01
Confucius believed that fifty and knowing the Mandate of Heaven.
What is the "Mandate of Heaven"? In fact, it is not so mysterious, the so-called "knowing the destiny of heaven" is just that people know the laws of heaven and earth, understand the rules of the world, and know how to deal with the world.
When you live "transparently", then you have reached the realm of "knowing the Destiny of Heaven".
When the material desire is relatively weak, people can easily have a transparent heart. But in this materialistic society, most people will be bound by "materialism" and live into a more entangled and persistent appearance.
What happens when human nature is paired with extreme materialism? In fact, people will choose to "show off" in order to gain their own face and win their external reputation.
When people have small achievements, I believe that many people will show up and let others know their strength. This is the manifestation of modern people's frivolous life and lack of transparency.
You know, being too "ostentatious" is not a good thing. The so-called "wood shows in the forest, the wind will destroy it" is this truth.
When people reach fifty, don't show these five things anymore, it seems to have face, but it will actually hurt you.
02
When a person reaches fifty, he will no longer show "money."
Money, which is the most "tempting" thing in the world. In Napoleon's view, money can make people angels, but also can make people become devils. The latter, on the other hand, tend to account for the majority.
The so-called "man dies for money, and the bird dies for eating." ”
For the sake of money and fame, people will choose to fight with their lives. For the sake of gold and silver jewelry, people will choose to turn their faces and not recognize people. When they saw the money, crooked thoughts appeared.
If you reveal your money, it is like hanging a piece of fat meat in front of your house, which will definitely attract the competition of jackals and tigers and leopards. In the end, it is not others who suffer, but yourself.
As the saying goes, "The goods do not leave the body, and the wealth is not revealed." ”
Whether you go out to do business or go out to work, don't easily leave your luggage and reveal your belongings. This is a particularly dangerous thing.
03
When a person reaches fifty, he will no longer reveal his "family background".
In addition to money, there is also a family that is closely related to everyone. A "home" word has become the weakness and weakness of countless people.
When working hard in the jianghu, why do we often say that "it is not as bad as the wife, children and parents"?
Because the loved ones in the family are our last bottom line. Once something goes wrong with them, then no matter how much money we have, it won't help.
When interacting with people, you can talk about trivial things in life, but you must not talk about the problem of "family bottom". Your family background will eventually become a weakness for others to pinch you.
Especially in the workplace, some people like to paraphrase your words or listen to your family problems, the purpose is to "know each other and know each other". Therefore, to keep family secrets is to protect the safety of yourself and your family.
04
When a person reaches fifty, he will no longer show his "achievements."
We all know that this is a world of "unkindness". You mix well, others are not happy. You don't mix well, but others are particularly happy.
Especially your relatives, as soon as they see that you are mixed well, will definitely try their best to target you. Why? Everyone wants to be good and not to want others to be happy. This is the reality of "human nature is selfish".
In order to avoid the "targeting" of others as much as possible, we need to be low-key, do things in a low-key manner, don't show your achievements everywhere, and don't show your abilities too much.
Just imagine, your performance at the end of the year is good, take a little more bonus, then who hates you the most? Definitely a colleague around you.
That being the case, we might as well talk less and do more. Maybe others will be a little less hostile to you.
05
When a person reaches fifty, he should no longer show the "child" thing.
As parents, when our children have achieved something, we will definitely be very happy. However, we should not show too much the achievements of the child, otherwise it will harm the child.
I have seen such an example.
As soon as Lao Chen's children graduated, they helped the boss get a project and helped the boss make a lot of money. That year, Lao Chen's son earned half a million. For Lao Chen, this is already a big amount.
Therefore, Lao Chen sent his child's achievements to the circle of friends. Who knows, outsiders have liked it, and relatives and friends have not liked a single one. Later, Lao Chen also heard rumors about his children from relatives.
After this experience, Lao Chen understood that what the child has achieved, his family knows it, there is no need to let the relatives and friends around him know.
In order for our children to live well, we parents should keep a low profile, and we must not show our children's achievements for the sake of face.
06
When a person reaches fifty, he should no longer show the problem of "interpersonal relations".
Many people like to say things like this - "I am particularly good with so-and-so", "I am particularly bad with so-and-so", "I have any interests with him".
Words like the above about "interpersonal relationships" are better to say less. To be heard by the heartless, there is nothing wrong with that. But if he is heard by a person with malicious intentions, he will definitely stir up dissension.
The human heart is ultimately unpredictable. Human nature, after all, is complicated. Maybe your every move, every word, will affect your current situation.
In order to maintain good interpersonal relations, in order to have more friends and fewer enemies around, then we should not show personal "interpersonal relationships". It is better to be silent than to say more.
The so-called "silence is gold, and more words will be lost" is this truth.
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