Mio's husband cheated on her for many years, even taking women to open hotels in front of her children. The resentful Mio retaliated against her husband by cheating. Although they are well aware that their sons have become numb to their parents' relationships and behaviors, they have always used their children as an excuse not to divorce.
Because the pain of life and the stress of work could not be discharged, Mio suffered from severe depression and Parkinson's. After taking the drug, the depression improved, but parkinson's performance symptoms were not alleviated.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the emotions of being imprisoned and easily hurt the body</h1>
When a person loses the joy of life, it is easy to lose two things, one is called dopamine, commonly known as the substance that can make people happy, and it will also affect people's motor nerves. For example, when people are happy, their nerves and minds are active; on the contrary, when people are depressed, they are depressed and sluggish, such as gradually freezing people. The other is sugar, because sugar often represents happiness in us as well. Sugar loss is also known as diabetes.
Mio's cousin died in Parkinson's, her dad had diabetes, and what an unhappy family it was.
Medically speaking, Mio has a certain probability of being ill if he has a Parkinson's family history, but because the existing medicine can only distinguish whether it is confirmed as Parkinson's disease from the efficacy of the drug, and his own medication has no effect. Therefore, Mio believes that perhaps it is a psychological cause that causes Parkinson's symptoms. This conjecture is also very likely.
When people are hurt or depressed, the sense of value is very low, and they get something in a self-hurting way. They think that worthless can be trampled on at will, which is actually deepening the harm to the self. The more you hurt yourself, the more you can't find yourself back, like people often say" "lost yourself because of love", and finally lost contact with the body or even completely out of control - illness, self-harm, depravity, depression, paralysis... To put it bluntly, it is to hurt yourself to get attention.
Some of these people will be healed because they have become strong after encountering difficulties. Still others are not healed because they continue to need these conditions to attract others in order to meet their own needs. They make themselves pitiful, gain sympathy and "ask" others to give themselves up – when they are not in good health, it means to be accompanied, and when they are healed, it means to lose and leave.
All human sickness is a means of courtship. If a person cannot be strong on his own, he will gain love through all kinds of illnesses and all kinds of injuries.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > I put on a show to get your attention</h1>
At the scene, Teacher Hangwu made a systematic and rapid diagnosis of the disease for Mio. Through the combination of traditional Chinese culture "gold, wood, water, fire and earth" with modern system arrangement, we get the first feedback: Parkinson's symptoms represent that they are not locked in a specific section - children, husbands, ancestors.
So there may be another possibility for the cause of Parkinson's symptoms. Teacher Hangwu also invited representatives of native symptoms, representatives of substitute symptoms, and representatives of derived symptoms.
The four representatives immediately presented a different situation than just now, and Parkinson's symptoms have been derived from the symptoms.
Teacher Hangwu clearly tells Mio that the disease has nothing to do with herself.
This symptom is derived. It is a mask – a person who does not have the disease, but who has the symptom because he needs it. Over time, the human subconscious will eventually form a real disease in order to meet the needs.
Another possibility is that the disease may also be an alternative to someone to bear, and perhaps there may be some substitution in the family.
Next, what we need to explore is not whether Mio has this disease, but through the interpretation of this symptom, what is replaced? What do you want to get?
Cousin representatives, father representatives, matrilineal family representatives, husband representatives and other possibility representatives were added to the scene. The phenomenon presented by the information field is very interesting. Parkinson's symptoms follow the husband, substitute symptoms want to kick the husband, derived representatives stare at the husband, and the husband chases after other possibilities.
These phenomena once again show that Mio's Parkinson's wants her husband to pay attention to her, but his focus is not on her. So if there are many things in our lives that we are unwilling to face, it will become another consequence - disease, and we can never escape this law of cause and effect. Unless the positive life problem is positive, the stasis of emotions is unblocked, and the disease will disappear.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > strange behavior represented by the husband</h1>
The husband representative was tired of the other possibility representatives and kept chasing him. Then the husband's affair representative and the Mio couple's abortion representative joined the information field.
The replacement symptoms still want to kick the husband's representative, and the emotions are a little excited. Here are some information from Mio's husband's side, we can only know his family information, but at this time can not help him solve the problem.
Mio revealed that her husband had only brothers and no sisters in her family, so when her two sons were born, her husband was very disgusted, and he wanted a daughter.
Unable to determine whether his parents had had an abortion, Mr. Hangwu only invited representatives of her husband's sisters to the scene. The representative of the derived symptom sits down on the side, the husband has no feelings for other possibilities, and the sister representative faces the husband representative.
Watching the scene change, Teacher Hangwu asked Mio, "Do you still need to shake?" ”
Mio obviously didn't take the situation on the court with his heart, but just said with his head: "It's not needed, I think sometimes it's really uncontrollable." If you accidentally trip when you walk. ”
When people habitually react, you can ask yourself," do I need this?" "It's an interesting question.
Mio's husband is constantly having affairs, in fact, looking for his lost sister, all of which is done subtly, and no one does it deliberately. There are two ways to become a family: by blood, and sexually.
Mio can go to her husband to verify whether his parents have had an abortion. When parents can't face and admit it, the rest of the family has to come out and take over something. But these are not the most important, how to do it is Mio's husband's own choice, there are his own reasons.
The most important thing is Mio's choice, and her choice will bring the results she needs to bear. Mio's husband didn't want to live with her, and Mio didn't want to let go, which was the real reason Parkinson's got into trouble with her husband— she was using Parkinson's to get tangled up with her husband.
