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Today to share a thing that happened in my family yesterday, after a day, I still can't calm down for a long time, the tear point is a little low, no way!
Yesterday, my sister beat up her 13-year-old son! Her son's nickname is Xiao Dong, Xiao Dong has already entered the first year of junior high school this year, and many children of this age have entered the rebellious period, and Xiao Dong is no exception!
Yesterday after noon after school, Xiao Dong did not go home outside for a long time, and did not know what to do, according to his mother, almost every morning late, and then at noon is still very late to go home, every day the homework assigned by the teacher is often not completed, the teacher often finds her to complain about Xiao Dong's things, there are many small things I will not say one by one, because I can't finish! Yesterday my sister finally couldn't help but call in the unit to seriously criticize him! Xiao Dong said a bunch of reasons on the phone, my sister didn't want to hear him say so many excuses, directly half threatening and half commanding tone said him a meal! But Xiao Dong not only couldn't listen to it, but also scolded my sister on the phone for being a neurotic! Just because of this sentence, my sister completely collapsed! Without saying a word, he immediately ran home from the unit and cleaned up Xiao Dong, who was eating! Xiao Dong held his head and cried all the time, occasionally talking back to his mother, feeling that he really didn't realize that he was wrong! And after my sister finished the fight, she said that her head hurt so much, she couldn't stand it! Let me quickly take some wind oil essence or something to wipe her temples, I see that she is out of breath, I said, you go upstairs to rest for a while, you say what son can not listen to now, here is handed to me! Seriously, when I saw my sister cleaning up Xiaodong like crazy, I was both in pain, if I hadn't stopped me at that time, I don't know how long the two of them would have been deadlocked!
But as soon as my sister went upstairs, Xiao Dong immediately had another attack, he swept a lot of toys from my little treasure on the living room table, swept them all to the ground with his hands, and also swept all the clothes on the sofa, seeing this situation, I said plainly: "Well, don't get everything on the ground, wait I want you to pick them all up!" Hearing me say this, he sat down on the couch and began to cry loudly, crying as loud as he could, screaming desperately, and then I said, "If you want to cry, cry as much as you want!" But it doesn't help you cry like that! "Hearing me say this, he continued to cry, and I sat across from him and watched him cry, and stopped talking! In fact, I was thinking about how to talk to him better, anyway, he is crying like this now, he can't listen to what I say!
After a while, it is estimated that he is tired of crying, or he may feel bored, no crying, just sobbing. Seeing this situation, I quickly opened my mouth, and I said: "Xiao Dong, in fact, your mother said that you did not do a good job, you can slowly change it!" This is not urgent, but you just scolded your mother for neurosis, which is absolutely not allowed! As soon as I said this, he began to get excited again, and with a crying voice began to roar again, he said: "She is neurotic, she does not want to listen to me, she scolds me and beats me at every turn," I said to him: "The reason why my mother is like this, it is not anxious about you, it is all for your own good, she hopes that you can do better!" After saying this, Presumably he felt that I was not on his side, and he shouted again: "Ah... yes... Ah, none of you understand me, none of you understand me! I'm so tired! Seeing that I didn't speak, he continued, "Why did she give birth to me!" Why gave birth to me! Why didn't she go and die! "Hearing this, I really can't listen to it, in fact, I am particularly angry, a little fart child, the mother worked hard to give birth to him, actually said this, really no conscience!" But I was silently controlling the anger in my heart, he was a small fart, and it was useless to get angry with him!
It's terrible for children to get angry, and they dare to say anything!
I calmed down for a while, and then began to say seriously, "Xiao Dong, okay! You stop talking about these words! Don't say it again! Because I am very sad to hear these words you say, I am also a mother, if my brother says these words to me, I will be very sad, I believe your mother is the same! If you still have a little conscience, next, can you listen to me? He saw that I was so serious that he didn't dare to speak, and after glancing at me twice, he lowered his head and held a toy in his hand and poked it!
I talked to him seriously and emotionally for a noon, here are the words I said, in fact, I talked about three points!
First of all, just now you said, why did your mother bring you down, I want to tell you, everyone comes to this world is a fateful thing, your mother gave birth to you, she is your mother all her life, this is the fact that you can't change, such a stupid word, don't say it a second time in the future!
