Madame Wang – a life from the jewel to the fish's eye

In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Jia Baoyu has a very classic fisheye theory: "The girl is not married, it is a priceless jewel, when she is married, somehow she will conjure up many bad problems, although it is a bead, but it is a glorious treasure color, it is a dead pearl; when she is old, it is not a bead, but a fish eye." How can you make three things out of a clear person? ”

Although Bao Yu did not specifically specify which one it was when he said it, this fish-eye theory summed up the life of his mother, Madame Wang. I don't know if this is an irony. You Jia Baoyu hate the women who marry, but your mother is the most typical one.

1. Priceless orbs

When Madame Wang appears in the book, she is already a very old woman, and we don't know what she should look like when she is not out of the cabinet. However, from the occasional few words in the book and other people's bodies, perhaps we can see a little of the glorious shadow of Madame Wang when she was not out of the cabinet.

Before Grandma Liu entered the Rongguo Mansion, when she consulted with her son-in-law dog at home, she mentioned: "The second lady of their family is really loud, will treat people, but does not take big, and now she is the wife of the second old master of the Rongguo Mansion." "This second lady refers to Madame Wang."

When Madame Wang was young, she turned out to be a good girl who was "really loud and fast", "would treat people", and "did not take big", and probably also a "spicy" character like Sister Feng.

Madame Wang is the concubine of the Wang family, and the Jinling Royal Family is still very tolerant of girls, which can be felt from Sister Feng's temperament. If it is a door with a strict family style, it will not be able to raise fengjie's jumpy personality. It can also be seen from this that when Madame Wang stayed in the middle of the house, she was still relatively free and happy.

And in the book, we can see that the relationship between Madame Wang and Aunt Xue is very good, even if they have been married to each other for so many years, but they are not separated from each other, and when Aunt Xue encounters difficulties, Madame Wang can still provide help. In the daily interaction between the two, it can be felt that Madame Wang is actually the relatively strong side, the one who takes the idea.

Of course, this aspect may be because of the difference in social status between the two Jia Xue families, and on the other hand, it is a habit developed when they are at home. When Madame Wang was in the boudoir, she had an idea and a plan, so Aunt Xue always had this habit of listening to her sister's words.

From the above points, we can see that the unmarried Madame Wang is still a glorious jewel, refreshing, with ideas, and full of vitality.

2, dead beads without luster

After Madame Wang married as a human wife, what kind of person was she in the eyes of her mother-in-law? In the thirty-fifth time, Jia Mu said to Xue Baochao, "Although he (Wang Xifeng) is not as good as us now, he is still better, far stronger than your aunt." Your aunt is pitiful, does not speak much, is like wood, and is not very good in front of her in-laws. ”

Obviously, the second daughter of the Wang family, who is loud and fast, does not take the big, and will treat people, how can she become a "wooden" and not good daughter-in-law after marrying?

Living in such a big family as Jia Fu, the most difficult thing is to deal with human feelings. And when Lady Wang first married in, the concubine of Ningguo Mansion should not be Lady Xing, but an original match that was better than Lady Xing in all aspects, and the sister-in-law Jia Min was loved and had not yet married, and Wang Xifeng, who was now introduced as an arm, may not have been born yet. Madame Wang is a delicate little girl, and to face this complicated relationship, she must have suffered some hardships and lessons.

After Madame Wang had just married, she had two children, Jia Zhu and Yuan Chun, and it could be seen that her relationship with Jia Zheng at this time should be very good. And because the concubines of Ning Guo Mansion do not live together, the trouble that can be brought to her is limited, and the most likely thing that Lady Wang will be hit during this time and change her personality is to get along with her sister-in-law Jia Min.

In the seventy-fourth time in the book, this little sister-in-law is mentioned from the wangfu population: "There is no need to compare it far, only to say that now your sister Lin's mother, when she was not out of the cabinet, how pampered and habitual, how golden and jade noble, that is like the body of a Miss Qianjin." "It's just that the tone sounds a little sour.

