In the TV series "Know It or Not", Sheng Minglan and Qi Heng, who gave people the feeling of a talented woman at the beginning, finally fell in love with each other and could not stay together. Many people in the Sheng Mansion saw that Qi Heng liked Minglan, but Minglan did not dare to respond to Qi Heng's feelings. In addition to her own deep understanding of the mismatch between the two identities, the opinion of her most important relatives and grandmothers is also very important. When the old grandmother analyzed the situation for Minglan, she used the phrase "Qi Da Fei Even" to describe two people whose identities were too different to be married. So where did the idiom allusion of "Qi Da Fei Even" come from in the first place?
In fact, this idiom allusion comes from the prince of Zheng Zhuanggong, the first small overlord of the Spring and Autumn Period. It is said that the three generations of Zheng Huangong, Zheng Wugong, and Zheng Zhuanggong's ancestors and grandsons made Zheng Guo the first to rise to become a small hegemon in the Spring and Autumn Period. As the saying goes, "poor is not more than three generations, rich is not more than three generations" - Zheng Guo has produced three generations of outstanding monarchs in a row, so what kind of person will the next fourth generation of monarchs be? Zhengzhuang duke had five sons: Gongzi Ku, Gongzi Tu, Gongzi Yu, Gongzi Qi, and Gongzi Bao. Gongzi Kuo, as the eldest son of a concubine, was made crown prince by Zheng Zhuang very early.
In fact, judging from the character and talent of Gongzi Kuo, it seems that Zheng Guo is still very hopeful that a fourth generation of outstanding monarchs will appear. Gongzi Kuo served as a hostage in the Zhou royal family in his early years, and soon after returning to China, he showed outstanding political and military talents. Gongzi Ku, who was quite distinguished in character and ability, was not only deeply respected in zhengguo, but also famous and admired by his neighbors for a long time. Duke Huan of Chen married his daughter Concubine To him out of admiration for Gongzi Kuo. Originally, according to the etiquette system at that time, the man should propose to the woman, but when the prince suddenly came here, the neighboring countries were scrambling to marry their daughters to him.
At that time, Chen Guo was afraid that Zheng Guo would refuse in view of the fierce competition reality, so he specially asked Zhou Tianzi to act as a matchmaker before marrying his daughter to Gongzi Kuo. Although Gongzi Ku and Concubine were politically married by the parents of both sides, their married life was quite harmonious. In 706 BC, the State of Qi appealed to the State of Zheng for help after being attacked by Northern Rong. Zheng Zhuanggong then asked the crown prince to lead troops to rescue the State of Qi. The crown prince showed outstanding military talent in this battle: he not only successfully repelled the advance of Beijong, but also captured two of Beijong's main generals.
After the Northern Rong army retreated, Duke Qi personally thanked the crown prince in person. Duke Qi had long heard of prince Ku's name, and now that he had seen him with his own eyes, he felt that this person's temperament was quite extraordinary. Therefore, Duke Qi offered to marry his daughter Wen Jiang to Crown Prince Kuo. It is said that it is rare for a woman to rush to take the initiative to propose to the man, but it is not unusual for this kind of thing to happen to the prince. Of course, Duke Qi knew that the prince had suddenly become a relative, so was the daughter of Duke Qi a wife or a concubine when she married? Qi Gong did not give a clear statement on this.
However, the reality at that time was that the State of Qi was obviously stronger than the original wife of Prince Kuo, the mother-in-law of the Concubine Clan, Chen Guo. In fact, to some extent, the State of Qi is even more powerful than the State of Zheng. Although the State of Qi performed poorly in this war with Beijong, the territory, population, troop strength, and grain production of the State of Qi far exceeded that of the State of Zheng. Obviously, the daughter of the monarch of the State of Qi will not be willing to make a small for others when she marries. The Duke of Qi praised the beauty of his daughter Wen Jiang in front of the crown prince. In fact, this is not the Duke of Qi selling melons to himself in the princess--Wen Jiang's beauty was recognized by the world at that time.
