Some time ago, I gathered with my old classmates, and everyone talked about it and became a "middle-aged people than miserable conference":
"It's so hard to educate children!"
"There are old and young, life is not easy!"
"Work is stuck in a bottleneck at every turn, and weight and blood pressure are moving forward!"
……
Sitting in the middle, I was silent.
The irresistible "three questions"
In other words, when people reach middle age, who is much stronger than whom.
For my own part, because of well-known policy reasons, the entire education industry is in a state of capital supply, the original planning line can only be adjusted repeatedly, and the number of new courses originally planned to be done can only be continuously reduced.
One word sums up my dilemma at this moment: poor. Many students have said: You have done a good job, especially well, being the CEO of the company is better than those of us who work... I can only play haha perfunctory past, thinking: I don't know how expensive chai rice is, I have to earn 300,000 yuan a day to support this company (it is 300,000 gross profit, not 300,000 income!). Do you know how much pressure there is?
External support is unreliable, and we can only rely on ourselves. One of the most obvious efforts was that I started selling goods live.
From the beginning of one game a month, to the most recent day at most two in the morning and evening, from seven to ten. On the weekend, I let the team members rest and rest, go to the company to make machines by themselves, and broadcast live alone.
Careful regular fans estimate that the picture quality of the weekend live broadcast is obviously much worse than usual. There is no small partner to cooperate with the lighting and reception, it is Chang Dad who is broadcasting to the computer and mobile phone alone.
On the way to "Chang Jiaqi", I also heard a lot of voices:
"Why are you so tired?"
"The staff doesn't have you as the boss to fight!"
In fact, it is not that I want to fight like this, but I must fight like this, otherwise where to get 300,000 yuan a day to feed this company, continue to provide children with high-quality audio and video products and courses?
Zhang Ailing has such a sentence in "Half Life":
"Men after middle age often feel lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there are no people he can rely on." (The substitution of "man" for "woman" in this sentence also applies to today's society.) ）
As a middle-aged man with an old age and a small one, I am no longer the little young man who eats enough alone and the whole family is not hungry. As the CEO of a company with hundreds of employees, I am not the employee who only needs to worry about paying.
I need to be responsible for my family and for my employees. Under the current situation, do not dare to get sick or dare to die, and dare not let the company continue to be "poor", in addition to "fighting", is there any other choice?
In recent years, "midlife crisis" has become a classic topic, and in many studies, the phenomenon of "U-shaped curve of human happiness" has also been found.
Simply put, people are at their lowest happiness when they are around 46.
But did you know that not only humans, but also apes have midlife crises.
A well-being assessment of 508 great apes was published in 2012, including 155 chimpanzee samples from Japan, 181 chimpanzee samples from the United States and Australia, and 172 orangutan samples from Canada and Singapore.
The assessment was conducted by zoo keepers, volunteers, researchers, and caregivers who had at least 2 years of contact with these apes.
These people regularly record whether the apes are happy or unhappy and rate the degree.
Finally, the researchers conducted a multivariate regression analysis of the collected data and found that there was a U-shaped curve in the great apes.
Moreover, the lowest point of the U-shaped curve, equivalent to human beings between 45 and 50 years old, coincides with the "mid-life crisis" of human beings.
Experts have deduced from this that there are biological factors in the formation of the "midlife crisis".
This is not difficult to understand. When people reach middle age, one of the most personal feelings is that when they are old, they can't stay up late, they don't need to be reminded by others to "soak goji berries in the insulated cup", and when they see the little young and big winter bare legs, they can't help but tell people about the legend of "old cold legs".
An important reason why middle-aged people pay so much attention to their health is that there are old and young people, and they dare not be old and sick.
There is a plot in "Tokyo Sonata" in which the male protagonist is afraid to tell his family after being laid off and runs to other companies to clean. Wear overalls when you go to work, and change into a straight suit when you leave work.
After the male protagonist of "Tokyo Sonata", Ryuhei, lost his job and worked as a cleaner
At that time, I didn't feel anything. Looking at it now, I just feel that I have a relationship. Unemployment is no less a blow to middle-aged people than serious illness and death.
There is also a very sad fact that the cognitive ability of middle-aged people has also declined, which means that middle-aged people learn new things faster than young people.
