Two days ago, I just reviewed the style of urban girls in different regions with everyone, and Uncle Oxygen saw this news.
Chris North, who played the classic Diamond King Old Five Mr.Big in "Sex and the City", was accused of sexual assault by multiple women.
Although he questioned the women's motives in a statement to the media and stressed that both sides were voluntary in these "encounters", many viewers were still scratching the surface for Mr. Big's charm filter.
The lead actor of "Sex and the City" expressed his support for vocal women
Including the just-past perfect Kochi idol set collapse incident, many people are upset by another problem when they are uncomfortable with the injustice suffered by the other side of the event
- Oh my God, how could he be such a person?!
Yes, the perfect man who seems impeccable in every way may well have another side that is not known.
What is a perfect male?
They are generally tall and handsome in appearance, especially with a high-society elite face.
The economy is generous and golden, the behavior of a gentleman is dashing, the personality is also funny and humorous, and the magnifying glass can not pick out a single fault, which is enough to make any woman unable not to be moved, and the inner alarm bell is lifted "Help, I am going to fall in love."
But what kind of personality lurks under the seemingly perfect skin bag, and how they will use this deceptive appearance to hunt the opposite sex, it is unknown.
Uncle today to pick up such elite men, from the aesthetic logic to dissect their source of charm, to help everyone in the encounter with such people, can have a more sober cognition to protect themselves.
After all, it's time to disenchant men.
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The externalized performance of the sense of elite and the achievement of indicators
1. Elite face
What kind of face is a face that reflects the sense of high society elite?
Whether it is an Asian face or a European and American face, there are some commonalities in the facial structure of high intelligence, which can be summarized as two general directions of long proportion + high drop.
In terms of overall proportions, the narrow side of the middle and lower court is longer, which is more likely to produce a shrewd and mature sense of intelligence.
For example, many people will think that chris and comedian Rowan Atkinson have similarities in facial structure, but only a different proportion of face length is needed to distinguish between two temperament types: silly loyalty and scheming.
The two faces of Matthew McConaughey and Leonardo in "The Wolf of Wall Street" can also distinguish the difference between the elite face and the nouveau riche face.
In addition, elite faces have similar height advantages in the middle of the face. The brow bone is three-dimensional, the nose bridge is high, and the full T-zone structure outputs a high mental state and the emotional background of the gamer.
The deep eye sockets formed under the height difference, combined with thick eyebrows, are mixed with a hint of melancholy and deep in the infinite wind and amorous.
In addition, the thin lip + large cleft lip structure injects a calm emotion of thin emotion, forming a sense of caution that is difficult to open.
"Burning" Steven Yuan's upper face and Liu Yaren's bottom face, the lips are the most obvious temperament distinction
Lee Byung-hyun and Masaharu Fukuyama are also of this lip structure
Details such as a yuppon-style beard can also add embellishment to a unique elite taste.
Toyo Takeno Uchiha
In terms of the most common facial sharpness and contour form, Shu feels that these two points do not occupy the main factor.
Although the sharper the facial features, the clearer the contours and angles, and the sharper and more shrewd the human temperament, for this charismatic hidden elite face, it is necessary to avoid the sharpness of full fire, so that it can contain a little warm swallow, which can be used to soften the defense of prey.
2. Wear matching accessories
In terms of dressing, the formal suit killer is needless to say, and the straight and neat suit can perfectly present the sharp aura of the upper elite.
In daily life, the understated and simple but tasteful style of dress is their favorite.
Mainly low-saturation large-area solid color clothing, soft fabric, clean cut, valuable, highlighting the excellent economic foundation and leisurely life atmosphere, but also reflects the body contour with obvious traces of exercise.
In particular, the wide shoulders point to a calm and powerful aura that can be relied upon.
3. Conduct
Uncle felt that there were three points that were more important, eyes, voice and body language.
Eyes are a crucial factor in the composition of male charisma, and it is impossible to be indifferent and too shrewd.
They usually have a fluttering look from time to time outside of the powerful gaze, which brings an intriguing sense of mystery on the one hand, and an occasional juvenile mentality on the other hand, but more often it is the cunning that is transparent and not annoying to adults.
