Don't get bogged down in the innings, and thank you for pointing out the puzzle for you

Some time ago, I talked to my friends about making money.

A friend said that his friend owed an online loan in his early 100,000 years, and he did not dare to let his family know. I had to bear it alone, working two jobs a day, and I had to rest until the early hours of the morning every day.

Friends said that this is too tired, coupled with staying up late, the body can not eat at all, it is not good for the body.

I directly shook it up, don't you stay up late to read novels without hurting your body? People at least know how to pay for their actions.

My friend laughed at my words.

We all have a hard time admitting our mistakes.

The opening chapter of the book "The Weakness of Human Nature" mentions this point:

When one of the two-gunners was caught, he wrote: "In my clothes is a tired heart, a benevolent heart, a heart that will never hurt anyone else." ”

But the gunman shot and killed a policeman shortly before he was caught.

And this is what the gunman said, "In my clothes is a tired heart, a benevolent heart, a heart that will never hurt others." ”

When he walks to the execution chamber and sits in the electric chair of the death penalty, do you think he will confess and say something like, "This is the end of my many unrighteous and sinful deeds"? No! His last words before he died were: "I killed people in self-defense." ”

We are not willing to admit our mistakes, so we try to make excuses for ourselves.

So will I, and so will you, and will be like my friend.

Because we are caught in our own puzzle, we will subconsciously think that we are right, and we will argue with more people to prove that we are right and how kind we are.

I once saw a story on the Internet, which is a bit vague, but the general meaning is still profound.

When a person realizes that he is really wrong, he will try to demean the other person in front of the people around him as much as possible, so that he will appear less bad.

This may be the case with human nature.

When adults point out a child's mistake, the child will cover it up by crying. But when we grow up, no one points out our mistakes for us, because it will be resented by another person and gradually alienated.

We all want to make the right choices and don't want the people around us to deny it, and they don't want to do this thankless thing.

But there will still be one or two people who risk being cut off by you and will still firmly point out that you have deviated from the course.

Pandering to them will too, but why are they just staring at you?

Because they are genuinely making you a friend, the way they treat you may be very different from others.

They can also be panders to please you, but they know clearly that pandering to you will only make you go farther and farther, thus losing yourself, and there is a so-called ego.

They will be more of a bad person in front of you, just like your parents when you were a child, they all want you to be a decent and well-behaved person, don't want you to go astray, and enjoy it, until you hit the south wall and don't want to turn back.

Nor is it that they have superior knowledge and experience, simply because they are outsiders.

Cherish the people who point out your mistakes, not everyone can meet such a person or two, think about the opinions they give.

Don't get lost in the innings, outsiders always see clearer than the insiders.