In 1984, when Zhang Di married Feng Xiaogang,
Feng Xiaogang is still a poor boy, there is no stable job,
A family can only squeeze into a rental house of about 40 square meters.
Zhang Di runs the housework at home and serves her mother-in-law without complaint.
However, some couples can only share hardships and hardships, but they cannot be rich and noble together.
Zhang Di accompanied Feng Xiaogang through the trough of life,
But the woman who accompanied him to the top was replaced by Xu Fan.
Feng Xiaogang said, "The most important thing is me, I just like the new and the old!" I have wronged my ex-wife, but Xu Fan is also wronged. ”
In 1999, Feng Xiaogang divorced Zhang Di before heeling,
The back foot could not wait to welcome Xu Fan into the door.
Zhang Di has rarely appeared in the love and hatred of the three people,
If you don't accept an interview with reporters, you won't say bad things about Feng Xiaogang and Xu Fan.
Feng Xiaogang once said, "I have a lifetime of guilt for my ex-wife, and the kinder she is, the more guiltY I feel inside." ”
After the divorce, Zhang Di raised her daughter alone and never remarried.
Now that 22 years have passed, how is Zhang Di living?
Why didn't she want to remarry and insist on raising her daughter alone?
01
When they first met, Zhang Di's conditions were just too much compared to Feng Xiao's.
Zhang Di was born in an ordinary family,
After graduation, I became a nurse at a hospital in Beijing.
She has beautiful features, a tall figure, and a good personality.
Popular everywhere you go.
Feng Xiaogang is different,
When he was a child, his parents divorced,
Feng Xiaogang's mother alone pulled their sister and brother up.
In my memory, the leftovers brought back by my mother were made of hot water, which was a supreme delicacy.
What Feng Xiaogang experienced since he was a child is the cold and warm of human feelings.
The appearance is also unsatisfactory, and the jagged teeth are particularly eye-catching.
When the two met, Feng Xiaogang was just a small artist,
In the crew, it was called to come and go.
Once, when Zhang Di came to visit relatives in the crew, she was seen by Feng Xiaogang.
Feng Xiaogang's heart printed Zhang Di's figure.
The gap between the two people's family identities is very large,
Zhang Di has a stable job and a beautiful appearance, and it is too easy to marry a man with the same family background.
Wanting to capture Zhang Di's heart, Feng Xiaogang really took a lot of effort.
Fortunately, talent is always more convincing than looks.
Feng Xiaogang relied on two paintings for Zhang Di,
He coaxed Zhang Di into his arms with sweet words.
Zhang Di's feelings for Feng Xiaogang are very pure,
She did not dislike Feng Xiaogang, who was ugly and poor.
In her heart, Feng Xiaogang is considerate and talented,
She was willing to live a hard life with Feng Xiaogang.
But she did, but her parents didn't.
Zhang Diming has a better choice,
Feng Xiaogang was not the first choice at all.
And there are so many messy things in the literary and art circles,
The couple is also afraid that their daughter will be wronged when the time comes.
Anyway, Zhang Di's heart was all tied to Feng Xiaogang's body.
The more her parents objected, the stronger her desire to marry Feng Xiaogang became.
Parents can never be more than children.
In 1984, Zhang Di finally married Feng Xiaogang as she wished.
When the two get married, there is no ceremony, no wedding ring,
Feng Xiaogang was so poor that he couldn't even give Zhang Di a wedding.
But love can drink enough water.
Zhang Di packed her bags,
Followed Feng Xiaogang into a 40-square-meter rental house.
The house was simple, white on all sides, with only a few simple necessities of life.
Zhang Di cleaned everything in the house.
Not only do you have to prepare delicious meals for Feng Xiaogang every day,
He also took good care of Feng Xiaogang's mother.
Life is very bitter, but Zhang Di's heart is very sweet.
For her, the chai rice oil and salt in life is also happiness.
Zhang Di has no ambition, and ordinary life is very good.
But Feng Xiaogang is different,
He's crawling on the bottom floor,
Cultivated a pair of seven tricks of the heart,
In order to get ahead.
Ye Jing once commented on Feng Xiaogang, "Very good at being a person, with a strong sense of purpose. ”
In the crew, Feng Xiaogang hitched a ride with Zheng Xiaolong.
Zheng Xiaolong is a disciple of the big courtyard,
Have the ability and resources,
"Four Generations In the Same House", "Golden Marriage", and "The Biography of Zhen Huan" are all from his hands.
Zheng Xiaolong was in charge of production at the Beijing Television Drama Art Center.
Feng Xiaogang can talk and do things,
Before Zheng Xiaolong could speak, he could handle things properly.
Feng Xiaogang also slowly entered Zheng Xiaolong's eyes.
Through Zheng Xiaolong's bridge, he also met the biggest nobleman in his life, Wang Shuo.
