During the American Civil War, Mr. March went to war, and Mrs. March lived in poverty with her four teenage daughters, Meg, Joe, Beth, and Amy.
Although their lives are not rich, they are strong and optimistic, selfless and generous, harmonious and friendly, and the family is very happy together. With such a warm and beautiful family, four sisters with very different personalities have gradually grown into cute and excellent little women.
The daughters can find a happy life, and it is inseparable from Mrs. March's careful care and teaching for them.
The family read mr. March's family letters sent back from the battlefield.
1. Teaching by example is better than words.
At the beginning of the film, as night falls, Mrs. March braves heavy snow and carries an empty basket back home from outside, where Christmas is approaching and she goes to help the homeless.
The next morning, Mrs. March went to visit her German neighbors, who did not speak English, and she used her good deeds to set an example for her daughters, subtly influencing them, so that they could have empathy, be able to appreciate the suffering of others, learn to share, and be helpful.
When the four sisters heard that the neighbor's family was left with only a mother who had just given birth and six children, they gave up the Hard-won Christmas dinner, sang songs, and smiled and delivered the food to the neighbor's house.
Give someone a rose, and the hand has a lingering fragrance. The kindness, selflessness, friendship and warmth between the sisters of the March family deeply attracted the children of the rich family next door, Laurie, who took the initiative to approach them, integrate into them, and aspire to be a member of their family.
2, give the children enough free space, do not set a frame for them.
The four daughters of the March family each have their own strengths, Joe likes to write, Beth likes to play the piano, Amy likes to draw, and the eldest sister is a good helper for Mrs. March.
The four sisters like to party in the attic and form their own clubs, using the novels written by Joe as scripts for role-playing, and Mrs. March never stops them for noisy, unorthodox or other reasons.
On a snowy day, the girls and Laurie have a snowball fight. When Laurie's governess implicitly suggests that girls shouldn't play like this, Mrs. March counters that girls are the same as boys.
She did not use the code of conduct at the time to ask her girls to enjoy the fun of playing without having to wear a corset as a lady.
In such an enlightened family education, four lively and vivid girls can be raised.
3. In the event of conflict between sisters, all are treated equally.
The youngest daughter Amy and Joe have a tantrum, and the bear child has a seizure, and the novel manuscript that Joe has worked so hard to write burns into ashes.
Angered, Joe punches Amy and vows never to forgive his sister again.
Mrs. March did not take the side of the people in order to rest, she could understand that the novel was Joe's brainchild, she just gently advised Joe not to bring anger to the next day.
After Amy apologized, Joe still did not lose his temper and did not forgive, and Mrs. March did not favor the younger daughter, let alone say things such as, she is still young, she is still a child, and the sister should forgive her. She left the rest of the problems for the little sisters to solve on their own.
This is Mrs. March's cleverness, as the saying goes, broken bones are connected to tendons, and after the little daughter fell into the ice cave, she was desperately rescued by Joe, and the two sisters were as harmonious as ever.
Parents don't have to replace one of the children to communicate with the other child, which will make the other child feel that you are taking sides and make their relationship more tense.
After arguing and contradicting and reconciling, children can learn to tolerate compromise and appreciate the importance of the other party in their hearts.
4. Convey a positive view of love and values.
Girls will have all kinds of troubles when they grow up. Meg, who has just entered the social banquet, is a little lost in herself, and she goes against her will, wearing a corset and a gorgeous skirt, trying to integrate into the celebrity.
Mrs. March and her daughters, dressed in pajamas, sat on soft beds, and gently guided them, people should still pay more attention to their hearts, and having excellent qualities is more important than anything else than appearance. They were not like mother and daughter together, like friends talking, and the daughters listened to her words and put them in their hearts.
When relatives persuaded Mrs. March to marry a good family and help them with the family, Mrs. March did not do so.
When she learned that Meg had decided to marry a poor man, she only expressed concern that the man did not have a house, but in the end she encouraged her daughter, hoping that she would marry for love.
The second daughter next to her opposed marriage and said that she did not want to get married, and Mrs. March did not impose the stereotypical ideas on her daughter at that time, trying to change her daughter's mind and let Joe make her own decisions.
When she grew up, her three daughters all respected their hearts, married for love, and found their own life partners.
5. Encourage your daughter to face her heart and find the life she wants.
The second daughter, Joe, has a hot and straightforward personality and dreams of becoming a writer, and finally she creates a novel based on the real life of her sisters, successfully publishes a book, and realizes her dream.
In the process of Joe's pursuit of ideals, she has also been shaken and helpless, although she rejected Laurie's marriage proposal, but she did not know how to go next, and fell into pain.
For the world, Laurie is handsome and wealthy, and Joe is a very perfect marriage candidate.
But Mrs. March did not persuade Joe to accept the marriage proposal to have a stable guarantee for her future life, but encouraged her daughter to go to New York to find her dream.
With her mother behind her back, Joe plucked up enough courage to go out of the house to realize her dream of being a writer, although the setbacks continued, but she could see her strength and resilience, and she never thought of giving up.
In New York, Joe met her soul mate, and after realizing her ideals, ran the school with her husband.
The third daughter, Beth, was infected with scarlet fever by the child next door, but she has been weak and died tragically in her prime. But before she died, she faced death openly. Although she never left home, the life she wanted was to stay at home and live with her family. In the short journey of life, Beth has no regrets. This open-mindedness and transparency must have been influenced by Mrs. March, who lived with her day and night.
I have heard such a saying: Lucky people are healed by the original family all their lives, and unfortunate people are curing the harm caused by the original family all their lives.
The daughters of the March family are lucky, Mrs. March has given them the same amount of love, not stingy to give affirmation, tolerance, it is such an enlightened mother, the four sisters although different personalities, different hobbies, married people are different, but they all live the life they want.
The Age of The March family is far from the present, but Mrs. March's parenting concept is still worth learning from today's parents.