"I don't care about how long it lasts, I only care about what I once had"
I used to think that this sentence was playing hooliganism, extremely irresponsible behavior, seemingly dashing, but in fact, it was just to find a grand excuse for my own irresponsibility, does it sound great?
As I grew older and more experienced, I gradually realized a cruel truth: there is no one or thing that can be owned forever, and the relatives, friends, and lovers around me will one day leave, and the various relationships with them will disappear one day, not forever. No one can measure the length of "forever".
The people I came into contact with were of all ages, from toddlers to old age, and seemed to be reading a script about "life", and each character came to life and played out their own lives.
And people at different stages of life, there are differences in thinking and pursuit. I often see old people snuggling up to each other in the park, and the sunset and the white hair are always very tacit. For them, it may be the result they want, or it may not be, at least for now, they still enjoy...
"Stay with me, I'll marry you later!"
Such a confession sounds really frivolous and irresponsible in today's fast food culture society. The two parties in love are naturally together because of the emotional hormones, the process may be beautiful and romantic, accompanied by occasional quarrels and gambles, or perhaps the other party does not say a word after chattering, no one can predict what the result will be, and even whether it can go on is unknown, let alone marriage.
I once had a relationship that was short but beautiful, at least for me a good memory.
It is said that Yunnan is a place of sexual encounters with love, and the past of that love is even more memorable than the trip itself. We both loved to travel, we met in an unknown folk bar, and that night we had a great conversation, and like all encounters, carefully concealed the inner fawn bumps, we exchanged contact information with each other. In the next few days, we chatted about each other's hobbies on the Internet, about poetry and distant places, trying to get closer to each other's hearts, and then we met and walked together, went to places that both sides liked, and saw the beautiful scenery that we both yearned for. In those three short months, I remembered for decades, and when I think about it to this day, a smile will appear on my lips.
You may not believe it, I don't even know where she is.
I enjoyed those months of joy, we were very tacit with each other, without asking each other's commitments, isn't love like this trip? I always think that the destination of this trip is marriage, but in fact, marriage is just a certain stop on the road, and some people get off the bus when they arrive, and some people are still moving forward.
We know better than anyone that with our different backgrounds, family backgrounds and experiences, it is unrealistic to enter marriage as the end of love. The only thing we can do is to enjoy the present moment, at least during that time we can't help but get closer because of the genuine love, go into each other's worlds, exchange each other's thoughts, explore where we are going, and enjoy this unique state.
We met in Yunnan and said goodbye in Yunnan.
When love comes, most people are difficult to face their feelings rationally, and the two parties driven by hormones can't help but be forced by any language and action, and the only remaining trace of rationality at this time is pale and weak.
The most feared thing is not that there is no result, but that the heart thinks about the result and talks about enjoying the process.
In the adult world, there are too many trade-offs and pros and cons, even feelings, too many things to worry about, eager to write "I can't afford to delay" a few big words on the face, from love to marriage, everything is patterned, to age, two people live together. How many people are married because two people are "suitable" for each other, not necessarily their favorite, in such a cost-effective combination, who has the leisure to pursue the enjoyment of the moment?
This is also something that young people feel confused about at the moment, wanting to enjoy the love of the moment desperately, but having to face reality and shoulder the burden of life. Pointed to the nose by the proud life and said: "Bread and love cannot be combined, which one do you choose?" "It seems that there is no way to make a choice, but there is no absolute in everything.
The result is really not to think about it as you wish, in the pursuit of results, more and more clear what you want, follow your own heart, whether it is a compromise marriage, or the pursuit of pure love, are different attitudes to life, life is an experience.
Feelings are pure, purely because you don't know when it will come, you don't know if you are ready, if you can put it away, it is not pure, enjoy the moment, love others when you love yourself more.
Concerns aside, the process is more important than the result.
I am Li Yang and wish you happiness.
Author | Li Yang
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Graphic editing | Yan Eight Barrels
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