It has been 18 years since Zhang Guorong's death, and it is still regrettable to think about it. Regardless of talent and character cultivation, Zhang Guorong is the best in every way, what Zhou Runfa and others call "the most perfect person", such a perfect person, in the case of a stable career and stable feelings, suddenly abandoned all this and bid farewell to the world, how is it not painful?
Before Zhang Guorong died, he left a suicide note, in which he wrote that he had been "so hard and could not bear it any longer" in the past year, which can already be seen that he suffered from depression. He also thanked his lovers, relatives and friends, and still had love for the world, and the last sentence was "I have not done anything bad in my life, why is this so?" "Three question marks, the word is sour."
Why should such a kind person be tormented by depression? Some psychologists have pointed out that depression is often related to the environment in which the person grows up. Zhang Guorong's tragic life should also look for reasons from his childhood experience.
Zhang Guorong was born in a wealthy family, his father Zhang Huohai is a famous "king of western clothes" in Hong Kong, tailors are skilled, many hollywood stars are his customers, and also opened their own foreign clothing shops. The business was successful, but he still sewed his own suits and worked an average of more than 12 hours a day in the store. Although Zhang Huohai's career was successful, he was quite macho and married his aunt.
Zhang Guorong has ten brothers and sisters, he is the smallest, generally speaking, the youngest one in the family is often the most favored, but in fact, his parents are very indifferent to their children, the parents live in a two-story house in Central, but Cheung Kwok Wing was sent to Wan Chai to live with his grandmother and brothers and sisters. Among the brothers and sisters, the third, fourth and ninth elders died when they were very young, the eldest eldest sister was 18 years older than Zhang Guorong, and the starling was also 8 years older than him, such an age difference made Zhang Guorong very lonely from a young age. The person who had the best affection for him was a maid named "Sixth Sister" who grew up watching him.
His parents did not live with Zhang Guorong and did not care about his growth. Father often went to the Peninsula Hotel in Tsim Sha Tsui to rent a house, chat with some beautiful women, and the mother was busy fighting for the wind and jealousy, hiring a private detective to investigate Zhang Huohai's whereabouts, and his mind was completely absent from the child, seeing other people's children being beaten by their parents, Zhang Guorong was very envious: "It is actually a good thing for a child to beat his mother, but I don't even have the opportunity to be beaten, let alone long for My father to take me to the garden on Sunday to take pictures." Therefore, many years later, Zhang Guorong used the word "selfish" to describe his parents.
Zhang Guorong once revealed that his biggest regret is that from birth to the death of his parents, the days he lived with his father did not exceed 5 days, and his mother did not exceed half a year, and his relationship with his mother was even stranger than that of ordinary friends, and the dialogue between mother and son was as polite as a stranger. Zhang Guorong once gave an example, his mother went to his house to go to the toilet, but also politely asked: "Can I use your toilet?" This kind of remark may sound funny to outsiders, but for Zhang Guorong, it is very hurtful: to what extent is the estrangement of the mother-child relationship so "respectful as a guest"?
Zhang Guorong later also worked hard to repair the relationship with his mother, invited her to play at home, and also dedicated a song to his mother at the concert, his mother was very happy, his sister was also very happy, Zhang Guorong also said that he was very comfortable and fulfilled his responsibility as a son. But did he really let go? I'm afraid only he has the answer in his own heart.
Happy people use childhood to heal a lifetime, and unfortunate people use a lifetime to heal childhood. Zhang Guorong's life is magnificent and wonderful, but behind the gorgeous life, it is so lamentable. If his childhood hadn't been like this, would there have been a different version of his life ending? I hope that parents in the world can truly love their children.
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