Throughout the ages, people have summed up some "human feelings and sophistication" through observation, which can be described as valuable experiences, often to the point, in a word, so that the people have benefited a lot. If you can be good at learning lessons from it, you can not only purify your heart, but also cultivate your character and guide your life.
"Augmenting the Xianwen" is a treasure book written by the Ming Dynasty for people to deal with the world, and the proverbs and aphorisms in it, often a dozen words, will be deafening and deaf, will make people enlightened, and Mao Sai will open up. Today, I would like to take you to appreciate a sentence: "Do not worship your parents and worship your relatives, and your brothers do not marry outsiders", this sentence is actually easy to understand, and there is no "fault" that is bitter and difficult to understand.
I think the person who wrote this sentence, 600 years ago, must have seen some social atmosphere, felt it, and wrote this sentence. The author's purpose is also very clear, that is, to warn people and learn lessons.
The first half of the sentence is said: "Parents who are not filial to the family are very cold to the parents at home, but go outside to find a dry father, and they are more dear to the dry father than to the father." "The admonitions of the ancients are thought-provoking.
People who have seen "Daming Fenghua" may have noticed that the great eunuch Wang Zhen in it, because he was favored by Emperor Zhu Qizhen, was very popular, so many high officials in the court worshiped him as a dry father. Even some people who were much older than the eunuch Wang Zhen called him a dry father. This is not something that the screenwriter made up, this is a real historical record. One man named Xu Youzhen even replaced his beard in order to "get closer" to the eunuch Wang Zhen.
This was not an isolated phenomenon in the Ming Dynasty; when Zhu Yuanzhang raised an army, he took in a lot of righteous sons and cadres, and the specific number is already untestable, there are thousands of them, and some may have died before the great victory. There are dozens of names that can be left in history. The more famous ones are Mu Ying, Blue Jade, Ping An, Zhu Huan and so on. Zhu Yuanzhang did not let the family spoil, and the purpose was estimated to be known to everyone.
The entire Ming Dynasty was very popular, and Lan Yu himself also collected hundreds of them. By the time of the apocalypse, Wei Zhongxian had received more than 10,000 cadres. These dry children worship the dry father, the purpose is clear, each takes what he needs, so the dry father is vigorously touted, flattering and greeting, than the father is kissed. By the way, in ancient times, "righteous father" was better than "dry father", after all, "righteousness" was a more positive word. In this sentence, the author uses the word "dry kiss" with a mocking meaning.
"Brothers do not reconcile with outsiders": Brothers and brothers are not harmonious, but they all go out to call others brothers and brothers. This was actually a common phenomenon in the Ming Dynasty, and the maintenance of many relationships depended on worship and exchange of posts, which was called the friendship of Jinlan. Zhu Yuanzhang had worshipped brothers with Chang Yuchun, Xu Da, and Hu Dahai, and they had already worshipped brothers in the war years, and in the future, the pure use of each other was to worship each other.
In fact, there are inevitably bumps and bumps between brothers, the ancients cloud: "brothers outside the wall to insult", that is to say, although brothers quarrel at home, but when there are foreign enemies, they can unanimously resist the bullying of outsiders. This tells everyone that true brothers can be united in times of crisis, and will not be scattered and self-protective.
"Don't worship your parents and your relatives, and your brothers don't marry outsiders" is not only such a custom in the Ming Dynasty. It speaks through human nature, and certain characteristics of human nature will be expressed when encountering growing occasions. Human nature is very stubborn, and it is easy to change its nature and difficult to move. So smart people have to learn to restrain themselves. Be kind to your parents and brothers, and don't look for shortcuts.