After five years, Bao Bell's "bridesmaid door" came out again.
Forced by the pressure of netizens to leave a message on the social platform for a long time to ask Bao Bell to apologize to Liu Yan, he said that he had apologized five years ago, and revealed that he had apologized more than once and had always felt guilty.
Finally, Bao Bell asked the netizens "So?" Did I give up my job? ”。
According to the expression of the before and after sentences, his sentence should refer to the fact that he has apologized and has always felt guilty about this matter, and netizens still want him to do anything, whether he has to give up his job to let him go.
Perhaps unable to withstand the criticism of netizens, Bao Bell then set the account to a private state.
Objectively speaking, Bao Bell is indeed the most "long-term" one of the male artists whose private morality is disputed by netizens, but it is quite complicated to clarify whether this phenomenon is "network violence" or Bao Bell's "deserved".
From Bao Bell's point of view, after the bridesmaids gate incident, he twice issued a public apology, admitted that he was wrong and alerted, and because of this matter, he was chased and scolded by netizens for five years, and has paid a considerable price.
Maybe he will feel: I am so guilty and so miserable, why don't you let me go?
But Bao Bell ignored a key issue, he and his friends apologized and reflected on the matter, in fact, has not really confronted the public, and the emotions on both sides have a wall.
After the incident, Bao Bell's first public apology emphasized that throwing the bridesmaid into the water was a joke, and did not want to really hurt Liu Yan, and classified the "bridesmaid" behavior that made the public uncomfortable as a misunderstanding.
Everyone's reaction in the video is clearly visible, a group of groomsmen coaxed to throw Willow Rock into the water is a fact, the anger of netizens is that they should not do this, but Bao Bell explained that it is not malicious and obviously cannot convince the public.
Half a year later, Bao Bell mentioned the beginning and end of the "bridesmaids' door" in the variety show, interpreting this bad response as "a public relations article released according to the company's requirements", and the second response was his real heart.
What is the second response? Express guilt and admit to being out of control (mistake?). ), apologize to the public.
But the object of his guilt is mainly his wife Bao Wenjing, and most of the article is describing how much sacrifice and bitterness Bao Wenjing has made with himself, but he has messed up the most important wedding for her, full of guilt.
The whole process did not mention the badness of Liu Yan and the bridesmaid's behavior, and the expectation for the future was also to let his daughter know that he was a person who knew that he was wrong and changed, well... It's all about family, and it's superfluous to write them out.
But Seven Words believes that this is Bao Bell's sincere words, because not only him, but also the artists who are good friends with Bao Bell in the entertainment industry generally feel that Bao Bell is very miserable in this matter, and he does not pay much attention to the nature of the bridesmaids.
For example, Yi Nengjing, she believes that the most important moment of love does not belong to the two newcomers, which is a great regret.
This mode of thinking is very similar to the classic line of "A Curtain of Dreams": "The bridesmaids were almost thrown into the swimming pool by a group of men and were frightened, but the bride and groom lost a perfect wedding."
Changing to Bao Bell may be that Liu Yan suffered a momentary grievance, but I felt guilty for five years.
On the variety show "The Temptation of the Meal Bureau", Bao Bell made a very detailed description of this matter, explained the process of the incident, and added a new information point: there is no media on the scene, and the video is deliberately exposed.
Because he did not invite the media at the wedding scene, and there was misinformation in the process of public opinion.
This error message refers to Bao Bell's first apology to explain that the original game was to tear the name tag, because the clothes needed for the game were stranded at the customs before temporarily changing to throwing bridesmaids, but the Guangzhou customs responded that "do not carry the pot".
Some netizens interpreted that Bao Bell lied and was officially "punched in the face", and Bao Bell's wedding planner quickly posted the chat record and "punched the face" to reverse, indicating that the clothes were detained in Jakarta Customs and had nothing to do with Guangzhou.
"Rumors" have a large number of netizens believe and spread, but no one cares about the rumors, which is also one of the places where Bao Bell is angry, but as the customs response, the focus of this matter is not why the game is changed to throw bridesmaids.
It's about throwing the bridesmaids themselves.
The core of netizens is aimed at improper bridesmaid behavior, and Bao Bell's side pays more attention to them being "wronged" and "framed", which makes the incident split into a highly circulated "conspiracy theory" direction.
Although Bao Bell did not mention who was framed, the characters involved in the incident are very clear, Bao Bell and the groomsmen group are the attacked party, and Liu Yan is the sympathetic party, so the public basically believes that he alludes to Liu Yan's speculation.
