Heartfelt Words to Sisters - "Grassroots Women"
Is a book a five-star positive or not? "Wayward Reading", give him a good look, give you a good listen.
Hello everyone, I am a grassroots female almond lu,
Today, I bring you this copy of Wang Huiling's "Grassroots Women",
Listen to the heartfelt words of grassroots women to their sisters.
Although the author is not a literary person, this work is not so gorgeous and beautiful,
But Almond Lu still has to give a 5-star recommendation.
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The book is full of the author's gentle and wise answers to various questions. Almond Lu 5 star recommended.
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This book is officially announced
Let's first introduce the author, the author Wang Huiling, is a woman from rural Anhui.
According to the information, Wang Huiling has more than 1 million fans on the short video platform, everyone calls her "Lingling Sister", "Lingling Sister" became popular from a short video called "Grassroots Women's Marriage Dilemma", and her own experience is a story about how grassroots women escape their fate.
In the video, a woman who is as kind as the sister next door tells her views on the original family, personal growth, and marriage and love relationship. She likens personal growth to "building a house" and marriage to "two people working together to open a company", encouraging "grassroots women" to get rid of the shackles of the environment and concepts on their own, escape from difficulties, and grasp their destiny.
Wang Huiling defines most fans as "grassroots women" — a group of women from rural or township areas who are not highly educated and generally marry and have children at an earlier age. Among the fans, although there are also women from big cities and highly educated, Wang Huiling believes that many people are still in the state of "grassroots" in quotation marks spiritually. In Wang Huiling's live broadcast room, these women shared their various troubles, some people escaped domestic violence with Wang Huiling's encouragement, some people repeatedly told but never had the courage to change, and some people just listened to other people's stories and gained some firm strength.
Wang Huiling's own experience is a story about how grassroots women escaped from fate. She was born in rural Anhui, did not go to high school, went out to work at the age of 19, started a business for ten years, japanese level, fluent in English, good at illustration, and recently published this book called "Grassroots Women".
But in Wang Huiling's self-description, her life was not a sudden counterattack, but "arched forward like an earthworm section by section."
Introduced here, I believe that everyone has a clearer understanding of the author, let's take a look at the official announcement of this "Grassroots Women":
Because of a short video about the marriage plight of grassroots women, the author Wang Huiling has embarked on a hot search and also entered the public eye. In the video, she uses the metaphor of starting a company to tell how women should better protect themselves under the current maternity welfare system. Wang Huiling produced a series of videos to explain her views on marriage and love, involving the original family, love and fertility, strong and weak relationships, as well as dating culture, dress freedom, etc., almost every video content has aroused heated attention and discussion.
This book is born out of this series of short videos, closely focusing on the current hot issues of gender rights and interests, through the three themes of original family, self-growth, and gender relations, discussing how women can get rid of the shackles of the environment and concepts, correctly treat love and marriage, and become a spiritual and material independent woman.
The author defines the object of narration as a group of women who are not independent of spirit and material. There are two reasons for this choice: first, in the author's view, grassroots women who are difficult to be independent are in a weak position in the current marriage system, and the difficulties they encounter are both unique and universal to all women; second, the author's own life is a story of escaping the fate of grassroots women, she is glad for this, and hopes to encourage more women to escape from the predicament, grasp the fate, and become an independent self.
With regard to equality between men and women, she said —
This should not be something that needs to be told repeatedly.
Regarding age anxiety, she said —
People who like themselves will not have age pressure.
About anxiety, she said —
People who live in the moment don't get anxious.
About marriage, she said —
Marriage does not talk about love, but about business.
About stay-at-home moms, she said —
There are no stay-at-home moms, only housewives.
Regarding fertility, she said —
Women have to bear children for themselves.
The official announcement believes that as an Internet celebrity and a grassroots female representative, she is doing a small and great thing -
Speak up for grassroots women who are speechless.
