The chain effect tells us: smile often, luck is not too bad.
Only optimistic people can control life.
Are you afraid of a person? For this question, everyone will have their own answer, in real life, in fact, being alone does not mean loneliness, a person who really knows how to enjoy loneliness is the most powerful.
Yang Yang is 26 years old this year, after graduating from college because of work reasons was assigned to a company internship, just arrived at the internship unit, Yang Yang is not adaptable, so it is basically difficult to get along with colleagues, for Yang Yang's attitude, colleagues will naturally have opinions, so everyone will be more rejected Yang Yang in life.
In the face of work, Yang Yang is basically meticulous in doing things, every time he encounters problems at work, Yang Yang will also take the initiative to take responsibility, but for the company's small group, Yang Yang's approach can not be exchanged for their good feelings, in the work, they are also trying to find ways to find a way to be difficult for Yang Yang.
Once, because of a mistake in work, they also blamed all the responsibility on Yang Yang's head, which also made Yang Yang's heart very unhappy.
Presumably after listening to this story, many people's hearts are full of mixed feelings, in fact, in real life, we will meet a variety of people.
But no matter who we meet, we should understand that we should not care about other people's opinions, we must learn to live for ourselves, and when others do not want to see you, you must learn to respect yourself well.
Loneliness is not terrible, in loneliness to become more excellent, in order to be able to make their own life to grow, such a state of life is the most beautiful, life in the world, we do not have to look at other people's faces to eat, the more you love yourself, the more others will respect you.
In life, you need to understand a truth, that is, the respect of others for you comes from your strength.
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Relatives, no matter how good the relationship, must know how to maintain a certain distance.
In fact, to put it bluntly, the relationship between people is an equivalent exchange of value in many cases, and when you do not have a certain ability and ability, others will not give you the same respect.
Relatives, even if there is blood relations, but also know how to keep a distance, because not everyone will take you as their own, when you have a certain ability, others will give you respect, but when you do not have the ability, others will not put you in the eyes, this is human nature.
Everyone is an independent individual, we do not need to rely on others to live in real life, there is no need to deliberately please others, everyone needs their own independent space, do not disturb each other, in fact, is also a kind of respect for each other.
The sense of proportion is the bottom line when we communicate with relatives, if people lose the sense of proportion between people, then in the end the feelings will become more and more strange.
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Between friends, there is a need to maintain value.
Some people may say that I have known him for so many years, so there is no need to care about those etiquettes between the two of them.
But in fact, this idea is not correct, because between friends, in fact, in many cases, also need to maintain value.
In today's society, everyone is trying to live, the adult world, everyone is busy.
Even as friends, two people need a certain value as a bond of affection, and if the direction and goal between the two of you become more and more distant, then the distance between you will change.
The respect of others for you comes from your use value, and the higher your value, the more others will care about you.
Society is real, and in life, no one wants to be your savior, so one thing we need to understand in the face of life is that only when you become strong yourself, others will put you in your eyes.
In life, we also have to learn to stay away from useless socializing, perhaps many people feel that the more people they know, the more connections they will have, in fact, this is not the truth, because the real network is managed by themselves.
Who you are, you will meet whom, and when you become more and more excellent, the attitude of others to you will naturally change.
Everyone is inseparable from interpersonal communication, everyone will have their own way of making friends, through a person's way of making friends, you can also see a person's personality characteristics.
Some people may feel that people with few friends must be bad in real life, but in fact, is this really the case? The answer is no, because the number of friends of a person does not prove the quality of this person.
On the contrary, in real life, those who really know how to enjoy loneliness are often fierce characters.
In fact, in real life, we don't have to force ourselves into an inappropriate circle, because this will only make your life more and more miserable.
Zhang Ailing once said: "Life is like a dance party, but the person who taught you the first dance steps may not be able to accompany you to the end." ”
A person who knows how to enjoy loneliness is often because he knows how to grow, and in real life, only when you can really understand the meaning of life can you become happy and happy.
Life is not about pandering to others, it's about being able to please yourself.