Who has not had a confused youth, who has not had an anxious middle age?
There are parents on the top who need to be cared for, and there are children on the bottom who need to be raised.
It's getting harder and harder to make money, and there are more and more places to spend it.
Doing the heaviest work, adding the latest shift, when I woke up, the pressure was still like a tsunami.
Some netizens have asked: How can I live this life well?
There is an answer: when people reach middle age, please live a cost-effective life.
Studies have shown that 80% of the items around us are not used, and only 20% are commonly used.
Always thinking that one day I will use it, always feeling sorry to lose it, we are fighting with items for space.
Hoarding more and more things distracts everyone's attention and consumes our energy.
Many times, the inner pressure and the pressure of the outer space will form a huge sense of oppression.
This makes us lose our temper for no reason, forcing people to want to flee.
Sister Wang wants to take the title of the unit, but there is endless work during the day and endless housework at night, and Sister Wang is anxious.
Simply, she threw the children and housework to her husband, and temporarily rented a house and moved out.
The new home had only a wardrobe, a table and a bed, and a few necessities of life.
No need to worry about matching clothes, but the time to read books is there;
It doesn't take long to clean up the room, but there is more time for freedom;
What you need is easy to find, and the mood is not nervous, and it is better.
Sister Wang fell in love with this minimalist life.
When she got home, she completely turned the house upside down.
Clothes, shoes and socks that you don't wear, things you don't need, notebooks, storage bags that have been hoarded for a long time, expired skin care products...
Throw throw, give people away.
The closet is idle, and the heart is open; the debris is less, and the people are relaxed.
Looking at the clean and neat home, Sister Wang is like a reborn, radiant.
Someone said: "Many things that are thrown away are like unloading the burden on the body and being comfortable." ”
The room is not filled with extra objects, making it difficult for us to turn around.
You might as well take a break, get rid of useless things, and clear your inner distractions.
In the short years of life, let yourself take a break from trivial housework, raise fish, plant flowers, walk, make friends...
Leave fewer things in exchange for more enjoyment.
There is a saying: "There are many flower buds, if they do not bloom, you must cut off some and let it focus on opening a flower." ”
"The same is true of people, they must give up some in order to let their only things bloom with enthusiasm."
That's true.
It is better to dig more pits than to dig deep wells.
The hadron was the brightest of our friends, he could always smell the business opportunity, but each time he didn't last long and ended up hastily.
He has sold clothing and restaurants; he has sold home textiles and done home improvement; he has run logistics and transportation.
Today, when people reach middle age, they are still floating like duckweed.
Did not make much money, did not lose much money, upside down, the youth of more than ten years toss away, but did not leave any family business.
Another friend, Wang Tao, is the opposite of Hadron.
In the beginning, Wang Tao worked for an advertising agency.
Born halfway through, he followed his master to install layouts and door numbers during the day, and studied hard at night.
Wang Tao can endure hardships, and is willing to learn, and after a long time, he has mastered a series of processes and technologies of advertising, and has become an expert in the industry.
Today, the apprentice has become the owner of an advertising agency.
Wang Tao said: "I have been in this industry for a long time, from strangers to customers, from customers to friends, everyone has word of mouth, and many businesses have naturally come to the door." ”
Many times, we always want to have too much, but we can't grasp anything; we always want to be in a hurry, but we are always in anxiety.
Instead of finding a way everywhere and repeatedly hitting a wall, it is better to follow a familiar path;
Instead of looking for directions everywhere, but only to stop, it is better to go to the end in the direction in front of you.
Fabre also said, "Focus your energy on one focus, like a lens." ”
Focus on a goal, deeply cultivate a field.
What is accumulated bit by bit is professionalism, and what has been precipitated over time is networking.
That's the power of concentration, that's the beauty of perseverance.
In this way, we can exchange less time for greater achievements.
"The people in the city, seemingly glamorous, are actually hidden loopholes.
The high-level friends are full of people, and the guests are like clouds, but there may not be two or three people who can really talk with their hearts. ”
When I was young, the nod friends I had just met asked for contact information and added WeChat friends.
I thought it was about making friends and making connections.
A few years passed, turning over the phone contacts, many names became strange and could no longer be remembered.
When people reach middle age, although they know many people, they can only contact those few; there are many friends they have accumulated, and only one or two can make friends.
Friends are not many, but fine, sincere.
Netizen @Shell has shared his story.
Before leaving, she was a department manager of a company, knew many people, and had a wide vision.
There are acquaintances everywhere you go, and there is always someone to help you with something.
Later, because the pressure of work was too great and she had a tendency to be depressed, she submitted her resignation to the company.
After returning home, she actively treated and paid attention to the changes in the market, thinking that one day she would be able to return to the workplace.
But what was heartbreaking was that she called a friend she knew at work, and the other party either said that she was not available or said a few polite words, and hung up the phone in a hurry.
She clearly felt the indifference and falsehood of the other party...
During those dark days, she was accompanied by two friends who grew up together.
And she reminisced about her childhood stories, comforted her, encouraged her, and accompanied her out of the haze.
A departure made her see a lot, and an illness also made her sober a lot.
Friends are people you forget when you are busy, but think of them when you are lonely;
It is the person who hides in the distance to bless you when you are brilliant, but reach out to help you when you need it.
Hundreds of phone numbers in mobile phones, thousands of friends added to WeChat, just know, not all friends.
Instead of spending time making connections, it's better to think about old friends from time to time;
Instead of forcing yourself into an uncomfortable circle, it is better to chat with three or two confidants and be comfortable.
Because even if you don't say anything, he understands everything.
Friends are like big waves, and the sincere will stay at the end.
When people reach middle age, they fade their yearning for luxurious life, and only then do they understand that it is just the burden of life;
Half a life has passed, and after seeing through the pursuit of fame and vanity, I know that plain and simple is more real and permanent.
In life, discarding useless objects, the urge to shop, the habit of staying up late, the circle of wanting to escape, the person who has not been in touch for a long time...
Career, there is no easy way to go, if there is, focus is the shortcut.
Socially, don't waste too much time pushing cups and changing cups, staggering chips, and leaving some time for family and friends.
At the end of the article, light up [watching], may your and my life be like a filter, filtering out the noise around you, and restoring the original beauty of life.
Author | Jin Yang
Image | Visual China