The voice is usually slow and calm, and the calmness of the nobleman's late speech can also make the listener feel involuntarily dependent and trusted.
In terms of body language, this still of "Burning" makes a good demonstration, compared to the cramped sitting posture of the unemployed youth Zhong Xiu at the bottom, the rich man's sitting posture is relaxed, and there is always a polite smile on his face, but this smile contains the sense of class superiority of watching playthings.
In addition, the details of the crossed arms actually have the meaning of defensive conservatism, and there is a sense of indifference and distance in the gentleman's temperament that rejects people in the invisible.
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Elite face hunting strategy
When the Mr. Big-style mode of interaction really appears in real life, we can observe from the practices that Chris is accused of doing to how this group of people completes the crushing and manipulation of women from a psychological level.
Their hunting process adheres to the "four noes" principle of "no initiative, no refusal, no commitment, and no responsibility":
The first step is to pick.
The three women who accused Chris were all in their twenties when they were hurt, had little social experience, and their self-will was relatively weak, and it was very easy to get lost under each other's bright starlight ring.
The first woman to speak up was only 22 years old at the time of the incident
The second step is to release the bait.
If you want to take the initiative to provoke, the gentleman interacts friendly to enhance his good feelings. In the previous preparation process, the offensive was active but polite, and when the girls finally unloaded their defenses, the masks were torn and the fangs were fully revealed.
After she explicitly said "no," Chris didn't stop
The final step, manipulation.
They will continue to assimilate each other with the determination to love themselves more than they love others, and the calm and composure that I know my scum, so that the other party will continue to lower the threshold of expectation and the bottom line.
At the same time, it will be accompanied by a strong desire for control and capricious emotions that are out of control, and even after the violent acts, they choose to cry and even kneel down to repent and ask for forgiveness.
In the face of such a deceptive and deceitful crowd, how can women avoid falling into such a relationship vortex?
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How to disenchant the anti-raiders
Before we get into this topic, let's take a look at the history of art's disenchantment.
Before the advent of modern art, traditional art was considered to have a redemptive function while expressing beauty, with its own veil of mystery.
With the development of scientific society, people's ways of thinking and values are also diversified, and the precision of science makes the aura of deification or demonization that hangs over human social phenomena be dispelled, and art is no longer full of charm and mystery.
This is the disenchantment process of art, in a word, to treat art as an ordinary thing, to break the aura, and to pull down the altar.
By extension, disenchantment is also true of relationships.
No longer add an aura cast by one's own desires to others, strip away all social identities, and treat the other person as an ordinary person in peace. Then the strengths and weaknesses of the other party, the motivation or purpose of the behavior, are also naturally revealed.
For example, in the Chris incident, stripping away the star aura brought to him by those film and television characters, you will find that this is nothing more than a greasy successful man, in a very arrogant and superior way, to send some irresponsible invitations to women who are diluted by excitement and sanity.
Actress Zoe Lister Jones, who has worked with Chris, puts it well, "Chris profits from women's fantasies about Mr. Big Mr. Big, which create environments that often create emotional confusion. ”
Jones, a very talented and vocal woman, has worked as an actor, screenwriter and director in niche films
And our disenchantment is precisely to break this illusion, so as to further break the confusion.
First of all, remember that there is no word "perfect" in the world.
The depth of sorrow and joy may only be a manifestation of emotional instability; the contrast between gentlemen and overlords may only be a disguise of morality, and the wind and currents are the universal shields of their various inferior qualities.
Don't fall into a perfect aura because the other person shows everything, and don't ask yourself to be perfect everywhere. Accepting imperfections and not deifying anyone is the first step in shaping one's own aesthetic.
Mindcatcher
In the end, in fact, all the cores eventually return to the "self".
Please put your feelings first, boldly love at the same time, but also from time to time to stop and ask yourself - how do I feel? When you feel uncomfortable, stop immediately and don't hesitate.
Just like in Sex and the City, Carrie will be caught in the entanglement with Mr. Big and often unable to extricate herself, but Samantha will never, because she loves herself so firmly.
Be brave enough to enjoy intimacy, but remember that the hope of life must be pinned on yourself.