It was a sunny afternoon, and all the girls in a certain first grade in Huocheng County were sitting neatly in the multi-purpose hall of the school, and they looked at each other curiously, and what came out of their faces was an unprecedented sense of mystery. For the first time, all the girls in the first grade sat together, and even the teacher in charge of maintaining discipline was a female teacher. The girls widened their eyes curiously, looking at this mysterious female world, and couldn't help but whisper in private: What is this for?
When the keynote speaker, ---- Gao Xia, took a steady step from the back row of her seat and stood on the podium in a dignified manner, the doubts of the students had not completely disappeared. Worthy of being a girl, discipline is good, just about to turn back to ask questions, a glimpse of the teacher's serious gaze, immediately did not dare to move.
After nearly an hour of lectures, the girls quietly left the multi-purpose hall. They had a relaxed smile on their faces. "Very successful, absolutely wonderful!" Teacher Kang Jianlan, who is in charge of moral education, said excitedly.
"I just helped the female students unveil the first mystery of their lives, and there is still a lot of work behind that needs to be followed up by teachers and parents to do well." Teacher Gao Xia put the lecture just now on the table and said humbly.
It turned out that what Ms. Gao Xia had just done for the girls was the "Girls' Mental Health Education Lecture" ----- "Shaping Excellent Character and Harvesting a Beautiful Life". I didn't find anything special about the title, so why does everyone think it's mysterious? "I just whispered to my female classmates for a while." Teacher Gao Xia gave them correct guidance from the psychological, emotional, love concept and adolescent interaction of contemporary female students. In Gao Xia's lecture, you can see several cases of girls, and some of them also have new annotations. Teacher Gao's point of view on the issue of communication between male and female students is: I hope that everyone will cherish themselves, respect and love, and be serious about being intimate and different between men and women; self-protection, pay attention to safety; identify temptations, and refuse vanity.
Because some girls do not have a correct outlook on life, love, and values, they do the wrong thing in a confused way, causing serious consequences to their lives and bringing endless troubles to their parents. Early love, fasting, early pregnancy and unmarried childbirth are not uncommon stories. Breaking the law and committing crimes because of improper handling of feelings; going astray because the future of life cannot be grasped; persecuting bad people because they have no social experience. This kind of thing happens from time to time. Therefore, many emotional experts have a common view: before the person who has been entrusted with life, insist on saying "no" to random 'sexual' demands.
"Why did you think about this topic?" As an inconvenient male teacher, not only does this topic feel mysterious, but more female teachers do not know what she is going to talk about. So, a female teacher asked.
Some teachers said in a serious tone: Today's girls are very unprotective, and the harm caused to girls by unmarried pregnancies and "unmarried mothers" is huge, and it can be said that they are lifelong. These bad consequences are often very cruel to girls, I want to wake up those girls who are intoxicated on the edge of "love", do not blindly give all their feelings, and have a solid defense line to protect themselves. The female teachers nodded and said yes.
After listening to the lecture, the girls in the first (3) class of high school said: "Refreshing and beneficial. Several female teachers also said happily: "It would be good to hold such lectures a few times, but now there is a lack of such sex education." ”
Vice Principal Chu Fumei said excitedly: "From the expressions of the students, it can be seen that they understand and they need such knowledge." We should hit the iron while it is hot, and we should also carry out such education for girls of other grades, and it is necessary to open the curtains and speak brightly in a relatively closed environment. ”
There was a girl who was fat, and she was wearing a wide school uniform, because she was closer to home, and she came out early and returned late every day. It was not until a physical examination before the college entrance examination that she found that she was four months pregnant. Another girl actually gave birth to her child in the school toilet before being taken to the hospital by 120. Through similar absurd events, it is really difficult to imagine how big a girl's parents have. And those female teachers, why didn't they communicate with their parents in advance? If you want to be accountable, you have to ask the parents first, because the parents are the first responsible persons for the girls.
A girl's body can only be understood by the mother and can be intimately touched. Girls who enter puberty will have obvious changes in their physiology. It is the mother's responsibility to protect her child and let the child grow up healthily, otherwise it is a dereliction of duty.
The situation of female students is also well known to female teachers. A good female teacher should treat a girl as her own child or sister. After all, when a girl comes to school, the teacher rightfully becomes the girl's guardian. It is said that the responsibility of teachers is to teach and educate people, so in the process of transmitting knowledge to girls, teachers also have the responsibility to care about their ideological dynamics.
Girls in early love should behave differently, or other girls will learn about a girl's out-of-line behavior. If the female teacher really treats the girl like a mother or a big sister, then she will definitely learn about the girl's change of mind, or there will be other girls who will reveal some information to the teacher (the girl's secret). Teachers should have more closely related "undercover" among students, and experienced teachers do the same.
Don't wait for the girl to be held responsible after the accident, if that's the case, no matter how severe the blame is, it will be meaningless.
Therefore, I suggest: mental health education should penetrate into school education; adolescent education should penetrate into school education.
If possible, ask counselors and gynecologists to educate students as necessary. Isn't there a saying that says? "Foreign monks chant". Teach your own children to others, which is a good way.
I hope more parents and teachers will participate in the discussion.
Author:Fan Wei (Secondary School Special Teacher)
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