We often feel helpless, as if controlled by the hand of fate, in fact, too many people do not know that this fate has always been in their own hands.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > abandoning marriage is not the opposite of choosing children</h1>
At this moment, Mio was still expecting Teacher Hangwu to make a decision for her: "What kind of advice does the teacher give me?" ”
"I can only take you to see the truth, and that is the consequences of what choices you make."
Teacher Hangwu invites Mio to pick up a large flowerpot and face her husband.
"Such a heavy life, you are ready when it really ends. What do you really not want to let go of? What do you decide when you want to grasp something that others can't give you? Teacher Hangwu said heavily to Mio word by word, but it didn't seem to wake her up yet.
Mio felt too unfair in his heart to forgive her husband. "Why can he get away with it, why should I bear all this?" It was a true monologue within her. Mio's reluctance is like a gambler, gambling himself into it again and again, losing to the other side again and again. She wanted warmth, and he was so desperate.
Mio put down the flowerpot and said, "Countless times I wanted to leave, but my son said he didn't like us to leave." ”
We all often love our children in some self-righteous way. Not liking the parents to leave him and not liking the parents are obviously two different things, and the child is just worried about being abandoned by his parents. They can divorce and separate, just don't stay away from their children.
The premise of companionship and care for others is that you have to have a sense of happiness.
Mio's greatest harm to the child is that he will always look pessimistic and painful in front of the child. For the child, half of the sky is dark, and if one person shows indulgence in front of the child, the other half of the sky is also collapsed. On the surface, the Mio couple did not leave the child, but for the child it is a kind of harm, and in the child's heart, the family is already broken.
Teacher Hangwu asked Mio to pick up the flowerpot again: "The hatred of so many years is like this flowerpot in my hand, so heavy." Do you really want to let go? ”
We are always unwilling to let ourselves lose more and more, and even one day lose our lives.
Using children as an excuse not to divorce leads children to the belief that my parents are living so much because of me. It is difficult to imagine how much weight such a child will have to carry in the future to calm the guilt in his heart.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > let go is to get physical and mental liberation</h1>
"If this investment is doomed to fail, do you still have to keep throwing money into it?" Stop loss in time, is earned. Greed makes people lose more and more. ”
"I wanted to let go, but there was another reason I stayed, when I was busy at work, he would do a lot of housework, and I owed him a lot." Mio put down the pot again.
What Mio said was the complete opposite of what she was doing at the moment, making people cry and laugh. Obviously, he was too heavy to hold, and he still said that he could not be separated.
Mio lives in her story, weaving herself with countless reasons why she can't be separated from her husband.
Mio said: "If you want to separate, it shows that I am very ruthless. ”
Teacher Hangwu let Mio pick up the flowerpot for the third time, "Since you are afraid that others will say that you are ruthless, you should hold it; if you are afraid that the child will be hurt, you should hold it; if you are afraid that you have guilt for him, you should hold it; if you are afraid that the divorce is very faceless, you should hold it!" ”
"I'm going to let go, and every time I argue, I feel like I'm letting go of a little bit." Mio put down the pot again.
"Are you really ready to put it down?" So easy to put down? We can all be more patient, and sometimes letting go of something is really not something that will happen for a while. Teacher Hangwu asked Mio to pick up the flowerpot for the fourth time, "Actually, you are already awake, you really don't have to pretend to sleep anymore." If you have decided to make a decision today, please tell us about your decision, and if you have decided not to make a decision today, then tell us about this decision. ”
"In my heart, I want to leave him immediately. I tangled with him, and the more entangled I became, the more painful it became. ”
"It's not about not leaving, it's about not letting go. I feel your helplessness. ”
Teacher Hangwu feels helpless about Mio's undecided heart, and he chooses to bear this helplessness and respects Mio's choice.
The case ends here, and Sensei Hangwu has revealed the truth for Mio and shown the complete reality. At the moment, Teacher Hangwu has done his best to help.
"As a representative of my husband, I stood face to face with Mio here for almost 5 minutes, and I have a deep and deep feeling that she actually has no feelings for 'me'. Because I've been looking into her eyes and in those 5 minutes she only looked at me once, and we barely looked at each other, and I couldn't feel where her eyes were. "The husband representative gave us a truth that Mio didn't want to admit either.
The core spirit of renunciation is to leave what you really like, throw away what you don't like, and life will not be so tired. Through Mio's mirror, we can see the price we have been constantly paying for our unwillingness.
"Knowing and then being still, being still and then being able to be still, being quiet and being able to be at peace, being able to be at peace and then being able to worry, worrying and then being able to get", we grasp madly in ignorance, and the choices we make are all foolish. So when a problem occurs, the first thing to do is to learn to stop losses, in Buddhist parlance, "precepts, concentration, and wisdom."
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > a sleepless night, a magical turn</h1>
Mio could not accept the outcome of this case. That night, she lost sleep.
She spent the night with her eyes open and thought a lot — to choose a husband or to give up Parkinson's?
The next morning, she came to the course venue, could not suppress the stage to share, told everyone: "Through yesterday's case, I saw the fact that I have been unwilling to face, over the years I am very unwilling in my heart, there are also a lot of resentment and hatred, countless emotions accumulated in the heart there is nowhere to vent." In the current situation of life getting worse and worse, I am also living more and more to lose myself, I do not want to hurt the child as a reason, but I have been doing things to hurt him, and now I really understand that this is not the life I want. I don't want to run away anymore, I want to face my life bravely, I want to be responsible for myself! Everyone felt that Mio, who was standing on the stage at this moment, had regained her own strength! The originally uncontrollable trembling body is like a tree that has been reborn from the wind and rain, firmly rooted in the earth, bathing in the bright sun of new life. All the partners in the audience saw a miracle - the hands did not shake!