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Xu Jinglei
Xu Zijian was originally an ordinary person, but because he gave birth to a big star daughter Xu Jinglei, he became a "star father" who attracted attention.
Xu Zijian is more than 70 years old, he has a pension, his children are very filial, and they do not worry about eating or wearing. However, in his later years, he had a troublesome matter, that is, his daughter Xu Jinglei never married...
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Xu Zijian was born in Hunan in 1949, and his father Xu Chenghuan was an anti-Japanese hero who also made military achievements in the Liberation War. When Xu Zijian was more than 1 year old, his father was transferred to Beijing to work, and the family moved to Beijing.
Because of the times, Xu Zijian lost the opportunity to go to college, and after graduating from middle school, he worked in a light bulb factory in Beijing. Every day he was exposed to thousands of degrees of furnace temperature, and his clothes had not dried all year round.
Xu Zijian and his son Xu Jinglei
Childhood Xu Jinglei and younger brother Xu Xinyu
In 1972, Xu Zijian got married, and his wife, Yu Shurong, was a native of Beijing and an ordinary female worker in a light bulb factory.
In 1974, her daughter Xu Jinglei was born. Later, Xu Zijian and his wife gave birth to a son Xu Xinyu.
Because he lost the opportunity to further his education, Xu Zijian paid special attention to the education of his daughter. When Xu Jinglei was two years old, her father forced her to practice pen writing, and there were dozens of handwriting posts at home.
After his daughter went to primary school, Xu Zijian even implemented militarized management for her daughter: when Xu Jinglei ate and how long it took; what time she went to bed, what time she wrote homework, what time she practiced her words, and how many roads she walked in a day, her father had clear indicators.
Xu Jinglei in middle school
Once Xu Jinglei is not finished, Xu Zijian will beat her daughter. Because her father is too strong, Xu Jinglei's childhood and girlhood are monotonous and heavy, and she rarely has a smile on her face and does not dare to rebel against her father.
The perennial backlog has caused a huge psychological shadow for Xu Jinglei. At that time, her greatest wish was to escape from the family and her father, to get rid of his control.
Xu Zijian is bent on forcing his daughter to become a talent, but he does not know that his too harshness has indirectly affected his daughter's concept of marriage and love. Years later, Xu Zijian reflected on what he had done and felt that his daughter had some responsibility for her emotional ups and downs.
In 1993, Xu Jinglei graduated from high school and applied for the acting department of Beijing Film Academy. She does not have any literary and artistic background, when the professional examination, the main examination teacher let her dance, Xu Jinglei will not.
Xu Jinglei (third from left) with friends
Later, the teacher let her run around the examination room, and the other examiner played the piano on the side, slowing down and anxious with the rhythm of the music, and Xu Jinglei ran fast and slow.
Xu Jinglei herself did not expect that she "ran in circles" and passed the professional examination. Xu Zijian did not believe it, thinking that his daughter was lying, so he called the main examination teacher, who said that Xu Jinglei's musical rhythm was very good and had performance potential.
Her daughter was admitted to the Nortel Acting Department, which became Xu Zijian's proudest thing.
At that time, Xu Zijian ran a neon factory with more than 30 workers. He could not hide his joy, and at lunchtime, he added a "hard dish" to each worker for free.
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Young Wang Shuo
From left to right: Feng Xiaogang, Wang Shuo, Zhao Baogang, Ge You
Unexpectedly, when her daughter was in her sophomore year, Xu Zijian had heart-wrenching troubles. It turned out that in the spring of 1994, Xu Jinglei met Wang Shuo, a literary talent, under the introduction of a friend.
Wang Shuo, 16 years older than Xu Jinglei, was born in 1958 in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, and grew up in Beijing. His novels such as "Air Hostess", "Half Flame, Half Seawater", and "Stubborn Lord" were adapted into movies and caused great repercussions.
Wang Shuo has a great influence in the "Beijing Circle", and many actors are proud to know him.
Xu Jinglei admired Wang Shuo's talent, and Wang Shuo also admired her beauty and talent, and the two fell in love unconsciously.
In July 1994, Xu Jinglei spent the summer vacation at home. One day, she took a phone call from Wang Shuo for more than 20 minutes. From the tone and demeanor of her daughter answering the phone, Xu Zijian saw something unusual.
Xu Jinglei and Wang Shuo
He asked his daughter, "What is your relationship, talking on the phone for so long?" "When she was a child, Xu Jinglei was afraid of her father, but now that she has grown up, she can get rid of her father's control."
She was not timid, and told her father bluntly: "We are boyfriend and girlfriend." Xu Zijian's blood pressure soared, he knew that Wang Shuo had a family, his wife Shen Jiaxu was a dancer in the Oriental Song and Dance Troupe, and the two also had a daughter.
