Culture is the reflection of people's living conditions and emotions and wishes, which in turn gives a dynamic impact on people's survival and development. China is a country that pays attention to blood and kinship, as early as the ancient times of our country, there was a saying of "kings, subjects, fathers, sons", and there was also a "primogeniture inheritance system", which lasted for thousands of years in feudal society. Under such a system, many large families in ancient times, although they were related by blood, were also closely related and hierarchical.
The first line of the concubine line will often enjoy a higher status, inheriting the official positions of the family and more property, while the treatment of the first line in the family is much lower, not only the status is far less than that of the concubine, the future is not as brilliant as the concubine. Up to now, even though those feudal systems have long been abolished, we are still paying attention to the distance between relatives and relatives, paying attention to the "direct line" and "collateral line".
Under this concept, there is a saying that always accompanies us, that is, five clothes are not relatives. What exactly is "five services", what is "relatives", and what does the sentence "five clothes are not relatives" mean? Do you know? After reading the knowledge!
In the official interpretation of the "five clothes", the "five clothes" refers to the ancient mourning service system, if it is a relative close to the deceased, then they can wear a mourning dress when the deceased dies, and "the relatives serve heavily, the neglecter serves lightly, and decreases sequentially", within the scope of the "five clothes", these five kinds of mourning clothes represent the closeness of the relationship.
For example, the person closest to the deceased wears the beheading, which is the ugliest style and the coarsest fabric in the mourning garment, in order to express the grief over the death of the deceased. Under normal circumstances, those who can wear and die are people who are extremely close to the deceased, such as the eldest son of the deceased and the wife who has lost her husband.
The next person after the decapitation is called Qi Wan, and the person who can wear Qi Wan, although the relationship with the deceased is not as good as the decapitation, is also very close, such as mourning the original husband, the married daughter mourning her parents, and the grandchildren mourning grandparents and so on.
After the decline of Qi, there are three more, which are dagong, small gong and hemp in turn, and at funerals, people will wear different levels of clothing according to the distance of the relationship. Of course, if the relationship is already far enough to go out of five clothes, then there is no need to wear mourning clothes anymore.
Of course, the traditions left behind in different places are not the same, perhaps some places are calculated in this way, and some places are another way, but no matter what the differences in calculation, the origin of the five clothes is always the same, which was born in the ancient mourning system.
Second, why pay attention to "five clothes is not a relative"
Nowadays, the marriage and funeral system has changed a lot from before, even if a relative dies, it will not be so popular to call everyone, so there is no need to use five clothes to distinguish between the distance and proximity of the relationship. So, why is the phrase "five clothes not relatives" still so popular in the context of changes in the funeral service system?
The source of the five services has been preliminarily understood, so how to explain the word "relatives"? "Relatives" are divided into two parts: "relatives" and "relatives", "relatives" refers to the father's vein, which is also the vein that applies to the "five services", and "relatives" refers to the mother's vein, and its connection is far less intimate than that of "relatives".
When a daughter dies, the family has little contact with the daughter's husband's family. It can be seen that the closeness between "relatives" is far higher than that of "relatives", and the statement that "five services are not relatives" is not accurate enough, because "relatives" can be broken, but "relatives" cannot, so it can only be said that "five services are not relatives".
So why is this statement so widely used that we still use it to this day? In fact, this is largely due to the ancient system of our country.
As early as the Western Jin Dynasty, China's legal system has been greatly improved, and there has been a provision of "quasi-five services to control crimes", which is actually a combination of etiquette and law, and more severe punishments are imposed on the criminal acts of relatives within the five services, so as to consolidate the feudal hierarchy and family concept.
With the development of time, in modern times, even if the law has been perfected, but because a family is accustomed to living in groups, often living in the same village, so there needs to be a general standard for the division of kinship.
At this time, the "five services" came in handy, which can help measure the relationship between people and the distance, so as to determine the degree of dealing, so the concept of "five services" has been used until today, and has not faded out of people's concepts.
What exactly are three or five suits? In fact, for the five services, no one can give a completely accurate concept.
Because even when it represents the level of mourning clothes, it has different definitions in different regions, and there are many opinions on how many generations are included in each of its services, how to be considered a service, etc., and have never been unified. What does the older generation often mean by "out of five clothes is not a relative"? What exactly is Five Suits? Even if this question has not been conclusive until now, we still cannot deny the significance of the five services in the history of our country. In China, which attaches great importance to the concept of interests and inferiority and family concepts, the five-service system is an important concept for combing through large family groups and measuring the distance between people.
Therefore, until now, the term "five services" is still in use, and in the future, it may no longer be limited to defining "pro", but will derive more new meanings and give birth to more novel ways of using it.