I've looked at a set of data:
More than 4 percent of young people stay up late almost every day, and more than 80% believe that going to bed after midnight is staying up late; Even if they realize that staying up late is not good, more than 7 out of ten people must delay until after midnight before going to bed.
What exactly are we talking about when we talk about "staying up late"?
Try to analyze the reasons why contemporary people like to stay up late from a different perspective.
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"Revenge Staying Up Late": A Psychological Compensation Mechanism
Have you ever behaved like this?
Food, snacks, toys or desires that were not fulfilled when you were a child, and when you grow up to make money, you will take revenge to consume and self-gratify.
Things that I was reluctant to buy before, now that I have money, I want to buy them more and more;
What I couldn't do before, what I couldn't get, I often do now.
In fact, these are all "psychological compensation" at work, and the same is true for staying up late.
It can be understood as:
When a person feels anxious and uneasy about something or a relationship, he will look elsewhere for a moment of peace to compensate for the lack of security and belonging.
Why stay up late?
Because the daytime does not belong to oneself, the daytime is a social animal, a person who lives in a mask;
Only in the dead of night can you let down your guard and be yourself.
I don't have time during the day, but I finally have some time at night, so I am reluctant to pass so quickly today;
But proper compensation is good and can achieve physical and mental relaxation, while overcompensation can do more harm than good.
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Emotional tugging of drive and guilt
Why do I feel guilty?
I feel dissatisfied with the end of the day, and I think that I don't seem to have done anything "valuable", and I am a day of rottenness, eating and waiting for death.
If you want to do something to remedy it at the end of this day, such as: exercising for a while, reading books, watching dramas, and learning to practice ......
But when I get home from work, eat, clean up, and lie on the sofa to rest for a while, it's not too early.
Pick up your phone and relax for a while, and an hour or two will pass.
If you look at the time again, it's basically zero.
There are multiple voices in my head at this time.
The sound responsible for the driving force:
It doesn't matter, read a few pages of a book and then go to sleep, it's considered an effort.
Voices responsible for guilt:
It's too bad, another day of muddy things has passed.
Voices responsible for pleasure:
It doesn't matter, I'll go to bed after looking at my phone for a while, and I'll work hard tomorrow.
It can be said that 8 out of 10 people are unable to establish a completely orderly living state.
For example: do not procrastinate, decisive, strong drive, do what you say......
When conflict arises, when the inner energy is pulled by various emotions, it forms mental internal friction.
For the contemporary, staying up late is nothing;
The most important thing is to find the best balance between staying up late and establishing order.
It can be both enjoyable and driven, so as not to feel guilty.
What are you most afraid of?
When it's time to relax, think about work, reading, and housework;
When it's time to be busy, my head is thinking about playing.
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Ways to divert anxiety from pain
For those who like to stay up late, the night is the most free, joyful, and undisturbed moment;
At this time, to do something you like, slow-paced, the level of happiness is several times higher than during the day.
The more annoyed, anxious, irritable, and unhappy the day, the greater the addiction to staying up late at night;
It's a diversion of anxiety and pain.
When a person is insecure and anxious, it is difficult to immerse themselves in something.
So no matter what you do at this stage, the efficiency is extremely low, and it becomes "garbage time".
During this time, there will be ways to divert attention.
As a result, some people play games, eat supper, and watch dramas at night, in short, they just can't keep themselves focused.
From this point of view, people who are used to staying up late are actually subconsciously lacking a sense of security.
The more restless I am, the more I want to stay up late;
In the process of staying up late to sleep, through various entertainment methods, to divert the uneasy emotions in the heart.
Topic:
Why did you stay up late?
Author He Suohuan:
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