Hypocrisy, i.e., untruthfulness, has a deceptive connotation, so it is a derogatory term, but everything has cracks, sometimes in one place that is scorned, and may shine in another, for example in relationships.
Some people say that the relationship between people must be sincere, but sincerity does not necessarily apply to all situations, for example, if there is a person with malicious intentions, that is, to consume the kindness of others, then for such people, sincerity will become the weakness of being hurt by others.
Although not all people in this world are inherently evil, it cannot be denied that there are such people, and for a person who is not familiar with the world, a little carelessness will bring inevitable harm to himself.
So, the best thing to do is to learn to protect yourself.
Therefore, psychological research shows that getting along with men and suggesting that you be a "hypocritical" woman has many benefits.
"Hypocrisy" can keep us mysterious
Zhen Huan in the TV series "The Legend of Zhen Huan" actually dances the Shocking Hong Dance, but no one tells her after entering the palace, and when she is squeezed by other concubines because she has obtained the Grace, let her dance the Shocking Hong Dance in public at the banquet, they think that Zhen Huan can't dance, so as to take this opportunity to make her ugly.
Forced to be helpless, the emperor had to ask Zhen Huan to do the same, and when the banquet, after Zhen Huan's dance was over, the joy on the emperor's face and eyes could not be hidden at all, he took Zhen Huan's hand and said, "Huan Huan, how many surprises do you still have that Zhen Huan does not know?" ”
If the emperor had known it from the beginning, he would not have felt that Zhen Huan, who could dance the amazing dance, was anything unusual.
Therefore, from this point, it is not difficult to see that when the opposite sex is getting along, insincerity can retain some mystery and create some surprises, thus arousing the other party's desire to continue to understand themselves.
Many times, if we know a thing well, we will lose the desire to explore, after all, we know everything, and no matter how much we dig, there will be no freshness.
Therefore, for their own information do not and the disk out, say three points, leave seven points, so that there is a sense of mystery.
"Hypocrisy" can make us achieve warmth
01), people are not the closer the distance between people, the better, many times, we have high expectations of another person due to the close relationship, we will also take a magnifying glass to get along with him, some trivial things on weekdays, but also this distance is close and magnified.
So, that's why many people feel that after they are with their significant other, they have more and more quarrels, and this is the root cause.
The most fundamental way to avoid such a phenomenon is to control the distance between each other, that is, when dealing with feelings, you can appropriately take some "cold treatment" methods.
02), for example, do not give all your sincerity to the other party, but to have reservations, learn to invest low, high return;
For example, don't stick to each other twenty-four hours a day, but also have your own life, go shopping, make new friends, don't ignore your life because of love;
For example, don't pay at any cost, don't accommodate each other without paying attention to principles, don't change yourself and lose yourself by catering to the needs of the other party.
Cai Kangyong once said: "I don't think that being too warm is the best way to maintain a good relationship with others, and if you are bound by the word warmth, it is even more difficult." I advise you to be a cold person, learn to be indifferent, and you can achieve warmth. ”
And when we can learn to deal with it coldly, it means that we are not so easy to lose ourselves in a relationship, which means that we will avoid being hurt in the relationship to the greatest extent.
"Hypocrisy" can make us happy
There is a person who, at the beginning, is sincere to everyone, easily believes in others, and will also be wronged for the consideration of others, but he finds that he has given so much and has not received the respect he deserves.
Later, he no longer centered on the preferences of others, but began to respect his own needs and feelings, and began to focus on himself, but strangely, this "selfish" self gained respect that he did not have before.
So he understood that the most important way to be happy with others is to be self-centered, selfish, and hypocritical.
Because how you treat yourself, others will treat you, you don't even respect yourself, how can you let others respect you? You don't even love yourself, how can you make someone love you?
Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, when we get along with men, we must also understand this truth, we must pay, but we must pay attention to the scale, and we must avoid sacrificing our own interests to please others.
Only a woman who knows how to please herself can gain the respect of others, and only a woman who knows how to please herself can get happiness.