Life, often can not be smooth, many things we can not control, but we can control our mentality, can use the best state, to treat life.
Compared with life is more real, go with the flow, is the coolest.
Going with the flow is an open-minded attitude towards life, although I have experienced the pain of life, I can still let go, and I can face it with a smile, I will not add to my own blockage, and I will not let myself be tired.
Simply put, going with the flow is the best way to live, not demanding all things, not giving yourself a burden, and will manage every day with heart.
It is true that the adult world has never been easy, but since it is not easy to face no matter what you do, why not face it with a positive attitude?
In the face of difficulties, positive people see a turnaround, and negative people see an abyss.
In this life, do not do anything without expectations of yourself, do not have too high expectations of yourself, do your best in everything, as for the result do not think so much.
Let nature live, in fact, is very simple, to let your mentality calm, encounter people and things that tempt you, can decisively refuse, will not create unnecessary trouble for yourself.
Can know how to control their desires, know the middle of wanting and getting, and there is a reason to do it.
Of course, it does not mean to go with the flow, that is, to go with the flow and not to work hard, which still requires you to work hard, not to shrink back because of difficulties, and to cope with it with a negative attitude.
You and I, and most people around us know that once a person has formed inertia, it is difficult to change, and he will make many excuses for his inertia, but these excuses will be known to everyone as soon as they hear it.
Friend Snow Dust is a person who often makes excuses for himself.
After getting married, Snow Dust did not go to work, and then her son went to kindergarten, she still did not want to go to work, although her husband saw that his face had changed, but Snow Dust still did not want to go.
She didn't think about the family's strained financial situation at all, as if the family belonged to her husband and had nothing to do with him.
The current snow dust is overprotective of oneself and does not want to be wronged in the slightest.
At first, the husband still euphemistically mentioned, hoping that she could go to work, but Xuechen did not listen at all, she still insisted on herself, and then the husband directly let her go to work, but Xuechen directly refused.
At this time, the relationship between them has undergone subtle changes, the husband does not give a good look, snow dust feels aggrieved, he is tired enough to clean up the house, why does the husband not understand himself.
In fact, in their relationship, since the husband wants her to go to work, the best way for snow dust is to go to work, and as for the family, it can be cleaned up by two people.
In the final analysis, Snow Dust is a kind of self-protection, and she mistakenly regards this protection as going with the flow, completely disregarding the other party's bearing.
If the husband can bear it, it is nothing, but the husband can't bear it.
The highest realm of going with the flow is not to indulge your desires and not to overprotect yourself.
If you do not indulge your desires, you will not compare with each other in your heart, you will not form wrong values, you will not overprotect yourself, you will not be inert, and you will be proactive.
In this life, we will encounter a lot of troubles, if you are difficult to let go, always thinking of doing it against fate, you will live a very tired life.
Instead of making yourself so tired, you should smile and accept the fate's arrangement.
Of course, it is difficult to do this, but if it is done, happiness will naturally be embraced.
I have seen such a small story on the Internet, and I am particularly touched:
During the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a person named Sun Shu'ao in the Chu Kingdom, this person was very unusual, why did he say that he was not ordinary?
Because, he has three ups and three downs in the official arena, and his mentality can be maintained particularly well, and he has achieved the position of prime minister three times, but unfortunately he has been reduced to a civilian three times.
Originally, everyone thought that Sun Shu'ao should be particularly painful, and even unable to live, but he did not expect that he was still like this, as if it was not himself who was degraded, but someone else.
Someone couldn't help but ask him:
"Why can't you see how happy you are when you are promoted to prime minister three times, and you can't see how miserable you are when you are degraded three times?
After Sun Shu'ao listened, he replied with a smile:
"In fact, gain and loss are not something I can control, nor can I consider, so when I come, I accept it, and when I lose, I let go, so this is it!"
It can be seen from this that the reason why Sun Shu'ao can always be happy is that he understands the true meaning of going with the flow, and no one will deliberately force anything.
There is a saying that is very good, it is that you cannot escape, it is not that you cannot stay, since everything has long been predestined, why bother to find trouble for yourself?
Instead of this, it is better to smile and let go.
Xunzi once said:
"The Way of Heaven is constant, not for the sake of Survival, not for the sake of death."
This sentence is a good illustration of the natural laws of the world, no matter what, many things in life are arranged in the dark.
What you have to do is not to refuse, but to believe that all this is the best arrangement.
If you can do it, you can naturally live freely and happily without being happy with things or with yourself.
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