"Shijing Guofeng, Zheng Feng, and Female Car" describes Wen Jiang's beauty: there is a lesbian car, Yan Rushunhua. Will soar, Pei Yu Qiongju. Pi Mei Meng Jiang, Xun Mei and Du. There are female companions, Yan Rushunying. Will soar, Peiyu will. Pi Mei Meng Jiang, De Yin did not forget. The poem translated into modern vernacular is to the effect that the girl and I are riding in the same car, and her face is like a flower. The body is light like a bird, and the precious jade shines. She is a beautiful ginger girl with elegant and generous manners. The girl and I walked together, and her face was like a hibiscus flower. The body is light like a bird, and the jade is pleasant to the ear. Beautiful girl her surname is Jiang, and her good reputation is unforgettable.
In fact, this poem is somewhat exaggerated: Wen Jiang's beauty is indeed recognized by the world, but her reputation is not as good as the poem says. Wen Jiang, together with Xi Shi, Xi Concubine, and Xia Ji, was later known as the four beauties of the Spring and Autumn Period, but more famous than Wen Jiang's beauty was her affair. In the early years, Wen Jiang not only had an extremely chaotic private life, but what was even more terrifying was that he actually had an affair with his brother Zhu'er. The adultery between Wen Jiang and his brother Zhu'er has long been clearly recorded in the historical records, but at that time, this was actually a secret within the court of the State of Qi.
There were no newspapers, no televisions, no Internet, no cell phones. It would take a long time for Wen Jiang and his brother to have an affair to spread from the State of Qi to the State of Zheng. Besides, if the person concerned is a child of the monarch, then who dares not to spread such a thing? In addition, Wen Jiang married duke Huan of Lu after being rejected by Zheng Guo's crown prince. Even if Duke Lu Huan had heard about Wen Jiang's affair before marriage, he must not have taken it seriously, otherwise he would not have been able to marry Wen Jiang. Even the State of Lu, who was closer to the State of Qi, did not dare to be sure of Wen Jiang's affair before marriage, so it was even more impossible for Prince Ku, who was far away in the State of Zheng, to know these things.
Although Prince Kuo was unaware of Wen Jiang's chaotic private life before marriage, he still refused the marriage without hesitation. The allusion to the idiom "Qi Da Fei" comes from the prince's rejection of Qi Gong's remarks. At that time, the prince suddenly said to the prince: "Everyone has a puppet." Qi Da, non-even also". Prince Ku is actually euphemistically explaining his mate selection criteria: Qi is strong and Zheng is weak, so this marriage is not right. Climbing the tall branches does not meet their own criteria for choosing a mate. The uninteresting Duke of Qi had no choice but to give up, but he did not expect that the chancellor of the State of Qi, who had come with the crown prince, thought that the prince had done something improper.
Matsuri once persuaded the crown prince: "Your father has many concubines and many sons." Everyone coveted the throne of the country. It's hard to inherit the throne without strong foreign aid. Even if you inherit the throne, it is difficult to stabilize. You must marry the daughter of Duke Qi. With the support of a big country like the State of Qi, then your position as monarch is guaranteed." The ancients had three wives and four concubines, which was a common thing, but why did Gongzi Suddenly refuse such a powerful foreign aid as the State of Qi? First of all, we can be sure that Gongzi Should not have refused because he knew about Wen Jiang's affair.
Duke Huan of Lu did not hesitate to marry Wen Jiang in the face of the same situation. It can be seen that Wen Jiang's affair was not known to everyone in the world at least at that time. If Gongzi suddenly did not know about Wen Jiang's affair, then why did he refuse this marriage? Leaving aside the fact that Wen Jiang was a recognized beauty in the world at that time, just making foreign aid such as Qi Guo through this marriage was enough political capital to impress many people. First of all, as mentioned above, Wen Jiang would not be willing to be small if he married, so how would Gongzi Kuo's original wife, Concubine Shi, be placed?
Gongzi Ku was not willing to be aggrieved by this, and he was also worried that after Wen Jiang married, he would cause a storm in Zheng Guo's harem. After Gongzi's return to China, his father Zheng Zhuanggong once asked him why he refused to marry the State of Qi. Gongzi replied suddenly, "The State of Qi is a big country. The princesses of the State of Qi will not be willing to be subordinate to others when they marry. Princess Qi guo would first ask to be the lady of the main chamber, and then she would ask her son to be made crown prince. If Zheng Guo did not comply, he would rely on the influence of his mother's family to interfere in Zheng's internal affairs. It is not to marry a wife, but to marry a living ancestor back."
