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Actor Ying Ruocheng once said such a thing: when he was young, there were always many people sitting around the family to eat together.
One day, he deliberately hid himself and wanted his family to be anxious. When it came time to eat, no one felt that there was one less person, and they still talked and laughed and ate happily.
When he was too hungry to do so, he climbed out disappointed and filled himself with a bowl of rice, but found that there were no more dishes on the table, and no one thought of leaving dishes for him.
In fact, people born in the 1960s and 1970s have had similar experiences. There are a few brothers and sisters in the family, and when eating, if the movement cannot be faster, they will quickly eat the meal.
The truth of "kong rong let the pear" can be reflected in the family that lacks food and clothing, but it will not always work. To be a human being, in the end, you still have to rely on yourself.
We must understand that as a person, we must ultimately rely on ourselves, do not take brothers and sisters too seriously, and do not overestimate each other's relationship.
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Siblings are a kind of network, but don't expect it all the time.
In ancient times, many arrogant people liked to "worship Jinlan". For example, the taoyuan three knots of righteousness allowed Liu to have two brothers with different surnames who were brothers and sisters, and later fought together and established the Shu kingdom.
In fact, many brothers come for some kind of benefit, not sincerely want to be good for a lifetime.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, there were two small states on the edge of the Jin Dynasty, namely the State of Yu and the State of Yu. For many years, The Duke of Jin had been eyeing these two countries and wanted to annex them.
One day, Jin Xiangong sent emissaries to yuguo and sent a lot of beautiful jade and good horses.
Through the exchange of courtesies, the good news is conveyed - from now on, the two countries are allies, as friendly as brothers.
Later, the army of the Jin State borrowed the Yu State to attack the State of Yu, and it became a situation in which brothers fought together.
After the annexation of the State of Yu, the soldiers of the State of Jin were tired and rested in the State of Yu for many days.
The soldiers were all well fed and drunk, and suddenly attacked Yu Guo, and it was easy to succeed.
Worship is false, annexation is true.
In real life, how many people, for the sake of profit, can be called brothers and brothers, once the ambition breaks out, they will immediately turn their faces and not recognize people. The duplicitous style is frightening.
The old patriarch advised us: "Brothers do not share wealth." ”
Brotherhood and sisterly interaction, some small matters of raising hands, can help at any time, but when it comes to issues of great interest, it is easy to turn against each other.
A lot of feelings are "peach, repay it", if you don't have the value of being used, or if you return too little to others, you will be looked down upon.
"Rich in the mountains have distant relatives, poor in the downtown no one asks", when you are down, you will understand that no one can rely on you except your parents who will selflessly help you. Siblings would rather send you a few thousand dollars than borrow a large sum of money from you.
Everyone has a small family, and they can't drag themselves down because they help their brothers and sisters. You should understand more, not complain or accuse.
Napoleon said: "There are not enough people to rely on, and to survive only need to rely on themselves." ”
At any age, don't rely too much on your siblings, and don't wait until the day of disappointment to realize how stupid you are.
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Brothers and sisters get too close, and it is inevitable that there will be contradictions.
"September 9th Remembrance of the Shandong Brothers" wrote: "The Remote Knowledge Brothers ascended to the heights, and there was one less person planted everywhere. ”
When we were young, when we studied this poem, we were touched by the poet's feelings of being far away from home and missing his family.
When I grew up, I found that I kept a distance from my brothers and sisters, there was very little friction, and I was often able to chat through WeChat, and at the time of the New Year's Festival, I would meet at my parents' house to eat and discuss family affairs.
If a large family lives together every day, the contradictions will increase rapidly.
Zhihuli, netizen "Bubble" said her troubles with her brother: when she was a child, she helped her parents do business and did everything, but her brother just played at home. When she was in college, her brother's living expenses were more than twice that of hers.
She was married, and her parents only wanted a bride price and did not care about the marriage.
The younger brother is in his thirties, his work is very general, he buys a car and a house, his parents pay for it, and he is usually a person and very uncultured. As a parent, not only do not educate criticism, but ask her to be more tolerant.
Netizen "Bubble" said: "I kind of understand, what brothers and sisters, people who are not good for you are not worth your kindness to him." Just take care of your family and parents. ”
When you get too close to your siblings, all of the other person's shortcomings will be exposed, and along with your parents' "eccentricity" will become a thorn in your heart.
When you become an adult, it is the right way to be separated from your extended family and live your own life.
Generally speaking, brothers and sisters get too close, and troubles such as "their own shortcomings, uneven distribution of family property, gossip, borrowing and repaying money" will follow.
Smart people know: "Seeing is pure." ”
You don't have to pay too much attention to other people's affairs, and you don't have to stare at them every day.
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Conclusion.
The Book of Verses reads: "Brothers lie on the wall, and insult them outside." ”
The contradiction between brothers and sisters is a family scandal, don't say it every time, when you encounter bullying from outsiders, you still have to unite as one and fight together.
Household chores should be divided into two parts, and cannot be taken to extremes. After all, the love of blood is the fate that God gave us, and we must learn to cherish it.
Everyone has their own virtues and faults, and you can't let the people around you, like you, understand you.
Find the best distance and way to get along, and the family will be more harmonious. Although, you don't rely on your brothers and sisters, you can't cut off the blood.
The Ming Dynasty thinker Huang Zongxi said: "Between flesh and bones, one more point of thickness means one more point of nature, and there is no need to be too clear about right and wrong." ”
Family conflicts cannot be put on the line, but we must keep a clear head, improve cognition, and make feelings lighter in order to be long-lasting.
Taking a step back from the sea and the sky, the generosity of brothers and sisters is the best attitude.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.