"33 Days of Lost Love" is a magical movie. Because of this small-scale film that year, it set a high box office and high rating. More because, over the years, many actors who have starred in this drama have had emotional problems one after another, and they have made a lot of noise. The first sentence is an objective evaluation, and the second sentence can be called mean.
Explanation of words: The "meanness" in this article comes from the << history of Shang jun Lie chuanlun >>: "Shang Jun, his talent is mean people also." "The explanation is: teasing, mocking.
In China, this ridicule is mostly lip service. Without saying more, let's take the picture first, so that you can experience what is called harming people without dirty words, and the breadth and depth of the Chinese words. A but in English, translated, Huang Xiaoxian said a total of eleven words: "However, I still have to sigh from the bottom of my heart." "It's called meanness.
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Introduction: After listening to my explanation below, you can smoothly link meanness and kindness, whether you agree with it or not.
Sometimes being mean to a person is really saving people from water and fire.
Wang Xiaoyi (Wang Yiyang) is mean to Huang Xiaoxian as a way to protect her self-esteem.
Since Huang Xiaoxian lost love, Wang Xiaoxian (Wang Yiyang) did not say a word of real comfort to Huang Xiaoxian. Even, when Huang Xiaoxian couldn't help but chase after Lu Ran, he directly gave the drunken Huang Xiaoxian a mouth. Kept what little self-esteem she had left. You know, Huang Xiaoxian's boyfriend, cheating on her girlfriend. You know, Lu Ran and Huang Xiaoxian's girlfriend have been together for half a year, and they are still hiding from her. You know, Huang Xiaoxian once tried to support his self-esteem with tears on the end of the phone.
Just like Lin Daiyu's meanness, it is not her heartfelt wish, but it is a means of maintaining self-esteem. From the moment she stepped into Jaffa, she had to learn to protect herself. In this complicated interpersonal relationship, she has always been in a weak position, and she can only use that "meanness" to make everyone respect and stay away from it.
It's not that she doesn't want to be close to people, but being too close to people will evoke the vulnerability that she has hidden in her heart. In other words, the harsh words will force themselves to be more severe with themselves. It can be said that Lin Daiyu's talent has talent and more hard work. After all, only in this way can Lin Daiyu be qualified to ridicule and ridicule others. If you are useless, how can you taunt the capital of others?
The great old king was mean to Huang Xiaoxian, which was a kind of silent care.
Da Lao Wang, a boss, personally invited Huang Xiaoxian to a high-end restaurant for dinner. The invitation was sent out as follows: "If you don't come, it's considered a day of absenteeism." "Simple and crude, but it works. Huang Xiaoxian was unceremonious and asked the Great Lao Wang two questions directly before eating.
Are you going to fire me?
Are you going to soak me?
After receiving the negative answer from the Great Lao Wang, Huang Xiaoxian was relieved to sit down to eat. Seeing this, do you have an inexplicable happiness in your heart? Just in order to be able to be so outspoken in front of the boss, Huang Xiaoxian.
And the next thing the great old king does, he will inexplicably poke your tears. Cut meat, sent out for the cello. A father, far from all the heartache and regrets of his daughter. Such a sudden meal makes people have a deep feeling of aftertaste. Throughout the process of eating, the great old king did not say a word to Huang Xiaoxian, and regularly agreed and intimately comforted. But who can say, "A mouthful of meat, a sip of wine." "It's not the mean Old King's warmest care for Huang Xiaoxian."
Speaking of which, I think of the children of my relatives. When I was in elementary school, I always grew up with the praise of teachers and parents. In junior high school, I suddenly found the fact that I was not so good. So, all day long, I was depressed. However, everyone was still holding on to persuasion, for fear of hurting her self-esteem.
Until one day, his father drank some wine and said directly: "I am not smart, your mother is not excellent, why can you get praise everywhere." I work hard to make money, your mom works hard, why do you think you can succeed in a new environment without working hard. The only ones who can spoil you are us, and your elementary school teachers who are still in the well. Out of the well of elementary school, no one will always be accustomed to you. ”
Now, this child is not very good, but he is no longer self-destructive. Perhaps, all she had left was to work hard. Of course, there are other emotions attached. For example, parents are not always kind.