Then Gongzi Suddenly further elaborated: "I hope to rely on my own strength to protect Zheng Guo. Marrying a princess of a big country can obtain foreign aid, but it will also open the door for a big country to intervene in our internal affairs." From Gongzi Kuo's expression, it can be seen that he actually has a fairly strong sense of independent personality. Gongzi neglects to find foreign patrons for himself, because once he needs to rely on others, it means being subject to others. If marrying a princess of the State of Qi means that he can get powerful foreign aid, but at the same time he needs to make sacrifices in both love and politics.
Since the Princess of Qi would not be willing to be small, she would have to depose the right wife of the Concubine Clan. At the same time, the marriage of a princess of a big country into the State of Zheng meant that the State of Qi could easily intervene in the internal affairs of the State of Zheng: first of all, after the Princess of the State of Qi married, she was going to be the lady of the main chamber, and in the future, after the crown prince suddenly succeeded to the throne, she would be the wife of the monarch. At that time, the monarch's wife, as the lord of the six houses, can interfere in all harem affairs, including the succession to the throne. If the monarch's wife cooperated closely with her mother's family, then in addition to interfering in the affairs of the harem, she could also interfere in Zheng Guo's internal and foreign affairs.
Gongzi, who had a fairly strong sense of independent personality, could not accept such an unequal marriage, so he refused the marriage without hesitation. Gongzi accidentally used this method to preserve his love, and also used this to prevent the possibility of the State of Qi interfering in Zheng's internal affairs. So is gongzi's choice right? It depends on which way you measure it. Gongzi suddenly showed his independent personality consciousness in this matter, but it was also this incident that ultimately indirectly caused his later tragic fate. Gongzi's refusal to marry the State of Qi actually offended two people.
One was the Qi Gong whose proposal was rejected, and the other was the sacrifice whose proposal was not adopted. After the death of Duke Zheng Zhuang, crown prince Kuo succeeded to the throne (for Zheng Zhaogong), but his second brother And Second Brother Gongzi Tu launched a coup d'état with the support of the State of Song. At this time, The priest also jumped out and joined forces with Gongzi Tuli to drive Zheng Zhaogong away. At this time, Zheng Zhaogong found that it was difficult for him to sit firmly on the throne without a strong reprieve. Zheng Zhaogong fled to his father-in-law's Chen Guo, but Chen Guo did not dare to take him in, so he had to flee to Wei Guo again. Gongzi Tu seized the throne with the support of Ji Zhong and the State of Song (for Zheng Ligong).
In 697 BC, Zheng Ligong was defeated in a power struggle with Ji Zhong and forced to flee. At this time, The Priest zhong once again welcomed Zheng Zhaogong back to the throne, but only two years later Zheng Zhaogong was assassinated by the chancellor Gao Qumi. Since then, Zheng Guo, who has been in a slump, no longer has a sense of existence in the Zheng Zhuanggong era. According to the "Preface to Mao's Poems", the prince suddenly tried to make a contribution to Qi, and the Marquis of Qi asked for a wife; the daughter of Qi did not marry, and the pawn did not have the help of a big country, and as for the expulsion, the people of the country stabbed him. This record says that Zheng Guoren once wrote a poem satirizing Gongzi Kuo: You don't marry such a good daughter of the State of Qi, and you also say what "Qi Da is not even". The result? Expelled, right?
In this way, it seems that Zheng Zhaogong was wrong not to marry Wen Jiang, but the Zheng people at that time did not actually know the true situation of Wen Jiang. If Zheng Zhaogong had married Wen Jiang that year, it might not have had any good results. In the second year after Zheng Zhaogong's death, Wen Jiang's husband Lu Huangong was killed by Peng Sheng, the Duke of Qi, after discovering the fact that Wen Jiang had committed adultery with his brother Zhu'er. It is unclear whether Zheng Zhaogong's choice at that time was correct. However, the idiom "Qi Da Fei Even" has been passed down since then. This idiom has a synonym "door high non-even" which means that the door is not right.