I wish you a better version of yourself in reading
In life, when encountering difficulties, you will hear a common saying: I want to live a free life, how good it is to live a completely free and relaxed life, I hate heavy things, I just want to be relaxed.
This sentence sounds impeccable, shouldn't people be free to choose their own life? Isn't it fragrant for a relaxed and enjoyable life?
However, if you are not clever and want to answer these questions seriously, you can read the good book I am going to recommend to you today, the famous novel of the famous Czech-French writer Milan Kundera, "The Unbearable Lightness of Life".
"The Unbearable Lightness of Life"
I read this book when I was young, and it felt very exciting at the time, and it was full of all kinds of dog blood love sections.
The hero of the novel, Thomas, is a surgeon, and after experiencing a failed marriage, he germinated an emotion of both longing for women and fearing women, and this sense of mystery, coupled with handsomeness, made him a "scumbag" with countless lovers.
Thomas, who wandered among many lovers, even invented a set of "three principles for lovers to get along": if you meet with a woman in a short period of time, you must not meet more than three times; if you meet with the same woman all year round, you must be at least three weeks apart between the two times. ”
From Thomas's completely irresponsible style, it can be seen that he is a completely self-centered person who lives in a "free and easy life".
Thomas's cynical style deeply hurt the two women closest to him: one was the long-term lover who knew him best, the female painter Sarina, and the other was his only cohabiting girlfriend who wanted to be together, the waitress Teresa.
Teresa looks sunny and cheerful, but is actually very sensitive, and she has been having nightmares after noticing Thomas's incessant cheating, which is very painful.
Teresa
In the middle and back of the novel, the plot takes a sharp turn. Thomas was in trouble and had a constant vice of meetings, which finally made Teresa completely intolerable, so she left Thomas alone and returned to Prague, the city they had first met.
Thomas's life crumbled, and he finally made the decision to return to Prague, which had been blockaded by the war, in search of Teresa. This "heavy" decision changed him into a man, and when he returned to Prague, he was also disqualified by the secret police for adhering to his patriotic political views, and he had to return to the countryside to live a peasant life "facing the loess with his back to the sky".
A heavy sense of responsibility redeemed Thomas's soul and he became a brave, strong and fulfilling man.
He let go of the pathological psychology of longing and fearing for women, and lived a simple and simple "pastoral pastoral" life with Teresa.
Why isn't the light and fluttering life worth living? Probably because there is no so-called quiet years, absolute freedom and easy life behind it, but someone is carrying the weight on our behalf.
Only by taking on heavy responsibilities can you become a complete and fulfilled self.
In fact, a good book will not only have one aspect, for example, in this book, there is thinking about education. In the book, Thomas's lover, the female painter Sabina, whose view of marriage and love is not the same as that of ordinary people, has a very low sense of security and loves as much as she wants. This difference is caused by inadequate family education, which reads:
What attracted Sabina was betrayal, not loyalty. Influenced by her father, she began to paint at a very young age.
At the age of fourteen she fell in love with a boy of the same age. His father was so horrified that he forbade her to go out alone for a whole year. One day he showed her some copies of Picasso's and laughed at the paintings. Since she had no right to love a boy of the same age, she could at least love Cubist art.
After graduating from secondary school, she went to Prague, where she could finally betray her original family; she married a mediocre Prague actor for the simple reason that because he had a bad reputation for deviance, both fathers thought he was unacceptable, and she betrayed her parents' will; after the death of her parents, she declared to her husband (in him, there was no longer a mischievous prodigal son, but an annoying drunk) that she was leaving him, and she betrayed her marriage.
treachery. Since childhood, dad and elementary school teachers have repeatedly instilled in us that this is the most hateful thing imaginable in the world. But what exactly is betrayal? Betrayal is to get out of one's place. Betrayal is to get out of place and throw yourself into the unknown. Sabina felt that there was nothing more wonderful than throwing herself into the unknown.
Sabina, a female painter caught in the cycle of betrayal
However, if you betrayed a for the sake of b and now betray b, it does not mean that you have to reconcile with a. After the divorce, the life of the female artist was not like the life of her parents, whom she turned her back on. The first betrayal was irreparable. It provokes more betrayals, like a chain reaction, and again and again it takes us farther and farther away from the original betrayal.
Sabina's insecurity about marriage and love stems from the growth process of adolescence. It can be seen that her "habitual betrayal" is related to the attitude of her adolescent parents towards her early love. Parents adopt a tough disciplinary attitude in the educational process, without paying attention to the unique psychological characteristics of adolescents and guiding them.
This also reminds us that the psychological problems of many adults are not sudden, but are closely related to childhood growth and education.
A really good book, that's it, it presents a wealth of angles and aspects. For example, this book not only discusses life, love, and the fate of our homeland with us, but also talks about education.
Let's talk about this today, do you start to like this book? Go read it and hope you fall in love with it too.
In the future, I will find an opportunity to share other good books with you, I am the owner of Zhihui Pavilion, and we will see you next time.