In the Beijing circle, Wang Shuo's reputation is great.
When Jiang Wen filmed the days of "Sunny Day",
Directly pulled a banner: the sun is always shining, Shuo Ye is always bullish.
There are countless people who want to connect with Wang Shuo,
Feng Xiaogang is also one of them.
All of Wang Shuo's books, Feng Xiaogang can recite backwards like a stream.
Feng Xiaogang also specially submitted an article to express his admiration for Wang Shuo.
There were many people holding Wang Shuo, but not many could hold him in his heart.
Looking at Feng Xiaogang saddle up for himself, he worked tirelessly,
Wang Shuo finally decided to fish him out.
Wang Shuo fished Feng Xiaogang up,
It also completely shattered Zhang Di's originally peaceful life.
02
In 1991, "The Story of the Editorial Department" was planned,
When filming began, the script was accidentally lost.
The people involved in the writing of the script have other jobs,
There was no willingness to accompany Wang Shuo to re-polish the script, except for Feng Xiaogang.
But the capital is not willing to let new people participate in the creation,
It was Wang Shuo's guarantee that finally left Feng Xiaogang.
After "The Story of the Editorial Department" became a hit, Feng Xiao began to become famous.
At the same time, Zhang Di was also pregnant.
Career and family double blossoms, Feng Xiaogang walking is floating.
But what he didn't expect was that
The child born to Zhang Di had congenital cleft lip and palate.
Zhang Di hugged her daughter and almost fainted from crying on the hospital bed.
Feng Xiaogang's brain is also ignorant,
He smoked one cigarette after another in his hospital room.
Looking out the window at the dark night,
I just feel that my heart is also heavy.
The doctor told them that if they wanted to have another one, he could help with the certificate.
But both Feng Xiaogang and Zhang Di rejected the doctor's proposal.
Waited for six years to wait for this child,
Neither couple is willing to give up.
Feng Xiaogang named his daughter Feng Siyu.
There is not much extravagance,
I just wish my daughter could talk like a normal person.
Treating Cleft Lip and Palate for Feng Siyu is a big expense,
The couple's savings simply did not amount.
Especially after giving birth to a daughter, Zhang Di could not work.
She can only look after her daughter at home every day.
Newborn children toss and turn at night,
Zhang Dide has been looking at her,
Feed her, change her diaper,
There is no room for idleness.
Sometimes when I was very tired, I just took a nap and the child started crying again.
Zhang Di had no time to clean up after herself, let alone clean up her home.
The burden of the family weighed on Zhang Di,
The burden of life weighed on Feng Xiaogang's shoulders.
In order to earn money, Feng Xiaogang got up early every day and greedily,
There is no peace when you get home.
Both were physically and mentally exhausted, feeling aggrieved,
Every now and then there will be quarrels.
"Poor couples Pepsi mourn."
But the trivialities of life can smooth out the passion of love,
But it is impossible to break the bond of family affection.
Feng Siyu's illness is still the top priority in the couple's heart.
They took their daughter and ran to almost all the hospitals in Beijing.
When Feng Siyu was one year old,
Corrective surgery was performed successfully.
Feng Siyu was also changed to Feng Siyu.
Feng Xiaogang hopes that his daughter can soar to the fullest in the future.
To celebrate the success of her daughter's surgery,
Feng Xiaogang bought a lot of small toys for her.
A family of three is happy at home.
Zhang Di seems to have returned to the beginning of marriage,
Even if the two don't talk, they are happy as long as they are together.
Zhang Dihan smiled and watched the father and daughter play.
Unconsciously, the time spent together by the couple is getting shorter and shorter.
As Feng Xiaogang's career gets better and better,
He was also spending less and less time at home.
Zhang Di needs to take care of her daughter at all times,
The couple sometimes couldn't say a few words a day.
She asked Feng Xiaogang when he would come back in the evening.
Feng Xiaogang also prevaricated with socializing.
Both were in a hurry, unable to stop for half a minute.
Now my daughter's illness is finally cured,
Life can also return to peace.
She thought it would be the norm in her life for the rest of her life.
Unexpectedly, this was the last warmth of the family.
As Zhang Di became more and more haggard, her appearance was no longer there,
Feng Xiaogang's heart began to think of something else.
There are many temptations in the entertainment industry,
But at that time, Feng Xiaogang was not qualified enough.
The warblers and swallows were all Wang Shuo, and no one noticed him.
Feng Xiaogang followed Wang Shuo,
Watching Wang Shuo take down Xu Jinglei, the talented daughter of the Northern Shadow,
The two were in love, which made Feng Xiaogang very envious.
Feng Xiaogang also wanted to find a confidant with a red face.
In 1992, "The Great Satan" was planned,
He also sent a woman to Feng Xiaogang.
