Recently, because I was in a hurry to use something, I then called for errands on the APP to buy and send it over, but the expected time was still delayed.
I was so anxious that I walked around the house, looking out the window from time to time, and the child may feel my impatience and even cry loudly.
When the child's crying sounded, I almost broke out. But I quickly calmed down and told myself that anxiety should be anxious, the child would let him cry when he cried, and he would stop when he was tired of crying.
When I accepted the status quo, I clearly felt the anger emanating from my body. After a while, the rider called me to say that something had been delivered, and apologized to me that the original road was under construction, and he took a detour to get it.
I told him that it was okay, open the phone to see, in fact, it is fifteen minutes later than the original time, although it is urgent, but it will not delay the time, I think I just felt that I was a bit ridiculous.
The development of society is too fast, the pace is getting faster and faster, people are easy to be anxious, we know the disadvantages of anxiety, but still can not avoid. That being the case, accept anxiety.
After realizing that accepting anxiety can defeat anxiety, when I encounter problems, I directly meditate in my mind "Yes, I am now having xxx problems, this matter is difficult to solve, I am anxious." ”
Then I can quickly calm down and find a way to solve the problem.
In fact, to accept anxiety is to accept the status quo. The acceptance of the status quo here is not to let oneself fall and no longer struggle, but to calmly examine the status quo and think about whether there is a solution to the problem.
The delivery was slow, telling myself I was really hungry and anxious, but it didn't matter that the rider was already on the road, and at most he could eat a little later.
Learning didn't work and told myself that I was really anxious and sad, and then I picked myself up to find the weak links and broke them one by one.
"Take a step back, the wind and waves are calm; bear with me, the rain is clear." Chinese humility in our bones makes us tolerate things when we encounter things and avoid the deterioration of the situation.
However, in my opinion, tolerance needs to be redefined. When we encounter real injustice, we must stand up for our rights and interests. But when encountering unreasonable trouble, forbearance is an excellent quality.
Forbearance can avoid some unreasonable incidents, and can make yourself not lose your future because of impulsiveness. Forbearance is never a manifestation of the weak, but the broad mind of the master.
Whether it is accepting anxiety or learning to tolerate it, it is actually a kind of great wisdom, which is to face life calmly and play your own praise.
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