Seneca said: "Not being able to get rid of it is one of the root causes of life's troubles, especially in love. ”
In life, there are many things that we can plan for ourselves in advance, or set a goal for ourselves. However, love is an exception, we don't know who we will fall in love with, what kind of relationship we will have, and we don't know what we will become in the relationship.
The only thing that can be predicted in advance is that once you meet love, it is difficult to get rid of the shackles of feelings and return to the days of freedom before.
Love happens unconsciously, and ambiguity can happen when we don't perceive it.
The ambiguity between the opposite sex is not like a relationship after two people agree together, like in love. But when we are together, some small details slowly bring each other closer to each other and make each other more intimate. Maybe they don't want to admit or even face each other, but just enjoy this kind of relationship. But in the eyes of others, the relationship between them has long been ambiguous.
Such a phenomenon is estimated to be what we often say about the bystanders being clear and the authorities confused. It can be seen that when the opposite sex gets along, many times even if you feel that you have not crossed the line, but in the other person's heart, your behavior has obviously been inappropriate. Even if you don't want to admit it, it won't change the fact that the relationship has become ambiguous.
Between the opposite sex, we must be clear about one thing, that is, these details when getting along often mean that the relationship between you is very ambiguous, don't believe it.
01 After the relationship between two people becomes ambiguous, there is often tenderness in each other's eyes.
Propacos said, "The eye is the precursor to the first announcement of a tender love story." ”
When we develop a good feeling for a person, there are some changes in our inner feelings. When we see each other, we will be very excited, very excited, and we will have some expectations. What is going on in a person's heart is often revealed in his eyes and expression.
Ordinary friends of the opposite sex do not have these feelings when they get along, even if it is a chat, the expression and eyes will be very calm. Even if they look at each other, they will not be too excited in their hearts, and they will not feel too embarrassed.
When there are some good feelings between each other, and even more ideas, the heart can no longer be so calm. Even if the face is very calm, there are already waves in the heart, and then it is revealed from the look in the eyes of this person.
Generally speaking, when two people are together, the look in each other's eyes reveals tenderness and shyness, which means that in his heart, different emotions have long appeared. In such a gentle look, the relationship between the two people also becomes ambiguous.
02 When the opposite sex gets along, there are often cases of spoiling.
In love, when it comes to spoiling, we tend to feel that this is all a woman's privilege. In fact, when love reaches a certain level, men will also behave very gently, and even there will be a situation of pampering. When we are willing to coddle a person, it means that we feel differently about him than others.
For ordinary friends of the opposite sex, we tend to get along in a very normal state. The heart does not expect anything, and naturally there will be no situation of spoiling. However, after meeting a person who makes my heart move, our spoiled nature also appears.
Scott also said: "Love with tears in your eyes is the most moving." ”
After falling in love with someone, we will unconsciously become gentle, and even show our weakest side to touch the other person's heart.
Between two people, if there is often such a spoiler, it means that their relationship is not simple.
03 In front of each other, we often speak our hearts or share our secrets.
When interacting with people, we are all used to showing our strongest and most independent side. Even if we are very good friends, we will hope that the other party will see the perfect self. Even if we have some thoughts in our hearts and some fragility, we will choose to face it alone and do not want others to see our vulnerability.
When we expect someone to be our significant other, even if two people haven't come together yet, we start to trust each other and rely on each other. Such dependence will not be obvious, but will silently rely on the other party in the heart.
When we encounter unhappy things, we can't help but talk to him; when we encounter something uncomfortable, we will also hope that he can understand our grievances.
Sometimes, although you are not in a romantic relationship, in the eyes of the other party, the feelings you bring to her are warm and worth relying on. Therefore, when encountering those things that are not very happy, if she takes the initiative to share her feelings with you and share her secrets, it means that your position in her heart is different.
If two people have such feelings, they will share and talk, and your relationship will naturally become ambiguous.
Isakovsky said: "Love, this is not one heart to beat another heart, but the spark of two hearts colliding together." ”
When the opposite sex gets along, one person's overtures are called pursuits, and two people show kindness to each other, which shows that the relationship between you is very ambiguous. During this period, you can get to know each other very well and feel the feeling of being in love in advance. When the feelings reach a certain level, it is also natural to determine the relationship; if you feel that it is not appropriate, you can also get together and disperse.
When you have these details between two people, it means that the relationship between you is very ambiguous. When you feel this, you must see your own heart clearly, and then face your relationship with the most appropriate attitude.