Middle-aged people drag their families and mouths, it is difficult to devote themselves to work wholeheartedly, and once overtime, it is easy to fall into the dilemma of "wanting a baby or working". Moreover, in order to support the family, the salary requirements cannot be low.
On the other hand, young people are much more cost-effective: one person eats enough for the whole family without hunger, and there is no high demand for salary. Overtime and business trips are not burdened, just do it, and leave when you say it. Even if you really work all night, you can get to work the next day.
Middle-aged people are indeed more experienced and stable, but in today's efficiency-oriented world, the ability to quickly learn new knowledge is more valuable than experience.
It's not good than physical strength, it's not good than energy, it's not better than affordable... The boss is not stupid, instead of paying a middle manager with a high salary, why not hire a young man with a low salary? Maybe you can also find a potential stock, then the cost performance is even higher.
So when the company is forced to lay off employees, middle-aged people can easily become targets. A decent job represents not only income, but also connections and class.
The most typical example is the following story of the minister becoming a delivery man.
Saeed Sadat, a 50-year-old former Afghanistan's minister of communications and information technology, delivers food deliveries in Germany
After decades of struggle and hard work, when it was difficult to achieve fame, he found that he still lived like a sword.
You can see the way, but you can't see the road ahead. A question that follows is:
"Next, how am I going to live?"
The poet Dante described this feeling of confusion and uneasiness as if he had entered a "dark forest."
Then the midlife crisis, there is no positive impact?
Not. A 2016 study published in the International Journal of Behavioral Development found that:
People who experience midlife crises develop a stronger curiosity about themselves and the wider world around them. This curiosity drives people to be open to problems, to be more insightful, and to come up with creative solutions. The end result is new breakthroughs or new opportunities.
That is to say, the midlife crisis will force people to open their minds, generate curiosity, and may find a breakthrough point.
I have also been deeply touched by this recently.
Live selling, before that I didn't know anything. If it weren't for the compelling situation, I would most likely never have thought about what I would have to do with it in my life.
"Poor is change", my curiosity to open my mind exploded, and live streaming with goods entered my field of vision.
I learned to communicate with everyone under the lens, learned to introduce products in the shortest language, learned to overcome "social fear", and got used to accepting the attention of thousands of people.
But at the same time, I found that I also benefited a lot from live streaming, such as receiving feedback from everyone in a timely manner, exchanging parenting issues, and even finding a lot of good topics from it.
The significance of live streaming is not only to help solve the company's financial difficulties, but more importantly, to give me a deeper understanding of education and life.
Darwin said in On the Origin of Species that the species that can survive are not the strongest or the smartest, but the most adaptable to change.
The so-called ability to adapt to change is actually the ability to learn for life and quickly.
As the picture below says:
People who insist on lifelong learning, life goes all the way up. Those who did not learn had to slide all the way down until they lay in the grave.
Speaking of which, I would like to recommend to you the "Harvard Academic Bully Cultivation Program - Cultivating Children's Super Learning Ability" course, which I am the main lecturer, and explains various efficient learning methods and techniques.
During the live broadcast, many people asked me: "How old is this course of learning ability suitable for children?" ”
In fact, the most suitable people for this course are parents. Learning is a lifelong companion to us, and mastering the skills of efficient learning can help parents survive the midlife crisis on the one hand, and parents can also teach their children by example, so as to achieve a win-win situation.
(You see, in order to earn this 300,000 yuan a day to support this company, I can always find ways to add hard breadth to the article!) There are always more ways than difficulties! ）
The midlife crisis, in my opinion, is more like a warning, a warning against the "boiled frog" attitude to life; it is also like the starting point of the next journey in life, giving us a chance to rethink "how we should live".
Therefore, we may wish to take the midlife crisis as our second adolescence, let us set sail again, to learn, to think, to try, to embrace the world with open arms, and to live a new wonderful life.
If today's article can cause you a little resonance, please like + forward at the end of the article, give us a little encouragement, and wish you yourself not to encounter a midlife crisis.
In the end, Chang Dad could not give up this opportunity to advertise for himself. At this stage, every morning from 8 o'clock to 11 o'clock we will do live broadcasts on vibrato and video numbers, dry goods and goods, and Saturday morning will also add video numbers from time to time (quietly Mimi said that every day live broadcast will have various benefits, and the current fans on douyin are less than on the video number, so if it is a lottery, the probability of winning the lottery will be higher, and the average person I will not tell him!). ）