Almond Lu has begun to appreciate the author's author and content after understanding the author's experience and the ins and outs of the book. So what do readers think?
The first reader said: The sister just talked about something that should be "common sense" in quotation marks. But just that was enough for the sisters to wake up. Wake up, sisters.
The second reader said that today I realized that my behavior patterns are still influenced by childhood and youth. But when I realized that, that was the beginning of my change, so I bought a lot of books about women. Looking forward to awakening and growth.
There are also different opinions, some readers said that it is a book that people who need it will find very good; people who do not need it will feel that such a simple truth why do they need a book?
Some people also say that the title of the book is "such a big breath", and they think that it is a survey and research for the grass-roots women's group, but it is actually the author's life advice and suggestions for grass-roots women.
Almond Lu would like to say that I also misunderstood when I saw the title of the book. There are also some remarks in the comments that stand and talk without waist pain, thinking that the book is too shallow and too chicken soup. Almond Lu is not very supportive of their opinion, and perhaps this part of the reader is really lucky and does not need such knowledge; but Almond Lu still has to recommend this book for women who really need someone to talk to each other.
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The wayward reader Almond Lu sees it this way
There are many books on women's awakening and female strength, most of which guide women to be independent and strive hard.
And this "Grassroots Women" is different, most of the examples in the book occur in the countryside, the heroine in the book has a poor family, a low level of education, not many friends around, and even relatives and friends will be very harsh on women. In the face of such a situation, this "Grassroots Women" can be said to have opened a bright skylight for the sisters.
"Grassroots Women", a book that is not thick, each paragraph is short, and the reason is very simple. Author Wang Huiling has established her central idea from the beginning of the preface: I am a grassroots woman, I solve problems for grassroots women, and I speak for grassroots women.
In the preface, Wang Huiling briefly introduced her own experience, and many of her experiences are related to the knowledge she has learned, including how she herself got out of the influence of her original family, how to get out of the predicament, and strive to move forward.
In fact, the whole book can be divided into three parts: the original family, marital feelings, and having children. The text in the book is plain, simple and sincere, which is easy to absorb and easy to remember.
Almond Lu looked at it and reminded herself from time to time to jump out, not only to judge this book from the perspective of "the director of the "Wayward Reading" program", but also to substitute for the situation faced by grassroots women in the predicament that Wang Huiling really pointed to. Can they understand it, can they listen to it?
Almond Lu believes that the answer is yes, who does not want such a confidant sister to put forward pertinent and practical advice from the perspective of caring for the sister? There will be no moral kidnapping, much less high-pitched, but genuine concern for the needs and difficulties of sisters.
For example, articles such as "You are your own backer", "Live a life that is not kidnapped", "True selfishness is emotional blackmail in the name of love", etc., teach grassroots women to be brave and correct to love.
"The contradiction between the choice of spouses caused by the deviation of the consciousness of men and women" and "avoid falling into a dangerous relationship between the sexes" teach grassroots women to correctly face the problems in marriage.
"There is no way out of working for the family", "To have children for yourself", "Let go of the moral kidnapping between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", these articles point out the direction of family life for grass-roots women.
The author's view of the original family and marriage is very transparent - Wang Huiling believes that after adulthood, it is necessary to "wean" spiritually, establish boundaries with the original family, adjust the mode of getting along with the family to the state of friends, keep a distance, and respect each other.
Regarding marriage, she also put forward her point of view, marriage is an economic behavior, only when the husband and wife share risks, create value, and ensure the maximization of their respective interests, marriage will be long-lasting, the core of marriage is not love, but win-win cooperation.
As a woman, I can't help but be very sober and transparent when I can see such a reality.
Grassroots women trapped in feudal traditions can have such a confidant sister and have such a book, which is indeed a great benefit. Even successful women in cities may wish to read this book to absorb the strength of women.
Wang Huiling's "Grassroots Women", almond Lu 5 star recommendation.
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