Text: Jing Ma
I went to a psychology lecture before, and I mentioned that "children should avoid mothers and daughters, and daughters should not avoid fathers", and the reason why this psychologist said is indeed very realistic and very heart-wrenching.
The psychologist, who also attends the hospital himself, said that he had seen several cases of male homosexuality, and when he traced the cause, he found that the boy had a close relationship with his mother since he was a child.
One of them is that his parents divorced when he was 4 years old, he followed his mother, and his mother took him to depend on each other, from the age of 4, the two of them slept together, until the boy was already in junior high school, and even began to lose sperm, and his mother still slept with her son.
Later, when the mother found out that something was not right, she took her son to see a psychiatrist, and the psychiatrist told the mother: You must sleep separately from your son immediately, your son's problem now is because you have been too clingy to him, the boy is already so old, you are still so close to your son, you still sleep together, and you don't close the door when you take a bath, you are harming the child!
Another homosexual is also because his father has been working in the field for a long time, and the child has grown up with his mother, and there is little participation of his father in his growing environment, so his personality and actions in all aspects are very similar to a girl.
Because he was brought up by his mother since he was a child, children without his father by his side are indeed not masculine enough and manly enough, so after going to school, he found that he didn't like girls, and felt that girls were no different from himself, but liked boys, because he lacked male role models when he was growing up, which would lead him to desire men, so he became homosexual.
The child avoids his mother, the most typical of which is the star Di Ying, who did everything when her son was young, she even felt that her son loved her very much, and she had to sleep with herself since she was a child, it is said that she slept with her son until her son was 15 years old, until her son had a physiological reaction, she knew that something was wrong, and she separated from her son.
And the control of the child is very strict, even staring at the child to eat, sitting for 7 hours, the son became like a giant baby under the discipline of his mother, and then Di Ying sent his son abroad, the son simply let himself go, and because he was arrested because he hid a lot of guns at home, Di Ying tried his best to save his son.
Later, she was arrested for gathering a crowd to take drugs, and she lived a luxurious life, which led to her son Sun Anzuo's final destination being in prison, and he should regret it, but it was too late to regret it.
In fact, when the child is three years old and understands the difference between men and women, the mother will try not to bathe her son, and at about 5 years old, the mother will share the bed with her son, so that the son knows that he is an independent individual.
In particular, mothers should not dress too sexily in front of their sons, lock the door when they go to the toilet, lock the door when they take a bath, and let their son know that men and women are different and that their bodies must have a sense of boundaries.
Corresponding to the child's avoidance of the mother, the eldest daughter should not avoid the father
Psychologists mentioned that in fact, not only daughters have father-love complexes, but fathers can also recall the experience of falling in love with their wives when their daughters were adolescence, after all, daughters must look more similar to their wives.
Therefore, many fathers will subconsciously avoid their slim daughters, less with their daughters, and even their daughters feel embarrassed at home, so they want to hide back in the room, or even go out for a walk.
Such an avoidance state is actually a kind of harm to the daughter, because the daughter meets the first male in adolescence should be the father, the first opposite sex is the father, what is this opposite sex like, the daughter will look for similar ones in the future, so when the daughter is in adolescence, the father should not look away from the daughter but get closer to the daughter within the appropriate range.
For example, taking your daughter to play on the weekend, inviting your child to the movies, inviting your daughter to eat, having a time alone with your daughter, and not even being with her mother during this alone time, is to make your daughter feel the warmth from men, give her flowers, give her gifts, and take her to the movies.
And the father is very gentlemanly and polite, at this time, let the daughter feel that the opposite sex is warm, and the father often praises his daughter, and it will also make the daughter become very confident, the father praises the daughter for being beautiful, which is actually a compliment from the opposite sex for the daughter, and she feels that she is really beautiful.
Confident children can also have more choices in marriage and love life in the future, daughters often grow up in their father's praise and sweet words, she will become very confident, when she grows up and meets a scumbag, the scumbag tells her sweet words, because she already has her own ability to distinguish in her father's praise, and she will naturally produce immunity after listening to too much, and it is not easy to be deceived by this sweet talk of a scumbag.
So when the daughter is older, she should be closer to her father, this kind of closeness is the closeness of the appropriate distance, take the daughter to a date, or even take the daughter to the bar, tell the daughter what dangerous situations will be in the bar, teach the daughter to recognize the danger, teach the daughter how to see if a man really loves you, this is actually what a father should do.
Psychologists have said the reason why "children should avoid their mothers, but daughters should not avoid their fathers", do you think it is very realistic and heart-wrenching? See if you did it? #头条创作挑战赛#
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