正常的孩子什么样?
他们只是吃饭，生长，甜甜地笑着吗?
不，不是那样的。正常的孩子，如果信任父母，他们会全力以赴释放自己。
成长过程中，孩子会通过扰乱、破坏、恐吓、消耗、浪费、摇摆和占有展示力量……
一开始，他们绝对需要生活在一个充满爱和力量的环境中(持续地抱持)，这样他才不会太害怕自己的思维和想象，而在情感发展方面取得进展。”
——温尼科特《剥夺与不良行为》
“What is a normal child like? Does he just eat and grow and smile sweetly? No, that is not what he is like. The normal child, if he has confidence in mother and father, pulls out all the stops. In the course of time, he tries out his power to disrupt, to destroy, to frighten, to wear down, to waste, to wangle, and to appropriate . . . At the start he absolutely needs to live in a circle of love and strength (with consequent tolerance) if he is not to be too fearful of his own thoughts and of his imaginings to make progress in his emotional development.”
― Donald Woods Winnicott, Deprivation and Delinquency
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