01
The writer Sanmao said that the most important thing in interpersonal relationships is sincerity, and it must come from the heart. Sincerity is a sword in society, and it should be carried with you everywhere you go.
We have been taught since childhood to interact with people, to be honest, and not to harm people's hearts.
But in fact, the world is far from being as simple as we think. You remember to treat people sincerely, to the people around you, to the people around you, to treat them as a lifelong confidant, but do not want not everyone to be as kind as you.
In the eyes of the person who loves you, you are good in every way, but in the hearts of some people who have malicious intentions towards you, even if you treat him kindly, he will have a malicious psychology to speculate on you.
Don't believe it, there will always be some people who can't see your good.
Seeing that you are doing well, he will even try to destroy it in order to find his own psychological balance - I can't get it, and you don't want to have it.
Sometimes, the more familiar people around you, the more people you think can speak together, the more likely it is that you will be stabbed in the back when you are defenseless.
If you have these people around you, be sure to leave early to avoid getting hurt more.
02
Keigo Higashino's work "Malice" has this passage:
Some people hate for no reason, they are mediocre, untalented, and do nothing. So your excellence, your talent, your kindness and happiness are all original sins.
Writer Hidaka is killed, and the police officer Kaga succeeds in catching the murderer Noguchi, who also confesses to his crime, but Kaga always feels that there is something wrong with Noguchi's motives.
As we delve deeper, we found the truth surprising. Noguchi is a real murderer, but being caught is also in his elaborate design, and he has planned a big picture.
He portrays Hidaka as a cold-blooded, cowardly, mean-spirited, unscrupulous person for fame and fortune, and says that he is Hidaka's shadow writer because of him, Hidaka can make a name for himself.
However, Kaga discovers during his investigation that all of this is a forgery that Noguchi said, that he was diagnosed with cancer a year ago, that he had lost his job, and that he had an unbalanced mind that would kill Him, seize his work and ruin his reputation after his death.
Where does Noguchi's malice come from? It turned out that when he was subjected to campus violence, Hidaka reached out to him, and instead of being grateful, he joined a member of the campus violence and turned to hurt Hidaka.
But Hidaka did not remember the hatred, and when they met again many years later, Noguchi was at a loss for his job, and Hidaka enthusiastically introduced him to the job and recommended the magazine to him.
However, Hidaka's magnanimity and kindness did not exchange Noguchi's gratitude, but instead let him take the sword to the side, gamble on a few lives that were not long, and wanted to drag Hidaka's personality into hell.
03
Human nature sometimes does not stand up to scrutiny. You cross people with the heart of a Buddha, but the other party kills people.
The greatest evil of human nature is to see others as good.
You worked hard and worked hard all the way to get today's achievements, but some people secretly hope that your carefully built castle will collapse overnight;
You are not afraid of hardships, not afraid of difficulties, trying to earn a high position for yourself, but some people spread everywhere that you are walking through the back door and climbing on someone's lap;
You are not afraid of being dirty and not afraid of being tired, starting from a small business, and finally achieving a great cause, but some people hope that tomorrow there will be disasters in the sky, and see your bankrupt and unlucky appearance...
And these people are often people around. They watch you get better and better, either sincerely blessing or jealous, hoping that you will go through bad luck and they will be happy.
Confucius said that there is no shortage but unevenness.
Seeing that others are doing well is not trying to improve themselves and aligning themselves with each other in strength, but trying to smear you and trying to get rid of them quickly.
It is often people whose abilities and ambitions do not match each other, and they will be afraid that others will surpass them too much, and they will be extremely unbalanced psychologically.
And such people often live by your side. He can't see you struggling, but he hates you for having a lot of aura.
Seeing your success is not to give you applause, but to give you a cheer in private.
In his eyes, you do not reach the top by hard work, but by luck or improper means.
04
The closer you are, the more you understand your weaknesses, and the better you are at grasping your psychology.
You have happiness, and he is not humble enough to ask for advice and learn from you, but he is jealous that you do not deserve it. They often feel that what you have should be theirs. So watch you get better and better, and always find ways to make it bad behind your back.
Someone was kind enough to take her home to provide shelter for her because of a girlfriend's loss of love or divorce, but she did not expect that she turned around and hooked up with her husband. Although the husband is not much better, the girlfriend is definitely not a fuel-saving lamp.
If she treats you sincerely, knows how to score inches, and meets men who want to steal again, she will always grasp her bottom line and not easily cross the thunder pool.
Because of her nature, you just created such an opportunity for her.
Human nature is a mystery that we can never guess, and there are many things in this world that make us sigh. And to be honest, there are not many people in this world who really want you to have a good life.
Especially the people around you that you know well are not what you think they are: they want you to get better and better.
Even many times, if your friend is unhappy in marriage, he also wants to struggle in the water; your colleague is stagnant at work, and he is not happy to see you step by step;
Your relatives are living in poverty, but you are making a lot of money, and he suspects that you must have done an improper business... Even some of your siblings will be jealous that you are doing too well.
Therefore, be a low-key person at any time. Don't easily publicize your achievements in front of undesirable people, and don't show off your wealth in front of poor people.
You know, these are not necessarily what others are willing to hear, after all, not everyone really wants you to have a good life.
END.