Wang Lihong himself personally sent a response to the divorce news. And said that his life with Li Lianglei is very simple, he does not want to be disturbed by the media, and he will not respond to this matter in the future.
As a man, Wang Lihong frankly said that in this marriage, there are many deficiencies in the marriage, and he has applied for it, and the next two will live separately.
At the end of November, a person familiar with the matter broke the news that Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei had gone through divorce procedures, the two sides had not interacted for more than two years, and the reason for the divorce was due to the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the other party also said that the Wang family did not like the daughter-in-law at first.
From February 14, 2019 to December 2021, for nearly three years, the couple did not have a photo, no longer in the same frame and no longer liked each other, looking exactly like a couple who have been separated.
Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei have been in love for eight years, and the essence of marriage has never been love.
From this divorce incident, we can see a point, that is, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The mother-in-law relationship is a relatively complex family relationship, and the two people who become mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because of their son/husband form a new connection, which is the so-called mother-in-law relationship.
In fact, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law only comes from four things: the matter of taking children, the matter of raising children, the matter of living habits, and the matter of crossing the line with each other.
Many times, the daughter-in-law feels that the mother-in-law is too wide and violates the boundaries of the small family. And the mother-in-law does not know herself, think that I, as an elder, can not express my opinion? The house has a part that I pay for, why can't I take care of this home?
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not mean that they must get along, after all, the relationship is determined in the front, familiar understanding is in the back, if the relationship does not develop in the direction you initially expected, then do not have too high expectations. Because it's not forced, or can be forced, almost.
I often see many mothers-in-law on the Internet complaining about their daughter-in-law, saying that the daughter-in-law is lazy and hungry, she does not work, she plays mobile phones at home every day, and always orders takeaways, wasting the money his son has worked so hard to earn.
In this way, it seems that the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law are inherently opposites.
The mother-in-law relationship is like a couple without love who force themselves to be together - two people are related by blood and have love, and even if the contradiction cannot be resolved, it will eventually be diluted, but if it is only for the sake of being together, there is no affection and no affection.
That's just one reason.
The essence of marriage has never been love.
You only want to get what you want and need through marriage, but you can't meet what your partner needs and wants, so such a "cooperative relationship" can only go to rupture in the end.
"Marriage does not require too great love, and not hating each other is enough to get married."
This phrase punctures the fantasy bubble that most people give to marriage, pulling everyone back to the dismal truth of the real world.
People who know what marriage is like must not think that way.
They know that in marriage, only love is not enough, there are many things, what marriage is, is actually two people who love each other living together.
Someone asked: What is the difference between falling in love and getting married?
The highest praise answer:
When you fall in love, you only see each other's advantages, and the more you talk, the sweeter it is.
Getting married, gradually discovering each other's shortcomings, and getting past it requires patience.
Getting married means that both parties need to give up some of their freedom and devote part of their time and energy to the family.
Therefore, many people say that marriage is the graveyard of love, and this statement is not unreasonable. In a marriage full of chai rice oil and salt, the love brought by hormonal impulses will eventually be consumed.
I believe that romantic love can overcome all difficulties. ”
But in fact, when romance meets reality, the ideal of love is finally shattered, and marriage becomes a misunderstanding of cognitive bias.
Just like netizens said, getting married is two people running a business and signing a contract. It is a family business and a futures contract for lifetime wholesale. "Everyone needs to provide the corresponding resources and values, physical value, beauty value, emotional value, financial ability, family relationships, and future potential." "Everyone gives different resources, and the time and rhythm of playing are different."
Some netizens said that they finally saw through the marriage, and there was a feeling of world view collapse in recent days. The original fantasy of love has ceased to exist, and the original fantasy of a comfortable marriage has never appeared. After eight years of marriage, I was scarred and my heart was haggard. One thought was divorce, but without courage, I was a failure.
Everyone's perception of marriage is different.
Men and women should remember that the person who loves you is not in love with you, but in love with the charming and seductive charm that you present. If you have limited charm in your own business, if you just rely on the relationship that extends from love between each other, that relationship is very fragile, and it is broken.
Maybe you know the reasoning. But one involves interests, whether economic, or spiritual and emotional. Each of us is unwilling to budge. The balance of interests everyone wants to tilt to their own side, the other party can not satisfy themselves, divorce has become inevitable. Therefore, more and more people will divorce in the future. Because more women find it, rather than sticking to it in marriage. It is better to give up decisively and choose to be single or open up a second spring. Divorce does not solve the problem, and the contradiction of remarriage still exists.
Love can have love, marriage does not, has nothing to do with love, a transaction, evenly matched, pure love is less and less, regardless of family friendship love will be related to interests, taste it, to say that the relaxed and pleasant feelings are friendship above the lovers' confidants, the faster each other is easier.