Secondly, your mother gave you life with her life, and your mother's nurturing grace is greater than the sky! Remember for the rest of your life! Without your mother, there would be no you, when I gave birth to your brother, the pain was not born for 16 hours, and finally I went to the operating table and cut it out, and the next day I moved a little, and I felt that my belly was going to crack, and the pain was so painful that I wanted to die! Now medical technology is more developed, they can't give birth to themselves, they can also be dissected, how many women in ancient times lost their lives because of difficult childbirth! Can you appreciate how much pain your mother endured when she gave birth to you? The day after your mother gave birth to you, the doctor went to press the knife in her stomach, and your mother screamed loudly in pain, and that scream could be heard by the whole building, and so far, I can't forget, for you, she experienced this, you know? You'll never get it! Mother's kindness to you, you can't repay it in this life!
Also, to tell you a story of mine, after I was born 9 months later, because I was a girl, my grandfather hated me, and then I found someone to adopt me, fortunately, I was robbed by my grandmother at that time, my grandmother raised me alone, at the beginning, I also hated my parents, if it wasn't my grandmother, I don't know who my parents were or where I was, but after high school, I forgave my parents, I thanked my parents for giving me this precious life, so that I had the opportunity to come to this world to do what I wanted to do!
Finally, I want to say, why don't you die, words like these can't be said again! Your mother is still alive today, and she can still stand in front of you, and you are the happiest person in the world! People die and there is nothing left! When people die, they can no longer see the sun every day, they can no longer breathe fresh air, they can no longer touch the people they love and those who love themselves, and they want to do but have no time to do, and there is no chance again! When people are gone, everything will be in vain! All that remains are loved ones who are in pain and missing! Your mother beat you, do you hate her? Tell you, when I was a child, I was disobedient and playful, and I was often beaten by my grandmother with a bamboo whip or a wooden stick, and when I took a bath, I could see the red marks on my legs. Of course it hurts! But I still love her! When Grandma was 80 years old, there was an accident! She was in a lot of pain because she was working outside and I didn't get a chance to give her one last ride! The day after she left, I arrived home at four o'clock in the morning, opened the coffin, only to see her lying quietly inside, I reached out and touched her face, it was so cold! Then the whole person collapsed on the side of the coffin and wept silently! Can't say anything! If she could still survive, I'd rather let her beat me up like she did when she was a child, but there's no chance, no chance... So, Xiao Dong, do you still hate your mother for beating you?
At this point, my eyes are moist! A little choked up and couldn't go on. But continue to talk to Xiao Dong!
People, there will be a day of death! And when will it leave? None of us can know! If our family can still live well, we must cherish it! When I was a sophomore, my mother suddenly called me at two o'clock in the morning, and she said, you hurry back, your father is dying! I was in so much pain, how could it be so sudden? I called my dad two days ago! Dad said that there was still a week to go to the Mid-Autumn Festival, and asked me if I wanted to go home, and I asked him if he was in good health? He said he was a little uncomfortable, so I told him to go to the hospital to see a doctor right away, and he said that he would go after the Mid-Autumn Festival, but there were still a few days before the Mid-Autumn Festival! Why not! That night was very torturous, waiting for the dawn, catching the first bus back to my hometown in the morning! When I arrived at the hospital, my father lay quietly on the hospital bed, still breathing, but with anesthesia, he could not move or speak, and our family was waiting for a miracle to happen, but there was no miracle again! Take off the ventilator and send Dad home, I squeezed the oxygen bottle while watching him halfway through the eyes, nostrils and corners of the mouth direct blood, people are gone! He didn't have time to say a word to us and leave! Everything came too suddenly!
Speaking of this, I couldn't cry, I couldn't control it, and the tears came out!
More than ten years have passed, often squatting in the toilet, lying on the bed, driving a car, seeing the old people outside, etc., I will miss my father and grandmother, often think about it, tears will flow out silently, so if you love people and people who love you can still stand in front of you, you cherish it!
Everything our family did for us, whether it was hitting or scolding, it was really love! One day parents will leave us, and if you already have the ability to love your family, it's early! Don't wait until the day you regret it!
After talking about this, Xiao Dong was finally willing to open his heart, we had a pleasant chat for a noon, and finally, I let him go upstairs and apologize to his mother! He went up and hugged his mother while saying, "Mom, I'm sorry, I was wrong, I'll change it later, don't be angry anymore!" ”
See them mother and son reconciled! I ran to the toilet and cried, this morning I drove home, thinking about it, I cried again, hey, I didn't expect that educating this bear baby actually made me so difficult to get out of my sadness! But, I tried my best!
Grandma in heaven, Daddy in heaven, I love you!
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