03
Xu Fan is a high-caliber student at the Central Academy of Drama.
He is tall and beautiful.
Feng Xiaogang, a "second-rate man" wearing a leather jacket and riding a motorcycle, could not enter her eyes at all.
Her boyfriend at the time was her teacher, Wang Zhiwen.
For the love in her heart, she didn't care about any gossip at all.
Directly moved into Wang Zhiwen's home, washing his hands for Wang Zhiwen to make soup,
Take good care of Wang Zhiwen.
Wang Zhiwen is a popular student with superior resources.
Xu Fan wanted Wang Zhiwen to pull himself.
Wang Zhiwen was unwilling to bend over for Xu Fan.
Later, Xu Fan had a scandal with the fifth-generation director Tian Zhuangzhuang,
Deeply humiliated, Wang Zhiwen swept Xu Fan out of the door.
At once, Xu Fan was swept into Feng Xiaogang's arms.
Xu Fan once said, "For me, Feng Xiaogang is not only a partner, but more accurately, he is my lifelong benefactor, and he adopted my soul when I was most sad." ”
But her first encounter with Feng Xiaogang was not too pleasant.
At that time, Feng Xiaogang and Ge You were watching the sample film of "The Great Satan",
Feng Xiaogang said to Ge You, "The film is good, but the heroine is almost meaningless." ”
This heroine is Xu Fan,
At that time, she was sitting behind Feng Xiaogang.
Feng Xiaogang couldn't look at her, and she couldn't look at Feng Xiaogang even more.
She thought that she and Feng Xiaogang were bored with each other.
But I didn't expect Feng Xiaogang to see her in her eyes.
After Xu Fan was abandoned by Wang Zhiwen, Feng Xiaogang has been booing and asking for warmth.
Xu Fan did not take him seriously at first.
There are many boys who pursue her,
Feng Xiaogang, who is generally older in appearance, does not have an advantage.
Feng Xiaogang was not discouraged, but instead pulled Wang Shuo and Xu Jinglei as lobbyists.
"The spirited woman is afraid of the stalker",
What's more, Feng Xiaogang took advantage of Xu Fan's insecurity when he was most insecure.
When the two went to Guangzhou to participate in the Golden Rooster Award,
On the plane, Feng Xiaogang was next to Xu Fan.
Someone asked who was next to Feng Xiaogang.
Feng Xiaogang replied with a smile, "My girlfriend." ”
And Xu Fan did not deny it.
After the two confirmed their relationship, they did not shy away from it,
The gossip quickly reached Zhang Di's ears.
But she didn't want to believe that her husband would betray her.
Zhang Di is a very traditional woman,
She still takes good care of her mother-in-law and raises her daughter,
Don't take the rumors to heart.
Both had children,
She did not believe that Feng Xiaogang would abandon his wife and daughter.
Zhang Di thought that Feng Xiaogang would eventually return.
Who expected him to come back, but he came back to divorce Zhang Di.
Zhang Di did not make a noise, nor did she sprinkle,
She told Feng Xiaogang very calmly, "I don't agree to divorce, and I have to wait a few years to leave, and wait until my daughter grows up." ”
Feng Xiaogang was not reasonable,
At this time, I saw that my wife was still full of plans for my daughter,
I couldn't help but feel more guilty.
During the meal, Feng Xiaogang learned about his mother's stroke and hospitalization.
Afraid of delaying Feng Xiaogang's career, Zhang Di did not bother him at all.
One person took on all the chores of Feng Xiaogang's mother's admission to the hospital.
Feng Xiaogang looked at his wife who silently cleaned up the dishes and chopsticks after the meal,
I also felt that I was too much of a thing.
He agreed to his wife's request.
Outside just declared Xu Fan to be his girlfriend.
Zhang Di originally thought that he could also take away Xu Fan, who was next to Feng Xiaogang, just like Xu Jinglei, Wang Shuo's confidante, shen Xujia.
Unexpectedly, in these seven years,
Feng Xiaogang and Xu Fan were inseparable all day.
The two cooperated in "Chicken Feathers in a Place", "Party A and Party B", "Not Seen and Not Scattered", "Endless" have all achieved good results.
Feng Xiaogang and Xu Fan became the golden boy and jade girl in the crowd,
Zhang Di, who was supposed to be the main room, was omitted from his name.
In the past seven years, Xu Fan has always been uncontended and has followed Feng Xiaogang without a name.
Feng Xiaogang felt very guilty about Zhang Di,
But he felt even more guilty about Xu Fan who silently followed him.
A man doesn't love you anymore, and no matter how much you save it, it won't help.
In 1999, Zhang Di finally relaxed,
She didn't want anything but her daughter.
Feng Xiaogang agreed, and out of guilt,
He finally left the house and left the money and the house to Zhang Di.
