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People are free of charge in middle age.
Middle age is the most difficult time to endure, but also the most prone to confusion. The burden of life is very heavy, the pressure of the body is very large, and the heart is often full of anxiety.
There are some people who have tossed and turned a few times and failed; there are also some people, tossing and turning, and they have become kings.
No one tells you how to toss it, you have to find out for yourself. But there are always some routines that are suitable for everyone. Don't know too late.
02
When people reach middle age, they learn to be fierce.
The ancients said: "Mercy does not control the army, affection does not establish things, righteousness does not manage money, and goodness does not serve as an official." ”
When people reach middle age, they are the head of the family, the workers in the workplace, or the hipsters in society. No matter which role you are, you have to push yourself hard, don't be too kind.
In "Water Margin", Lin Chong was the godhead of the 800,000 forbidden army, dancing with guns and sticks, and was a hero.
One day, Gao Yanei, the adopted son of The Great Lieutenant Gao Qi, met Lin Chong's wife, Zhang Shi, moved evil thoughts, and did something disgraceful.
Lin Chong arrived in time and drove away Gao Yunei. It also offended Gao Li because of this.
His friend Lu Qian knew that Lin Chong was in difficulty, and not only did he not help, but instead became a helper for the sake of his official position and money.
For the deception and harm of his friends, Lin Chong softened his heart and did not care. He was then further framed and sent to Cangzhou. Later, Lin Chong's family broke his wife and died, fell into the grass and went to Liangshan.
We can't believe the stories in the novel, but we can't believe them either.
In the workplace, you tolerate everything, and colleagues will not think that you are a good person, but will become more and more aggressive and throw things and mistakes at you. In terms of promotion and salary increase, if you don't compete, you will not have the opportunity to rise.
In the family, you don't know how to force your children to study hard, then you are derelict in your duties. After your children learn badly, no matter how much ability you have, you will also be affected by them. A loser can destroy a home.
When couples get along, you have to force your lover to do something, and you can't nourish your lover's inertia. As the saying goes: "Husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken." "No matter how great a person's strength is, he still needs a virtuous helper."
In the social arena, don't trust others easily. Eating and drinking makes you drunk and your body collapses, which is useless. If you refuse fiercely, you will not waste time and energy. For those who are two-faced and three-faced, they should break off diplomatic relations in time.
You yourself should be self-disciplined, no matter how difficult it is at the moment, don't "loosely" live your life. The days you have mixed up today will be repaid twice in the future. Reading, working, exercising, thinking, choosing a career... Nothing less.
The writer YiShu said: "This world is like a big circus, the class owner is called 'life', standing behind us with a leather whip and beating hard, forcing us to jump the circle of fire and go up the knife mountain, do you dare not go?" The leather whip sounded, clenched his teeth fiercely, and went up. ”
What's so good about the present world? There is only a chaotic life of soldiers. If you are not ruthless, the road ahead can only be covered with thorns.
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When people reach middle age, stabilize their bodies.
In "The Legend of the Archery Hero", Guo Jing was originally a stupid person, but he relied on diligent study and hard work to have the ability to wear Yang in a hundred steps.
"Pick up the bow and arrow, kneel on the ground on your right knee, grasp the bow with your left hand, stabilize it, and then pull the string with your right hand and put on the arrow." Watching the eagle fly over, aim, the five fingers of the right hand are released, and the arrow shaft gallops out..."
Guo Jing's technique of archery is greatly admirable.
In fact, middle-aged people must be stable in order to do better. After all, he was no longer the hairy boy, doing things with a big grin, and starting over when he failed.
The I Ching reads: "It is difficult to know at the beginning, but it is easy to know on the top." ”
Any one thing is difficult at first, but you can't be discouraged, and you can't give up easily. Stick to a certain time, you will find the law, and then it will be much easier.
For example, if you want to be a chef, you have to not only study, but also learn from a teacher. When it comes to the step of opening your own store, it is the real beginning.
As the saying goes, "The master introduces the door, and the practice is in the individual." "Along the way, as long as you stabilize yourself, you can go farther and farther."
In addition to your posture to be stable, you also need to be stable and healthy. Working overtime and staying up late seems to be the norm for middle-aged people. Truly intelligent people have long given up the method of "exchanging their bodies for money", preferring to give up some benefits and make time to exercise.
Middle-aged people who can go to bed early and get up early and eat well are even more powerful.
04
When people reach middle age, they have a ruler.
As the saying goes, "Silence is golden." ”
A person who does not speak will be particularly elegant and will also become a wise bystander.
But how can a person not speak? Middle-aged people, you do not communicate with people, it is difficult to succeed, often play dumb puzzles with people. Always leave some time to interact with others.
Doing things is IQ, talking is emotional intelligence. The key to how to speak is to grasp the scale and make others comfortable.
The host Luo Zhenyu once said that when he went to participate in the study and training, a classmate introduced himself, which was particularly wonderful.
Classmates said: "I studied everyone here, who struggled in the same city as me a few years ago; who stayed in a certain unit; who got what rewards where..."
In a word, the people present have become their own "acquaintances", and this emotional card is played just right.
Study others, speak in a targeted way, and grasp the gist. With that said, there's less nonsense and more effective words.
Everyone is busy and has no time to nag with you. So you have to do some homework before chatting. While it's important to act opportunistically, it's even more important to be "concise and in a word."
Of course, no matter what you say, you have to take the corresponding responsibility, even if it is a joke. It's really important to express your demands accurately.
05
The heart of the people is fierce, is a person's greatest bravery, is after stumbling, still look up, try to move forward. Take care of yourself, take your family with you, and walk in unison.
The body should be stable, to cope with the changes unchanged, to achieve a better self with wisdom and strength, and to continue to maintain physical health, leaving a hardest bottom card.
To be accurate in speech is to know how to seriously analyze the strength of speech, grasp the scale of speech, talk less nonsense, and treat people gently.
When people reach middle age, as soon as they open their eyes, there are people who rely on themselves everywhere, and you have no one to rely on. Only by learning to shake hands with the world and make peace will you get more from this world.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.