympathetic, shaking his head, I could ask if circumstances permitted. If my question causes a negative reaction, then I won't ask. "I'm sorry honey!" And kiss the top of my head.
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My second conclusion is
I don't complain and grumble.
Yes, by the time I'm 80, I can get a lot of diseases. Obviously, it's going to be hard, hard, lonely for me. Yes, I don't like the sun that is too bright. I wouldn't like the new rules of life. Cheats, gadgets, books, and movies. I also don't think I'd like actresses.
I will have to choose my words very carefully to give my assessment. "A very interesting movie. I find the role of a girl like this strange. ”
"I didn't get enough sleep because the neighbours ate late. But it doesn't matter, I can sleep during the day. ”
"The poor dog behind the wall. Barking and howling. She felt sorry for the host. ”
I understand that this is difficult. But if I'm going to incite negativity like modern television, who wants to communicate with me?
My third conclusion is
I'm not going to get angry. I would try to be genuinely happy, even if they only watched me for 5 minutes. Even if they agree to wash the floor for 2 hours.
I'll get Emil Krotkiy's book "Gabrovo Anecdotes" or "Aphorisms." If memory allows, then I will try to insert them into place instead of my grievances.
Young people will live their own very stressful lives. I need to adapt to it and adapt to their schedule instead of waiting for too much care. They love me and give me as much attention as possible in their lives.
My fourth conclusion is
I had to think about my independence system before I turned 80.
I don't think there's a shame in knowing social protection centers. How to call an upcoming assistant.
I understand that a period of helplessness is coming. And I'll think about it ahead of time.
I now have to learn how to use WhatsApp. As long as your brain and vision allow, you need to learn how to pay rent online, write messages on the official websites of various services - gas, housing and public services, mail.
My fifth conclusion is
My property. This is probably the most difficult. But very important.
I need to do that to keep justice and decency. And the most important thing is not to sow hatred among heirs.
Sometimes I think it's good for someone who has a child who lives with an older relative and "takes care" of him. And if there are no children, how many nephews will participate little by little? Or have two or three kids, but they live far away.
I think this should be done ahead of time, discussed openly, and formally completed. Most importantly, don't blame or blackmail.
I remember a neighbor who, from the age of 65, kept saying to his family, "If I die, you'll bite me because of my apartment." And he lived to be 92 years old. And all the kids already have apartments...
That was what I thought when I was 60 years old. Will God allow me to keep my head clear until my days are over?
Lord, don't turn me into an evil old woman who hates the whole world!