Records of The Woods
Kirisu, a financial worker who loves literature, is a learner of children's education, and a mother of two children.
Her two children, sister Mia is 15 years old, sister Qiu Qiu is 6 years old, and both sisters spend kindergarten time at Li Yue'erba Academy.
Mia left Beijing in September to go to Canada for high school.
From the observation of her mother in elementary school and junior high school to the current understanding of herself in high school, the word "doing nothing" appears several times in Mia's mouth.
Xiaoba thinks Mia has a special meaning in using the word, like "useless use."
It is a state in which a person (whether a teenager or an adult) has a grasp of himself, a sense of stability with the outside world, and a state of physical and mental coordination.
Written on 2021.12.6 morning
This weekend, Mia's host family in Canada went to many cities, and last week my host mother sent me an email to tell me about the situation. Mia did not go with her because her drama class ended the last class of the semester. They had a close friend and neighbor in a neighborhood not far away, and they often met for dinner and walked around the house, and the neighbor was willing to receive Mia's temporary weekend accommodation.
After I watched the email, Mia and Mia videoed about my morning before I went to work, Mia said that the neighbor was a good friend of the host mother, the host family's sister was also a graduate of the same school as Mia, went to college, and there was a boy in the family, 11th grade, and the family also received an Italian sister.
Mia said she would like to go and stay for a weekend. Originally, in this case, Mia was entrusted by the boarding mother to the relevant department staff or guardian of the school, that is, the principal, but Mia preferred to stay temporarily at the neighbor's house.
I told Mia to report that the drama class had not yet been deducted, and not to delay it and cause it to be unregistered. I also told Mia to operate the e-book of the history textbook I bought. Mia moved over to the computer and operated it on the bed while video. Soon both of these were done.
The three of us, in addition to teasing Dad and asking "Three women, who is his favorite person", I also asked Mia a question: "My mother asked me, how does your internal drive come about?" ”
Mia replied as follows: "Invisibly do nothing.".
I said explain.
She said: "It's that you have nothing to do, but you have secret support."
In my free time on Sunday morning, I relayed Mia's answer to the mother.
About the only man in the family, Dad, who do you love the most? Our sister often asked such a gift proposition to Dad. Dad said every time that three loved. My sister said she could only choose one? Dad will pretend to be particularly embarrassed, and sister will be particularly happy. This is a family game.
This time in the video, when Dad said that all three love, I said don't I love Mia the most?
As a result, Mia seemed to be shocked, and said at the end of the video: "Well, ah, my friends and I complain about my relationship with my parents every day, and I say that we are like buddies every time, so ah, don't love ha." Dad loves Mom the most, don't love me. ”
That's why I said this in the video, Mia is hard-hitting about our love for her, but on the surface, it seems that we have to draw a certain line with us. Dad said, "This is Mia's true psychology, and she thinks that she is very equal with us." "Maybe.
Mia said that this week's dialectic class was temporarily cancelled because the class was too early, the temporary family sound insulation situation was not clear, and she was afraid of disturbing people's rest. Second, there is no arrangement with their own classmates this weekend, and they are also considering living with a temporary host family, so they will not arrange more personal activities so as not to disturb the family's arrangement. Thumbs up to Mia! Be able to take into account the situation of others.
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About "doing nothing", Mia wrote two essays about her idle mother when she was 8 and 12 years old.
Here's what Mia did when she was 8 years old:
My mom has a lot of time nothing to do, she has nothing to do at home, and she has nothing to do elsewhere.
All the work in the family was done by grandma, and once grandma said to her mother, "You're too lazy!" As soon as Mom turned and left, I guess Mom must have thought, "I don't do this every day!" ”
I thought, "But Mom, you have too many times when you have nothing to do. ”
Another time, I was planting vegetables with my grandmother, and my mother was watching from the sidelines, and I asked, "Mom, why don't you come and grow vegetables together?" ”
Mom didn't make a sound, and Grandma replied, "Mom's too lazy to talk!" "
Another thing worth mentioning, suddenly one day, my mother got sick, she said ah, say, say, how to refuse to shut up, Mom! It's dead! Later, I figured it out: "It was nothing that made my mother look like this!" “
The following is what Mia continued when she was 12 years old:
All this changed completely after the mother gave birth to her sister.
On the one hand, the mother has to take care of the sister who is waiting to be fed, on the other hand, the father's company encounters some difficulties, and the mother bravely assumes some of the responsibilities of the company.
My mother began to either hold my sister to breastfeed or work with the computer, and at the same time cared about preparing for the beginning of my little ascension.
Mom is becoming more and more angry with people, and in my heart, some appreciate this busy mom, but more often, some miss the idle mom.
Dad's company gradually stabilized and did better, but Dad spent more and more time on business. My mother took care of me and my sister, and at the same time cared about the health of my grandmother and grandfather, which can be said to be busy every day.
Time flew by, in the blink of an eye, my sister went to kindergarten, I was also a junior high school student, my father's working hours also had a stable rhythm, my mother seemed to relax at once, there was still time to practice yoga, and my mother gradually became idle again.
I suddenly understood that when every member of the family encountered a problem, my mother would come forward reliably, and when she had nothing to do, that is, when the world was at peace in our family, I loved my mother who had nothing to do, and I wished my mother would always have nothing to do.
● Extend reading, click on the title below to see:
Mia's fairy tale at the age of 2 years and 8 months: "Mom, you bother me"
The story of her 5-year-old sister Qiu Qiu and her good friend Meng Meng in the breakfast restaurant: "It's useless for her to keep shouting, she has to come over and take the boy back"
When encountering problems, children can solve | in a gentle way without giving up Letter from parents of graduates
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