You often receive some similar private messages like this:
"He used to love me very much, was very nice to me, and had no secrets; but lately, I find that he seems to have changed a lot... It doesn't seem to love me as much as before, do you say he doesn't love me anymore? ”
This reminds me of a passage written by Keigo Higashino in "Relief Grocery Store":
"In fact, so people who are entangled in making choices already have answers in their hearts, and counseling just wants to get the choices that are inclined in their hearts."
Deeply.
You've found so much evidence of his changes before and after, why you are still unwilling to accept the truth that he no longer loves you.
A person's mouth, performance may deceive people, but the intuitive feelings he gives you must not deceive people.
When it is time to stop the loss, don't drag it, let yourself go early, and let yourself get relief.
A relationship, if there are the following signs, it means that the other party has no you in mind.
After a quarrel, I no longer take the initiative to coax you
There is a sentence in "Oranges are not the only fruit" that reads:
"Whether a person loves you or not is not to see how good he is to you when he is in a good mood, but to see how bad he is to you when he is in a bad mood." 」
I have seen such a question on Zhihu: "The girlfriend is angry, must she be coaxed?" ”
A girl at the bottom replied: "After the fight, I want my boyfriend to coax himself, not willful, but to confirm that he still loves me." ”
Indeed, girls in love need to be coaxed.
Many times, as long as the boy takes the initiative to coax, the girl is easy to lose her temper, she does not really want to be angry with you, just want to get your attention.
And a man who really loves you must also be willing to coax you.
If one day, after you quarrel, he will no longer take the initiative to coax you as before, but pretend to be indifferent, ignore you, do not care and do not care.
Well, his attitude of not loving you is already obvious.
Only if you don't love, can you ignore and ignore when you are angry.
At this time, you don't have to make excuses for him in your heart.
Replying to your messages is getting slower and slower
You have been loved by him, and naturally you know what it is like when he loves someone.
In the same way, when he doesn't love you, you can detect it in the first place.
Take the reply to a message, for example.
When he loves you, his message from you must be seconds back;
Even if he receives messages from you and someone else at the same time, he will prioritize responding to your messages.
At this moment, you are the most important existence for him, and no one can compare to you with anything.
Of course, he also has times when he is slow to reply to your messages, but every time he will take the initiative to explain to you;
There is no need for you to ask him why he didn't respond to your message in time.
When he loves you, he will give you the security you want.
But once he doesn't love, then you are no longer the only one in his heart.
When he receives two messages at the same time, he no longer wants to reply to your messages, and even ignores your messages.
He's getting slower and slower to respond to your messages, and late messages are no longer actively explained.
These obvious changes before and after a man are actually the best proof of not loving.
No response, nothing to say
Some netizens asked: "In a relationship, what is a woman most afraid of?" ”
At the bottom, there was a high praise answer written into the hearts of many women: "No response, no words to say." ”
Yes, the most terrible thing about a relationship is that you didn't say anything at the beginning, but in the end you became speechless.
Once you, you have a strong desire to share with each other, sesame big and small things, will not be able to help but share with each other;
The other party will not dislike you for talking too much, think you are bored, but will respond to you positively.
But later, he began to dislike you and get annoyed, thinking that you talked too much, and that you were talking to him about everything.
As a result, he no longer responds to you and will no longer actively share it with you.
His world has closed its doors to you, you can't get in, and he won't come out voluntarily.
He began to look at the phone more important than you, and began to perfunctory the topic you actively looked for.
……
At this time, you don't have self-doubt, it's not that you talk too much;
It's that he doesn't love you anymore, so he will think that you talk a lot and think you are very annoying.
Love is like this, when he loves you, you are good at everything, everything is good,
Even if the whole body is full of shortcomings, he feels cute and thinks you are very good;
Once you don't love, even if you are full of advantages, he can't look at it.
So, when you realize he doesn't love you, stop fooling yourself.
Yishu once wrote in the book:
"In the journey of fate, the time for everyone to perform is prescribed, and it is doomed in the dark, and when it is time to leave, it is reluctant to leave the stage."
Indeed, when it's time to wave goodbye, don't dwell on it, let alone be reluctant to do so.