Xu Zijian said angrily to his daughter: "You are not suitable, you must break up immediately." ”
Previously, under the pressure of her father, Xu Jinglei's adolescent rebellion was suppressed, and now it has begun to rebound. The more her father stopped her, the more she had to move forward.
There is a deeper reason, that is, Xu Jinglei did not get the warmth of her father's love at home since she was a child, and Wang Shuo, who is 16 years older than her, gave her brother and father-like care, and she was very nostalgic for this feeling. The father and daughter did not stumble less often because of this.
Xu Zijian's heart was always tugging, worried that his daughter's feelings would lead to a storm and let more innocent people be hurt.
In order to get rid of her father, Xu Jinglei rarely returned home at school, but as soon as she returned, her father would force her to break up.
Father and daughter often debated, leaving a cloud in everyone's heart.
In 1997, Xu Jinglei entered the film and television circle after graduating from university. She is young and beautiful in appearance, excellent in overall quality, and is well received by directors and producers.
Xu Jinglei's "Love Spicy Hot" stills (1997)
Xu Jinglei "My Father and Me" Poster (2004)
In just a few years, Xu Jinglei has starred in many films such as "Love Spicy hot", "Subway to Spring", "My Beautiful Homesickness" and won the Best Supporting Actress Award of the "Golden Rooster Award" of Chinese films and the Best Supporting Actress Award of the Popular Film "Hundred Flowers Award", becoming an actress with the same name as Zhang Ziyi and Zhou Xun.
In 2004, Xu Jinglei's self-directed, self-edited and self-acting films "My Father and Me" and "Letter from a Strange Woman" caused a huge sensation after they were released nationwide.
After Wang Shuo's divorce, his ex-wife took her daughter and left for the United States. At that time, housing prices in Beijing were very low, and Xu Jinglei bought a villa in The Changping District of Beijing to prepare as a marriage house with Wang Shuo. After Xu Zijian learned about it, he had a conflict with his daughter, and as a result, both father and daughter cried.
He finally realized that when his daughter was a child, he was too strict with her, which indirectly affected her mate choice and concept of marriage and love. The beloved father was entangled.
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Xu Jinglei and her father Xu Zijian
Falling in love is easy to get along with. The difference in personality and age between Xu Jinglei and Wang Shuo eventually became the killer of this relationship. In the winter of 2004, the two broke up, but the villa she bought was not recovered and Wang Shuo lived.
His daughter withdrew from the year-old love, which made Xu Zijian feel relieved, and he was finally able to sleep peacefully and no longer dwell on his daughter's personal problems.
In 2006, Xu Jinglei was 32 years old and it was time to get married. Because Xu Jinglei's brother was married and became a father, his father began to urge marriage.
Xu Zijian's requirements for finding a son-in-law are not high: first, unmarried and single, the same age as his daughter; second, he has a sense of family responsibility, good character, and does not necessarily grow tall and handsome. He also wrote down the criteria for finding his son-in-law on his mobile phone and sent it to his daughter.
Xu Jinglei and Li Yapeng
But in a position like Xu Jinglei, it is not easy to find a like-minded opposite sex to marry. Ordinary people of the opposite sex did not dare to look for her; peers who were less famous than her and paid less than her did not dare to look for her; rich men demanded that Xu Jinglei give up her career after marriage, which she could not accept.
Therefore, Xu Jinglei's love has become somewhat difficult. In 2008, Xu Jinglei was 34 years old and still in the middle of the book.
There is an older unmarried daughter in her 30s at home, and Xu Zijian's anxiety can be imagined.
At the end of each year, when the calendar of the new year is placed in the study, Xu Zijian's heart is on fire: when will her daughter be one year older, when will she be able to get married and start a family?
At that time, Xu Zijian became very sensitive, and his daughter took a little longer to answer the phone call of the opposite sex, and he knocked on the side to inquire whether she was in love.
Xu Zijian
The daughter takes ordinary friends of the opposite sex home to talk about things, and after the other party leaves, Xu Zijian will also ask the east and the west, with only one purpose, that is, to find out whether the daughter is likely to develop with the other party.
Her father's urging for forced marriage was like a rope, which made Xu Jinglei's heart more and more heavy.
After that, she no longer brought ordinary friends of the opposite sex home, nor did she answer phone calls from the opposite sex in front of her father. Xu Zijian knew that this was his daughter's silent resistance, and his heart was full of grievances. As a father, if his daughter is not married at this age, can he not be anxious?
If he is an irresponsible father, as long as his daughter gives him money, filial piety to him, and whether she marries or not. He hopes that his daughter can be more considerate of himself, solve personal problems as soon as possible, and let the two generations stop bothering each other.
The daughter is no longer a child, in fact, Xu Zijian must muster up a lot of courage every time he urges marriage.
