The knife cuts the tofu on both sides of the light, which is the creed that Du Yuesheng believed in all his life.
He once said that there are three bowls of "noodles" in life that are difficult to eat, one bowl is love noodles, one bowl is decent, and one bowl is a scene.
Why is it the first thing that is hard to eat, rather than decency and spectacle?
Decent look at the dress and temperament, the scene looks at the financial strength and momentum, whether it is decent or not, it is a scene, what is said is just a "money" word, although Du Yuesheng fell in his early years, but since his beginnings, he has never lacked money.
Before his death, he once said: "The foreign tungsten I have handled in my life is not only hundreds of millions." From these short dozen words, it can also be seen that he had a strong financial resource at that time, so decency and scenes were only small meanings for him after all.
After all, although Du Yuesheng is famous for spending money, he is also famous for making money.
The reason why Du Yuesheng thinks that love is the most difficult to eat is because human exchanges may need money to open up, but money may not be able to maintain a hard-won human relationship.
If there is only money and no human interaction, the relationship can easily be broken.
Only when human feelings are the mainstay and money is supplemented, will it be unbreakable.
Why was Du Yuesheng able to achieve such success, rising from a helpless little gangster to a generation of tycoons in Shanghai Beach? What he relied on most was the "human network" he had woven with his own hands covering both black and white, military, political, and business circles, and he used money to open the way and exchange his sincerity for friendship.
Even Zhang Taiyan, who scolded the most fiercely, was a madman who gave Du Yuesheng a thumbs up and praised him, was it really just because Du Yuesheng had taken money to fund him? Non also! The "pen" in the hand of the zhang madman, how many people want to buy it! If he really wanted money, why would he condescend to lower his hand to a jianghu man?
He impressed Zhang Madman by relying on a "sincere" word and a "humble" word, although he started by the underworld, but later when many people evaluated him, they said that he had the style of an ancient gentleman.
Du Yuesheng treats people with sincerity, treats people with humility, treats people with righteousness, goes up to military and political dignitaries, and goes down to the three religions and nine streams in the rivers and lakes.
Therefore, he can never say that "men who do not smoke and drink shall not have sex", which is not in line with the life creed of "cutting tofu with a knife and cutting two sides of light".
What's more, the most reliable and important partner and friend in Du Yuesheng's life is a person who does not smoke or drink, and when this person died in an accident, Du Yuesheng was so excited that he once wanted to climb the window and jump off the building!
Who is this friend of his who doesn't smoke and doesn't drink? The boss with the last name, Dai.
Du and Dai have many similarities in their experiences, they have both been in Shanghai, the only difference is that Du Yuesheng succeeded in Shanghai, but Dai was always a small slug in Shanghai, until he went south to Guangzhou to usher in a turning point in his life, and he was out of control.
In addition, they were all once proficient who ate, drank, gambled, and gambled, but in order to climb up, in order to become superiors, they all gave up their bad habits and bad habits.
Du Yuesheng has the habit of smoking opium, but as long as Dai comes to see him, he will inevitably put away the smoking utensils and let people remove the smell of smoke, because Dai does not like him to smoke opium and does not let him smoke opium.
Is it because Du is afraid to wear it? This is not the case, because he knows that it is for his own good.
But anyone who is familiar with Du Yuesheng or who has seen his photographs should know that he is very emaciated, although it may be due to malnutrition since childhood, but there are more or less reasons for his opium smoking, in addition to his asthma, opium smoking will cause a very bad impact on his body.
This is the reason why Dai did not let him smoke opium, their friendship began when Dai Wei was at the end, but it has always been very strong.
Would Du Yuesheng not make friends with Dai because he didn't smoke or drink? Obviously not, Dai is not only Du's best friend, but also his patron above the temple.
Therefore, Du Yuesheng would never be able to say that "men who do not smoke or drink shall not be able to make friends", and it is impossible to judge whether a person can be handed over or not through tobacco and alcohol.
For Du Yuesheng's biography, Confused Jun has also read many versions, and has never seen Du Yuesheng say such a thing.
Since Du Yuesheng did not say that "men who do not smoke and drink are not allowed to have sex", then why would anyone have such an outrageous idea?
The reason why some people will say that "men who do not smoke and drink cannot be handed over" is actually not that they cannot be handed over, they are unwilling to pay, and they are afraid to pay.
There is now a popular saying, "Tattoos are not necessarily bad girls, but good girls will never get tattoos", this sentence does make some sense from today's social culture.
In a very traditional understanding, smoking and alcoholism is a bad culture, so it will give people the illusion that smoking and drinking are not good people.
Therefore, when men who love to smoke and love to drink meet men who do not love to smoke and drink, some people will have a kind of inferiority and hostility psychologically: I smoke and drink, I am not a good person, you do not smoke and do not drink, you are a good person, then you don't play with me, if you want to play with me, smoke and drink.
To put it bluntly, pull you into the water.
In fact, whether you smoke or drink, whether you smoke or drink, this cannot be the criterion for judging whether a person can be handed over, and there is no need to stick to it.
The three views of smokers and drinkers and those who do not smoke and drink may not necessarily be compatible, just as the friendship between Du and Dai is even so.