Wang Sicong, a friend who had been photographed singing K with Bao Bell, slammed Liu Yan for "having no brains and offending the groomsmen group for hype", believing that she was putting material in order to create a pitiful image, and pointing out that Liu Yan's behavior did not communicate with the company.
Liu Yan declined to respond to the details of the matter, but swore a poison denial about the hype allegations.
Perhaps, this is also one of the reasons why Bao Bell Fang can't let go, after the incident, the apology of the members of the groomsmen group was more or less with a little bit of framed "yi difficult peace" flavor, and the sincerity of the apology was greatly reduced.
But for the public, the core point of the problem is only "bridesmaids".
Did the groomsmen try to throw coolly dressed women into the water? be. Will this behavior cause discomfort and harm to most women? be. Is this behavior in line with the vulgar characteristics of "bridesmaids"? be.
If any of the above conditions are met, Bao Bell and his bandmate group are already wrong, and whether the "perpetrator" has regrets and whether the "victim" has ulterior motives is not the key.
However, Bao Bell's response basically focused on these two issues, resulting in the public always feeling that he was not sincere enough, but this does not mean that Bao Bell deliberately lied to evade responsibility.
All of Bao Bell's apologies are "sincere" and the probability is very high.
In a way, his reaction can fully represent the mentality of most of the "perpetrators" in events similar to the nature of the "bridesmaids", causing harm to others without knowing it, or not feeling so serious.
In their opinion, this is just a harmless joke, everyone does this, why can't I? Some people may indeed do these acts to enliven the atmosphere and not to have dirty thoughts.
In the initial response of the Bao Bell groomsmen group, the most angry netizens were that they did not feel that there was a problem with this game, we were just active in the atmosphere and not malicious, how could we be scolded?
But no malice is not necessarily true.
This is similar to the "wine table culture" that has been criticized in the first half of the year, in the eyes of most people who have been integrated into this "culture", all kinds of must-drink toasts are the sincerity of making friends, and if you don't drink, you are not sincere.
When the other party feels uncomfortable and points out the harm of this behavior, or is pointed out by bystanders to the inferiority of it, those who carve the "joke" into their bones are ignorant and pay more attention to their own "grievances".
The culture of scum is repeatedly scolded, because there are a large number of people who have this awareness, and the public prefers to transfer the essence of the problem, if the victim is not "perfect", the problem will evolve in another direction.
What is more subtle is that after the Bao Bell bridesmaids door incident, the development of the two sides is also very similar to similar incidents in the ordinary workplace, and the people who cause problems are often minimally affected by their careers, and the people who are harassed become "outliers".
After the incident, although Bao Bell and the members of the groomsmen group were criticized by public opinion, they actually had no substantial impact on the cause, but Liu Yan, who was quite popular at the time, was once rumored to be "banned" by the groomsmen group afterwards.
This news has not been confirmed, but from Liu Yan's works, it can be seen that her resources are indeed declining after this incident, before 2016, she has been mixed with the era drama girl one, and the big director movies often look for her to edge.
However, after 2016, Liu Yan's TV drama resources have been reduced to supporting roles, and the film resources are not ideal except for the works cooperated with her friend Dapeng, but her acting skills are not small.
On the other hand, Bao Bell, not to mention his director resources, purely as an actor, in 2021 he will give 8 works in one go, and two 2022 bookings, this resource, really not generally strong.
Bao Bell Fang did not necessarily deliberately suppress Liu Yan, but human affection could not let her go.
As Bao Bell said on the variety show, after this incident, he and Liu Yan felt very embarrassed about each other, and their friends were already like this, and Liu Yan's relationship circle with other groomsmen was even more difficult to maintain.
If Bao Bell's business ability is strong enough, he may be able to overcome the controversy on his own body, but he is a well-known "bad film professional household" and "resources are inexplicably good professional household", and the strength cannot cover the controversy.
The "victims" with excellent business ability are increasingly marginalized, and the "perpetrators" with poor business ability are like large resource households, which is also a common trend of similar incidents in the ordinary workplace, no matter what the reason, it is ironic and realistic.
Rather than saying that netizens are reluctant to let go of Bao Bell is aimed at him, it is better to say that the public has seen the pain points of reality from the "bridesmaids' door" and felt the weakness of reality, because of weakness, it is more "grumpy".