In Madame Wang's view, Jia Min was spoiled and pampered when she was at home, and her status as a daughter-in-law in the Jia family was not high, and when she ate, her sister-in-law could sit and eat, but her daughter-in-law had to stand next to her and wait. Coupled with the fact that Jia Mu is so fond of Jia Min, "Among these children, the only one who hurts is your mother", it is conceivable that in the relationship with Jia Min, Madame Wang has been more or less wronged.

Jia Mu was actually dissatisfied with Madame Wang's attitude towards Jia Min. In the fifty-second time, Wang Xifeng proposed to set up a small kitchen in the Grand View Garden, eliminating the hard work of the sisters in the garden from running back and forth to eat. Jia Mu praised Sister Feng in front of Madame Wang and the others: "Today, you are all here, all of you have passed through concubines, and has he thought so?" ”

This sentence "We have all experienced concubines and sisters-in-law" is to bring Mrs. Wang in, thinking that she is not really good to the sister-in-law. Then Madame Wang has this impression in her mother-in-law's heart, and it is conceivable how her mother-in-law treats her.

Probably because of more words and more mistakes, in order to protect Herself, Madame Wang has gradually changed from a loud second girl to a wooden Lady Wang. The jewel gradually faded into a dull dead bead.

3. Fish eyes

Madame Wang's biggest change probably began after Jia Zhu died.

The age difference between Jia Yuanchun and Baoyu was more than ten years, and in that era, there was no contraception, which could only be a problem with the marital feelings of Madame Wang and Jia Zheng, so there would be nothing for more than ten years. Moreover, Baoyu also has two brothers and sisters who are extremely close in age, Tanchun and Jia Huan. It can be seen that during this period, Jia Zheng's feelings for Madame Wang have been very weak. What he prefers is the spicy and beautiful Aunt Zhao.

Originally, for Madame Wang, it was also normal for a man to have three wives and four concubines, she had children and daughters, her son was very contentious, she took her wife into school, her daughter entered the palace, and she could guard her children to live.

However, Jia Zhu's sudden and early death was like destroying her pillar. She suddenly felt the importance of Baoyu, this was already her lifeblood, and she could still manage Baoyu before, "Why didn't I know how to manage my son, when you were uncle Zhu first, how did I manage him, don't I know how to manage my son now?" Now there is only trepidation left, afraid that he will have some problems, "Now I think, I am almost fifty years old, there is only one of him left, and he is long and weak." Baoyu had become her eyeball, her obsession, and her original motherly heart had begun to twist.

Madame Wang began to regard all the young women around Baoyu as imaginary enemies, and the means were fierce, and they must be expelled. Jin Ju just made a joke with Bao Yu, and she was thrown out by her despite the love of more than ten years, and finally committed suicide in shame. Qingwen was also expelled from the Grand View Garden because of "her eyebrows look a bit like your Sister Lin", and Xiang Disappeared Jade died. If it wasn't for the fact that the old lady had been protecting Lin Daiyu, maybe Daiyu would have been cleaned out by her. Even with the protection of the old lady, Madame Wang was quite cold to Daiyu, and even the tea brought by Daiyu was not answered, and the sentence "We don't eat tea" was sent away.

Madame Wang's vigilance against these women is no longer just because of her nervousness about Baoyu, but also reflects her own emotions. Jin Jun,as a maid and the master flirted, may have made her sensitive nerves think of Aunt Zhao, who was also on the throne, and took away her husband's love. Qingwen made her think of Lin Daiyu, and Daiyu's mother gave her a life and grievances that were not happy in those years, she naturally did not have any good looks for Daiyu, and for the beard like Daiyu, she was even more exterminated, and even a piece of clothing was not allowed to be taken away.

Madame Wang was no longer losing her luster, but had distorted her heart and thoughts, and had become the most abominable woman in Baoyu's mouth.

Madame Wang's life is undoubtedly a tragedy, from a jewel to a fish's eye, the fault is not Madame Wang, but this environment that destroys women. May the girl not grow old and the flowers bloom often, but this can only be Baoyu's most innocent and childish expectation. The real reality is that like Madame Wang, she is pushed by life and becomes the most unbearable appearance step by step.

Every flower has bloomed, and every flower has decayed.