In the past few days, a few friends in the group suddenly began to scold the Gemini man, a stone stirred up a thousand waves, and the friends who had fallen in love with the Gemini jumped out, and I watched them scold there for almost two days...
In fact, scolding is the same problem.
There is no communication when there is a contradiction, there is no solution to the problem, a quarrel will escape, if you are in a hurry, you dare to say anything, and when you are finished, you pretend to be dead as if it has nothing to do with him. If you turn the page, he will ask you for an explanation, but if he turns the page, he will not admit it.
Some friends may not understand that this is obviously seven questions, why is it the same problem.
In fact, this problem refers to the fact that Gemini is not a person who likes to deal with negative emotions in feelings, and does not like to analyze with each other in a serious way who is responsible for this mistake. If the other party says that they are wrong, Gemini will feel very wronged, if you have to say that the other party is wrong, Gemini will feel too harsh.
This tense atmosphere will make Gemini particularly embarrassed, and it will be embarrassing to confide in each other that they will be embarrassed, and they will be questioned by the other party why they are more embarrassed.
To put it bluntly, it is the embarrassing moment when Gemini hates everything in the relationship.
It would be embarrassing to say "I love you", and it would be even more embarrassing to be asked "Do you love me".
At this point, people may ask, "Isn't this a gem's own problem?" Shouldn't there be expression, communication, and mutual penetration in feelings? Can running away from embarrassment solve the problem? ”
Yes, this is where the problem lies, in fact, Gemini himself knows that this is his own problem, but he still has to deal with it this way.
Because in gemini's view of feelings, the most important point is that you must put yourself in a natural and comfortable state, and you must not go against your heart.
If you let yourself get tangled, Gemini will definitely doubt feelings, doubt each other, doubt themselves.
For example, Gemini feels that he has not made any mistakes, and you run to him and ask, "Do you really love me?"?
At this moment, the twins were blindfolded, "Ah, has he suffered such a great grievance with me?" "Then how should I answer?" Do you mean to say that you love it? "Then why can't I say it?" "I can't say it because I don't love enough?" ”
You asked this question directly to Gemini.
Love or not love?
Is it that your own love is like this, which is unacceptable?
Is it true that people like myself will always disappoint others?
Then don't love, don't harm others.
It may not be that in the end it is no longer who is right and who is wrong, how to communicate, how to solve the problem, but directly to the Gemini to be autistic.
He tried to live together well, and also tried to treat it with sincerity, but in the process of his own efforts, as long as he was poured a basin of cold water, he found that the other party did not seem to see his own change, and the twins simply "willfully" showed each other.
As long as he is trapped in embarrassment, contradiction, entanglement, the whole person is very tight, and constantly thinking about these feelings and relationships, he will definitely collapse at some point.
And when he broke, it was not that he felt absolutely rational that it was inappropriate, or that he wanted to give up absolutely emotionally, but that he was awake, relaxed, and figured out in an instant.
Why let a person, a relationship make you so tired.
If it is not appropriate, don't be together, what is the meaning of arguing?
Suddenly, he doesn't want anything anymore, what do you say to communicate, what's the point?
At this moment, all the grievances rushed into his heart together, and he felt that it was no longer a problem to solve the current contradictions, because as long as the two people were inappropriate, there would be a steady stream of friction and contradictions, which could never be dealt with.
So, he only hopes to meet someone who, in the event of a conflict, can not let himself fall into hysteria and self-doubt.
Obviously, as long as you get to that state, it shows that the other party does not know enough about himself, is not the person he wants, and does not solve any problem to stabilize the relationship.
Therefore, Gemini knows that he has certain problems, but he still will not change, because he cannot change.
Of course, he wouldn't open his mouth to tell the other person what he wanted.
Because he will feel that when both people are tired and want to give up, the last thing that makes two people get back together must be because of love.
And as long as which party let go, it is because it is not enough love.
Getting along takes skill, but love doesn't.
In life, Gemini can be sweet or salty, and can spend time to please each other and make each other happy.
But when he is in conflict, when he is entangled and embarrassed, Gemini will always be like this, he will not communicate what he wants in his heart, and he will not express what the reason for his real grievance is.
He will be sober and willful in this process, see how he will behave, and see what the other party will respond.
Through this process, he can see whether two people still have love.
As long as he saw it, he didn't care about anything and immediately returned to the temperature of his feelings. Unable to see, he turned his head and left, without explaining anything.
But how does he judge whether what he sees is "love" or not.
I'm afraid no one can give this answer.
Gemini probably knew very well that there could never be two people in this world who were perfectly fit and would never argue at all.
But if you don't get angry about being inappropriate, then Gemini will also feel that this is the biggest fit.
But if Gemini sees that you want to change yourself or the other person and seem more appropriate, or feels that it is not suitable enough and wants to give up, it is really inappropriate.
And love has also changed its quality at this moment.