What does a normal child look like?
Do they just eat, grow, and smile sweetly?
No, it's not like that. Normal children, if they trust their parents, will go all out to free themselves.
Growing up, children show power by disrupting, destroying, intimidating, consuming, wasting, rocking and possessing ...
In the beginning, they absolutely need to live in an environment full of love and strength (holding constantly) so that he is not too afraid of his own thinking and imagination and makes progress in emotional development. ”
—Winnicott, "Deprivation and Bad Behavior"
“What is a normal child like? Does he just eat and grow and smile sweetly? No, that is not what he is like. The normal child, if he has confidence in mother and father, pulls out all the stops. In the course of time, he tries out his power to disrupt, to destroy, to frighten, to wear down, to waste, to wangle, and to appropriate . . . At the start he absolutely needs to live in a circle of love and strength (with consequent tolerance) if he is not to be too fearful of his own thoughts and of his imaginings to make progress in his emotional development.”
― Donald Woods Winnicott, Deprivation and Delinquency
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