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Introduction: There are so many people in this world, surely not everyone likes you. Naturally, you don't have to cater to all of them.
Some people, cold can keep their distance. Some people, on the other hand, need to be mean to break off relationships.
Huang Xiaoxian was mean to Lu Ran
This meanness, at the beginning, was insisted upon by Huang Xiaoxian. Later, it was forced by Wang Xiaobei (Wang Yiyang). At the wedding scene of his classmates, Wang Xiaozhen set a trap, so that Lu Ran and Huang Xiaoxian had the opportunity to contact. Then pushed and let them hug together. In turn, lu ran was slandered and entangled with Huang Xiaoxian. Wang Xiaolian (Wang Yiyang) treated Lu Ran like this, not only to win back face for Huang Xiaoxian. More importantly, in order to make Huang Xiaoxian never have a chance to turn back, completely give up this relationship that no longer belongs to her.
Magnolia is mean to third parties, her husband, and herself.
When she found out that her husband had cheated on her, Magnolia first convinced a third party with a gun and a stick. Even the words that sometimes look at people when they are sick have been spoken out. To be honest, there are really few people who can face a third party so calmly, let alone a woman who has just given birth. This is one of Haiqing's characters, my favorite, not one. Although, only for a few minutes, in the mean words, saved the fate of the two women.
Treating her husband, Magnolia is also unceremonious. "If you're going to find her, I'll cut you off like a cecum." Yulan was also merciless to herself, and even took her husband's peach blossom debt as her own midwife. Behind this meanness is how strong the heart is, and how sober the mind is. Of course, there is also a strong love.
If you don't want to be with someone, stay away from them. Otherwise, be mean to yourself, let go of all your grievances, and move forward lightly.
Life is like a jar, there are so many things that can be contained. Grasping and letting go is more important than anything else.
Life is more like a train, and when you struggle with fares, you may have missed a lot of scenery.
At this time, you need to be reminded that you can make up your mind to buy a ticket last time and run to the next station. And this reminder sometimes needs to be mean.
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Introduction: Everyone knows the advice against the ear, but not everyone can listen to it.
Purposeful meanness, sometimes has a greater use.
This epidemic is like a ruthless hand, ravaging many adults, thinking that they are strong in their hearts. The first time we wanted to enjoy the treatment of 996 so much, and for the first time, we were not concerned about overwork and death, but when we would be able to return to work.
In the same whirlpool, no one can be left alone, including my friend. He opened a tire shop, staff salary plus rent, when not open, pay 1,000 yuan a day, open the door to pay 3,000 yuan per day (employees go to work, naturally full salary). This is not counting the depreciation of inventory. In the past few days, he is glad that his good friend slaughtered him a big meal a few years ago, just to make fun of his current wealth, he put so many yuan (tires) in the library. Therefore, he did not continue to restock, planning to deal with the inventory in the next year. He added: "This friend had also advised him to reduce his inventory before. He didn't listen, otherwise, Curry wouldn't have had nearly 2 million in stock right now. ”
The closer people are, the more disgusted they are to being educated by us. Then we may as well go another way, taunt him, angry and angry, perhaps, will have an unexpected effect.
epilogue
Life is not long, let you squander only a few years, can also be called "one person to eat enough, the whole family is not hungry." "The golden years. And during this period, you have to fall in love, but also have to work hard, in fact, it is quite busy.
What's more, you will have to carry the weight forward in the next few days. The burden of middle age, perhaps, will make you unable to put it down, and you will not be in the mood to die. At this time, you should thank the people who were mean to you in the previous years. They once woke you up, or stayed away from you. The main thing is that they are outspoken and don't waste more of your time.
The rest of life is short, there are many troubles, and the responsibility may be greater. We have no time to be polite, let alone waste time, whether it is to treat livelihood or feelings, and if we have judgment, please be mean and blunt. Only in this way will we live tenaciously and happily in the rest of our lives without so many winds and rains.
Of course, I also have to thank myself for being mean to myself and for forcing myself to grow again, without indulging in any whirlpool.