Zhong Shuman, who debuted at the age of 23, has experienced the stage of being lost and only understanding blind pandering. It wasn't until she reached the age of 35 that she said bluntly:
I used to want to do certain things, but I was affected by different things; to this day, I think everything is much more elegant and free.
Insist on singing fast songs in the era of slow songs, and do not find a random object because of age. Today's Zhong Shuman, whether in work and love, is loyal to himself and believes in his own choices.
White skin equals good heart? What about black?
In addition to the image of Zhong Shuman as a dancing singer, her healthy skin color is probably one of her signs. Even though the public has the established concept of "white is beautiful" and has been joked by people around her because of her skin color, she laughed and said that she would turn her head and joke with them, and said frankly:
I've never hated myself for being black, but do you want to be white? some! For example, I often use whitening masks and whitening nutritional supplements, hoping to be able to slightly brighten up, but I always like the feeling of healthy skin tone.
When everyone is selling the concept of whitening and whitening, one white to cover three ugly, Zhong Shuman once filmed with his sister Zhong Shuqi, hoping to bring out the values of doing their own correctly in the form of jokes, and laughed:
Does our blackness mean that we have a bad heart? Is black guilty? I remember playing that video with my sister early on, and she poured her whole face in flour and asked, "Am I getting better now?"
The relationship between the two sisters is so good that it is difficult for others to understand
Zhong Shuman and Zhong Shuqi's feelings are so good that they rely on each other and take care of each other, and every day they contact each other for no reason and talk about boring things, Zhong Shuman said more:
She was really funny, and I had never had a moment of suffocation with her for so many years. If I could only choose one person to live together in this world, I would definitely choose my sister.
However, people will always grow up, and one day everyone will find their love and start another stage of life, and her sister Zhong Shuqi took the lead in getting married in February this year. The sister climbed her head to find happiness, facing her 35-year-old marriageable age, Zhong Shuman said that she had never worried, but her parents were more worried than her, and said that they wanted to introduce boys to her.
For Sherman, the vacuum period can make her recognize herself, if she does not know what she needs, simply want to be loved and feel, will only keep "stirring". (Photo by Deng Qianying)
I myself don't think I'm going to die without love, but I definitely need love because love will be my motivation. My love experience will give me a lot of feelings about music.
It turns out that in the process of falling in love, only you don't love yourself
Zhong Shuman's scandals have always been few, and it has been 4 years since the end of the last relationship. In the past many relationships, after each reply to singleness, she will not rush to fall in love to get rid of loneliness, she said:
It's not that I don't need love, it's that I don't want love to be my first. I still give it all in when I shoot, but that doesn't mean I'm worthless without "him." Vacuum periods are a good thing, because when you stop focusing on one person and put your focus back on yourself, you'll have a clearer idea of what you really need.
And every vacuum period in the past has made Zhong Shuman remember her past, only knowing how to blindly pay in a relationship and cater to each other.
The love in Zhong Shuman's heart is very simple, and he hopes that the two people can create good memories together until the moment they leave the world. (Photo by Deng Qianying)
Zhong Shuman shared his past love experience, emphasizing that he would choose not to express his personal thoughts:
Many times I will choose to "endure", for example, where to eat, the other party proposed a place, but it turns out that you do not like to eat, but you will also accompany him because the other party likes it, because I do not want the other party to think that I reject him.
Accommodating everything, disguised love without themselves, and even making both parties tired and weak in love, is also the problem of a love:
Although I feel that I have done a very good job, done my greatest responsibility, and given me the greatest love, sometimes there are some failures or unhappy things, and I will think about what is wrong with me.
At that time, neither she nor the other party could give the answer, and later realized that even she did not know how to love herself:
Because I love each other too much, I will even adjust myself for the other party, adjust to no oneself.
Zhong Shuman (sherman), bluntly said that he did not love himself enough in the past, and often chose to suppress emotions when encountering uncomfortable events. (Photo by Deng Qianying)
Walk out of the dead end and be honest with yourself
At present, Zhong Shuman began to face his truest self, not to mention that he was no longer the self who only knew how to suppress emotions before, and when he encountered problems, he would raise them in due course, even if it was to make the relationship crack and hurt:
First of all, it depends on what the other party has done, and I think forgiveness is very much needed to exist in a relationship. The appearance of the rift does not mean the end of the world, sometimes the rift shows you and the other party what to repair, just to see how you face it, so the rift is an opportunity to make both sides better.
Zhong Shuman confessed that he looked forward to his future married life. (Photo by Deng Qianying)
Today if you ask me if I am ready (accepting a new relationship), I feel that I amready because I am no longer the same person I used to be.
Only by still believing will there be hope
After walking out of the dead end, I learned to be honest with myself. Zhong Shuman bluntly said that he would not worry about finding happiness in the future:
I think everyone should have confidence in their own happiness, not so negative, you have to know that happiness will follow you, happiness will follow you.
As for who that object is? Zhong Shuman said that the inside is the most important factor, even if it is slightly fat and not handsome, she can accept it, and she laughs and shares that she hopes to find a boy like a sister:
It's strange to say that, but because I'm really happy with my sister, I want someone to be as funny as my sister; except for my sister, I want a guy who can bring out the side of the family.
Even if it is unknown when the "he" will appear, it is the most important thing to firmly believe.
At present, Sherman, however, recognizes his own needs and believes that he will be happy. (Photo by Deng Qianying)
Getting more people to embrace fast songs is like building relationships with others: taking the time to dig deeper
The same applies to work, Zhong Shuman, who has been influenced by black music culture since childhood, loves to dance fast songs, but the most impressive works since his debut are probably "Letter to Yourself" and "Hug Well" And other slow songs.
Even so, she still insists on the theme of dancing and fast songs, and believes that just like building relationships on a daily basis, it is impossible to go through a failure and then decide that it will fail in the future:
Just like when building a relationship, you always need to eat with that person a few times, talk more, let people understand what you are doing, so it will never be only a moment.
Even though Zhong Shuman admits that he has been lost in the process, people will always become clearer and better after they are lost. In the end, whether it succeeds or not, there is probably no answer, as long as you keep believing it. Work, love is like this, people should be like this, can prevent themselves from falling into the bottom, probably only themselves.