Poster of "Dulala Promotion" (2009)
Huang Lixing
In 2009, Xu Zijian finally raised his eyebrows, because his daughter was in love, and the man was very much in line with his criteria for choosing a son-in-law.
Xu Jinglei's boyfriend is named Huang Lixing, and the two had an affair when filming the film "Dulala Promotion".
Huang Lixing, the same age as Xu Jinglei, was born in Los Angeles in 1974 and is a singer and actor in the Chinese pop music scene. He is 1.78 meters tall, has been working out all year round, has 8 abs and clear mermaid line, and is in a super shape.
In 2010, Xu Jinglei took her boyfriend home for the New Year. Xu Zijian and his wife couldn't help but be overjoyed and made a table full of delicacies.
Huang Lixing is not only handsome, polite to people and things, and all aspects of the conditions are very compatible with his daughter.
After Huang Li walked, Xu Zijian said to his daughter: "It is not easy to meet a opposite sex who is in love, you must cherish this relationship and strive to get married as soon as possible." Xu Jinglei did not squeak.
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Xu Jinglei and Huang Lixing
After establishing a relationship with Xu Jinglei, Huang Lixing also came to Beijing to develop. In front of the man she loved, Xu Jinglei became a small woman, and she cooked and cooked soup.
Huang Lixing has a small dog, and Xu Jinglei often bathes the puppy, and then trims its toenails to dress the puppy fresh and refreshing.
While she was writing in the study, Huang Lixing grinded it for her. The happiness of her daughter's love makes Xu Zijian have mixed feelings: after years of searching, her daughter finally found a man who can be entrusted for life!
In 2013, 39-year-old Xu Jinglei and Huang Lixing were not yet married. Xu Zijian could no longer hold his breath and began to frantically force marriage to his daughter.
Xu Jinglei and her calligraphy works
Xu Jinglei and her father were interviewed by Lu Yu
Xu Jinglei didn't want to get married at all, so she always perfunctorily put her father: "I'm thinking about it." Every time he listens to his daughter say this, Xu Zijian will have a moment of relaxation in his heart, but after more than half a year has passed, and his daughter does not mention the marriage again, he will be entangled, and he will start to force marriage again.
In 2017, "Lu Yu has a date" came to Xu Jinglei's home for an interview. When it comes to personal issues, Xu Jinglei made it clear, "I don't think happiness is related to a marriage contract. The implication is that she doesn't want to get married.
The daughter's words made Xu Zijian very sad, and after the column group left, Xu Zijian shed tears. Xu Jinglei gave her father a confession: "Dad, I am very happy now, this state is very good." Wouldn't you be even more upset if I got married and had a bad time? ”
Xu Zijian replied to his daughter: "Why can't you think in a good way?" Xu Jinglei said: "There are too many such cases in the circle, it is very good that the two do not marry, and they are separated after receiving the license." ”
What the daughter said was also the truth, Xu Zijian was speechless, and did not know how to enlighten his daughter. He had only one thought, that is, his daughter wanted to get married and become a mother, and he wanted to be his father-in-law and grandfather.
In 2018, Xu Zijian also communicated with Huang Lixing, who said that he listened to Xu Jinglei. It seems that if you are married, the attitude of your daughter is crucial, and Xu Zijian began to force marriage again. But no matter how he forced it, Xu Jinglei just didn't get a license.
In January 2022, Xu Jinglei was 47 years old, still not into marriage, Xu Zijian tangled in insomnia, and his heart was like a boulder.
As a father, in his old age he had no other requirements, only to be his father-in-law and grandfather. But why did this simple wish become so difficult for him? He didn't know when he would be able to become a father-in-law and a grandfather?
This low-key "star dad" is eager for this day to come soon!
Author's comment: From this article, we see the entanglement, anxiety and worry of an ordinary father for his daughter's marriage. His interrogation in his heart was so painful that it brought tears to people's eyes.
Now that society is diversified, many young men and women choose not to love or marry for various reasons, and some are married and do not have children. The author believes that this is a negative attitude towards life, an irresponsibility for oneself and one's parents.
Xu Jinglei with her father and grandfather
The state attaches more and more importance to fertility, in order to allow young people to get married and have babies, the relevant departments have adopted various measures such as "double reduction" and "house price reduction". In this benign background, young people should actively enter marriage and have babies as soon as possible.
The family is the cell of society, and the baby is the future of the motherland. Only when you enter marriage at a marriageable age and give birth to a healthy and high-quality baby, will the family be more complete and happy, the society will have vitality and vitality, and the individual will enhance happiness.
Xu Jinglei has not yet married, which makes her father entangled and anxious, and also makes fans worry. As a public figure, I hope that she will get married as soon as possible and become a mother, so that her elderly father's old age will be comfortable and complete!
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