Feng Xiaogang divorced her on the front foot,
The back foot could not wait to marry Xu Fan.
On the day of his marriage to Xu Fan, he was specially selected on September 19, 1999.
It means that the relationship between the two is long and long.
All the friends in the circle arrived, and the wedding was held in a big way.
04
Feng Xiaogang has a film called "A Sigh".
It is his love-hate relationship with Xu Fan and Zhang Di.
There is a scene in the film, when the little three come to the door,
The original daughter specially brought her a cup of water with half a cup of salt.
In the face of the provocation of the original daughter Ming Huang,
The little three sides did not change color and drank the next breath.
This scene is also said to be based on reality.
It's just that in the film,
Xu Fan changed from the little three who drank the salt water stoically to the original match that looked at the other side without changing color.
Casting is also interesting.
The film also seems to reflect Xu Fan's fate after that.
Soon after the palace was forced, Xu Fan also encountered the same situation as Zhang Di.
A younger and more beautiful girl appeared next to Feng Xiaogang,
Shen Xing and Feng Xiaogang's "overnight stay at the door" incident was boiling over.
Shen Xing even wanted to stand by Feng Xiaogang's side even if he divorced.
In this regard, Xu Fan just said that shocking sentence lightly,
"Our family is a man anyway, and it's not us who suffer."
Under the pressure of Shen Xing's steps,
Feng Xiaogang still returned to Xu Fan's arms,
He also highly praised Xu Fan's knowledge, "Our family's Sails are really a good wife and mother. ”
In the following years, Feng Xiaogang's lace news has not stopped.
Xu Fan, who knows the whole thing, was forced to say, "Two people can live well together, and if they don't live well, they don't have to think so much." ”
I don't know if Xu Fan ever regretted it in the dead of night.
But feelings are like drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
After divorcing Feng Xiaogang, Zhang Di also returned to a peaceful life.
Feng Xiaogang's lace news has nothing to do with her,
She raises her daughter alone,
Zhang Di did not choose to remarry.
It's not easy for a divorced daughter to carry a child.
Zhang Di's parents moved from Hubei to Beijing to help her take care of her daughter.
Life is hard at first,
The burden of the whole family was on Zhang Di's body.
Zhang Di is very busy in the hospital and at home.
Zhang Di is still young, and her personality is also a good one.
People around her advised her to remarry,
Zhang Di was afraid that her daughter would be wronged.
I felt like I had abandoned her too.
They all refused.
"One day Mr. and Mrs. Hyakuden".
Feng Xiaogang's heart always remembered Zhang Di's mother and daughter,
In particular, he did not have a son and a half daughter after marrying Xu Fan.
There is only one adopted daughter, Feng Duoduo.
Feng Siyu was equivalent to his only blood-related daughter.
After what happened to Zhang Di's family, he was always obliged.
Desperately trying to make up for his harm to Zhang Di's mother and daughter in terms of money.
The cost of Feng Siyu's schooling was also borne by him.
Zhang Di never stopped her daughter from getting along with her father.
After graduating from the Beijing Film Academy, Feng Siyu chose to study abroad.
It was also all the idea given by Feng Xiaogang.
Even Feng Siyu wants his son to inherit his father's business,
Feng Xiaogang is also actively paving the way for his daughter.
Feng Xiaogang did his best for his daughter,
Zhang Di also took good care of Feng Xiaogang's mother.
Even if he is divorced from Feng Xiaogang,
Her relationship with her mother-in-law has not changed.
Feng Xiaogang's mother is older, and she was hospitalized for a stroke before, with limited mobility.
Zhang Di often took her daughter to visit,
Wipe your mother-in-law's body and chat with your mother-in-law.
Feng Xiaogang has always had great respect for Zhang Di,
He also takes care of Zhang Di's family.
In an interview, Zhang Di's mother did not say that Feng Xiaogang was not at all inadequate.
She attributed the marriage between the two to gathering less and leaving more,
And constantly emphasize Feng Xiaogang's "good heart".
After the divorce, the two families can still get along so well, which is very rare in the entertainment industry.
epilogue
Sometimes letting go is also a kind of happiness.
After divorcing Feng Xiaogang, Zhang Di raised her daughter as a talent.
She is safe and secure to guard her daughter and does not accept media interviews.
Nor will it take the opportunity to slander Feng Xiaogang's words and deeds.
Her kindness and understanding have generally made Feng Xiaogang feel guilty,
More and more want to make up for their mother and daughter.
Sometimes there is a scramble for an emptiness,
It is better to learn to let go like Zhang Di,
Instead of fighting for something that doesn't belong to you,
It is better to grasp what you have.
Zhang Di raised her daughter for 22 years after divorce,
After Feng Xiaogang developed, she did not rush forward.
Some people say that Zhang Di is stupid,
But in the end, she had no regrets.