Some time ago, there was a hot topic on the Internet that attracted the attention of Some Scholars: Will sexless marriage continue?
I flipped through it and found that most of the complainers were women. A sister said: In my world, all the stores are running, all the factories are running, except for the rolling of the sheets, which is completely closed.
Another sister said: Seven years of marriage, six years of asexuality. I thought that the marriage was a spring breeze, but I didn't expect it to be a mirage.
In fact, this problem also plagues foreigners. As early as the last century, the famous British writer Lawrence especially wanted to discuss this issue with everyone, and he also wrote a novel around this issue.
Unfortunately, since the advent of this book in 1928, it has been classified as a banned book, and it is really unlucky to say that this author is really unlucky, several books have been criticized when they were published, and the "Lady Chatterley's Lover" written before his death has not been published until his death.
It is said that on the thirtieth anniversary of Lawrence's death, the British Penguin Publishing House wanted to publish this book in order to commemorate it, but the British prosecutorial department firmly disagreed with it, thinking that it was an obscene book that corrupted the hearts of readers.
As a result, Penguin Press began to apply for a lawsuit, and invited 35 experts, including professors, scholars, critics, theologians and psychologists, to testify in court, and after a vigorous trial, the book was finally made public.
It is estimated that the author himself did not expect that after his death, the book actually caused such a sensation in the entire literary world, although the controversy was great, but people still recognized its literary value, which can be compared to China's "Golden Plum Bottle".
So today, there is a book to talk to you, this controversial "Lady Chatterley's Lover".
The story is about an aristocratic woman in a sexless marriage, from being imprisoned in her mind to awakening, falling in love with a forester of a different class from herself, and discovering her primitive desires until the process of escaping from marriage.
The noblewoman's name was Connie and her husband's name was Cliff. Husband Cliff has a fatal point of view, that is, he believes that the spirit is the most important, and sex is dispensable in married life.
In fact, there is a reason why Cliff has such a view. It turned out that Cliff and Connie were married after the outbreak of the War in 1917, and before they could catch up with the good times, cliff ran to the front line after the honeymoon was over.
Who would have thought that this hapless egg hit a cannonball and lost everything below the waist. So in fact, in addition to inheriting the title, Cliff has no fun in life anymore. He can only convince himself that it doesn't matter if he has sex or not
But one of the great things about people is that in addition to deceiving himself, he also has to deceive others, and instills the importance of spirit in Connie every day. In order to control Connie's thoughts, they also began to write novels, anyway, nobles, there is no shortage of money, Cliff just wants to use these to keep Connie.
Two years passed like this, until Connie's father came to see her.
Speaking of this old man, he was also quite unreliable, and actually said to his daughter: "Hurry up and find a lover, otherwise a good flower will wither." "It is estimated that such a thing is really difficult to say on the old father in China." However, Connie also began to realize the seriousness of the problem.
Here, Cliff continued to instill Connie in the asexualism, saying what:
"Gee, marriage and sex are two different things, and although we don't have sex anymore, I feel like I should have a child to inherit my family business."
"Come on, you go on a trip, get romantic, go abroad and find someone, borrow a seed and come back, don't tell me who he is, as long as you have children." 」
In this widowed life, Connie felt like a withered flower bone, withering before it could blossom. Cliff's proposal made her even more upset, and she felt that it was more difficult to find someone to have children than to find a lover. At a loss, Melles, the forester, appeared at the right time.
There is a book here to introduce the situation of the forest keeper Meles, he has married a woman, but this woman only knows to indulge sexual desires, basically no spiritual communication.
Such a marriage made Mellers want to escape. So he enlisted in the army, and when he returned from the army, he ran to see Cliff and lived alone for four years.
One day when it was raining, Mrs. Klee had something to tell the forest keepers, and when the servant was not there, Connie went to deliver the word. Walking to the courtyard of the forest, she saw the naked forester taking a bath.
Oh, the forester was a bodybuilder, and what was shown in front of Connie's eyes was: eight-pack abs, wonderful flesh. This was so unbelievable that Connie felt deeply stung.
Connie ran home in a heartbeat, looking at her naked body in front of a large mirror. I am only 27 years old, look at this loose skin, that is called a sad.
Connie wowed me, and that I started hating Mrs. Klee's self-deception.
Connie took the initiative, and she offered the forester a key to the cabin in the woods, and whenever she had time, she would go to see the chicks hatching in the hut.
One evening at dusk, Connie and the Forester watch the chicks together. These chicks are like a newborn life, and thinking about her own life, Connie feels lonely and desolate, and can't help but cry. The forester gently comforted her and touched her.
And then...... Omit ten thousand words here, everyone should understand, the story developed here, two lonely people, came together. One widow, one alone, it was like a dry wood fire, burning again and again.
Sure, it was hidden from Cliff, connie wanted to give Meles a baby, but she didn't want to give cliff the child of two people, and a brave thought was born in her heart.
Finally, Connie was going on a trip, and Cliff repeatedly told him to return to him immediately after getting pregnant with a fetus. But Connie's plan was to divorce Mrs. Klee when she returned from a trip.
As soon as Connie arrived in London, she found herself pregnant. So she filed for divorce from Mrs. Kerry. In fact, we can all guess the ending, mrs. Klee is reluctant. He knew that the child was a forest keeper, and the forest keeper resigned.
At the end of the story, Connie goes to Scotland, Mellers finds a job, and both are actively preparing for a real married life... This is the story of Madame Chatelet's Lover.
A person has no spirit, only flesh and beasts. But if there is no body, only the spirit, it also deviates from human duality.
Connie's marriage to Cliff is asexual, and what Cliff wants to establish is a mechanical control relationship. Meles's marriage to his wife went wrong because she only wanted to indulge her lust and had no thoughts to communicate with him.
The difference between two people is that one is empty of spirit and the other is physical. What Connie and Mellers want is a relationship that merges spirit and body. This relationship not only brings joy, but also responsibility, that is, their unborn child.