Wang Lihong's melon, does anyone still not know?
From the beginning, it is probably like this: At 11:00 p.m. on December 17, Wang Lihong's wife Li Lianglei (Wang Lihong had announced his divorce a few days earlier) posted a blog, breaking out the news that Wang Lihong had cheated on her, dating pao, and chaotic private life, and claimed that Wang had transferred marital property behind her back, resulting in her 8 years after marriage.
In the following few days, the two parties have come and gone several times, and every time the relevant person posts, it will cause a wave of Internet waves. Netizens have claimed to be the monkeys in the melon field, and eating melon has been eaten almost.
When there was a hot search two days ago, I was at home for the weekend. As a self-media person, the heart of rubbing heat still exists. But looking at the rollovers in the entertainment industry this year, I am already immune and have no interest in the hot news.
Since it is a human design, there will always be a day of collapse, but it is only a matter of early collapse and late collapse, big collapse and small collapse.
But this time Li Lianglei's identity is a full-time mother, and the post mentioned the rights and interests of full-time women and follow-up thoughts, I can't help but say a few words.
Saying the same thing, different people can always get different interpretations from it. So, Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong's divorce tearing each other apart, what do you get out of it? Is it the incredible sound of someone's image collapsing, the joy of jumping up and down while eating melon, or something else?
◆ Stay-at-home moms are risky, what are the risks you face?
Li Lianglei is not an ordinary full-time mother, it is said that she had a good family background before she was unmarried, she was also a graduate of a famous school, and she once served as a vice president of a multinational company.
But even such a person is still "ten years older than me by my husband and family, constantly spawning, having three children in five years", "basically spending time in childbirth, postpartum recovery and taking a baby after marriage", and when divorcing, he found that marital assets were quietly transferred, and he had nothing to gain, and was in a very passive position.
What about ordinary people?
I once wrote one
"If you have the idea of resigning and taking a baby, I advise you to read this article, and the stakes are clear at a glance."
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There are many comments at the bottom of the article, some talk about their full-time suffering, and some question that I see the situation of full-time mothers as too bad, think that my tone is pessimistic, and raise the risk of full-time mothers.
Here I would like to remind you women who are still working as full-time mothers, combined with their own situation, check the following conditions, how high the risk you face?
Is it in your hands that you have the financial power of the family?
I have a friend who chose to be a stay-at-home mother because of family reasons, on the premise that her husband's salary should be managed by her. Her husband happily agreed, she was a full-time mother with a solid heart and determination, and the whole family was warm and loving.
But if the stay-at-home mother does not have the right to economic freedom, all the expenses in the family must be reported to the husband and approved by the husband, and such a full-time mother will become more and more depressed.
Remember the "stay-at-home mom grocery shopping" incident that was hot on the Internet before? A stay-at-home mother, because she bought some meat and vegetables in the supermarket, did not have money to let her husband transfer money, and was reprimanded and humiliated by her husband.
For people with strong self-esteem, it is already difficult to just open their mouths and ask for money, and if they are questioned by their husbands and ask to see what they buy, it is almost like being humiliated. But the stay-at-home mom showed her husband what was in her shopping cart.
After seeing what he bought, my husband was still questioning. Mom explained that the ribs and milk were bought for the mother-in-law. I originally thought that this man would have nothing to say, and the result was suffocating.
The follow-up of the matter is that Bao Mama had to send a message to her husband to ask him to transfer money because she was waiting for the checkout at the supermarket counter, and as a result, her husband questioned him and refused to give it for a long time. Bao Mom lost patience, she couldn't afford to lose this person, she didn't want this money anymore, and she had already left. But the husband still did not forgive, but accused Bao Ma of "really difficult to do.".
A few screenshots vividly reflect the humility of the stay-at-home mother and the inconsiderate and disrespectful behavior of the husband at home.
As the biggest contributor to family parenting, the stable rear of family operation, full-time mothers require their husbands to pay wages, which is a reasonable guarantee for their rights and interests, at least the husband must give the daily expenses of the family and the costs spent on the children every month.
But if you are a full-time mother, you have to ask your husband for money when buying meat and vegetables every day, ask your husband for money when your children report to work, and your husband is not happy to give, and you have to question whether you spend randomly from time to time, then you must be vigilant.
This shows that your position at home as a stay-at-home mom is in jeopardy.
Do your husband and family (especially your in-laws) approve of your full-time job?
As a stay-at-home mother, it is not hard to raise children and take care of housework. But not all family members will see your hard work in their eyes.
If the family does not approve, or does not care, or even thinks that you are very idle at home and do not work, especially the father of the child, and his husband also thinks so, then your hard work will become a bubble.
As for how to reflect the recognition, see Article 1. When it comes to family expenses, whether the husband pays money and is profitable, whether there is a "wife is hard" in the words, whether you have the patience to appease when you are entangled in housework and are irritable, you can see his recognition of your "full-time mother" identity.
Assuming you have the opportunity to return to the workplace the next day, do you have the ability to do it yourself?
The mountain will fall, everyone will run, and the most reliable one in this year is only oneself.
In this way, you will not change your heart or dislike your husband, or be suppressed and humiliated by all kinds, or even be shouted by people: "If you have the ability, you will leave, don't rely on me to raise you!" When you can have the courage to start over and stand on your own.
This requires full-time mothers to learn to recharge between the baby, do not leave behind the previous professional skills, or see the opportunity to learn some new skills, so that they have the ability to go out of the mountain at any time.
Most importantly, before deciding to return to the family as a stay-at-home mother, we must think carefully and make full plans, and do not think that it is "selfless dedication", but instead are trapped and eaten, and life is passive everywhere.
【Topic Discussion: Have you ever been a stay-at-home mother?】 What do you think of this group? 】
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