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Text: Transcendence and Spirituality
Adversity always happens inexplicably and unjustifiably, making it difficult for people in the midst of it to find a reasonable explanation. The Biblical Job devoted his life to worshipping God, but overnight he lost all his children, possessions, and became seriously ill himself, and even his friends questioned the hypocrisy of his previous righteous deeds. The first reaction of a person who is declared a cancer by a doctor is often, "Why me?" These sudden blows throw us out of our usual familiar lives, seriously challenge the values and beliefs we originally believed in, and even completely disintegrate, unless we can find higher and broader value beliefs than the original, in order to transcend self-hatred and cynicism. Joseph. Joseph Campbell (1997) describes adversity and suffering as a mountain opening that opens us to a journey of becoming heroes whose lives are lifted to a new level if we are willing to embark on this path of pursuit.
Some people will enter the spiritual path through religion, while others will gradually explore their spiritual journey through more personal ways. Whether it is religion or other means, there will be catechism or fellow practitioners to guide and encourage people to point out the direction and give hope, so that people can endure the suffering in the process. The Buddhist Zen monk Sheng Yan reminds us that life is impermanent, even suffering must be impermanent, it cannot be permanent, and it will eventually pass. "Impermanence" is a powerful belief. In the Bible, Jesus told his disciples to forgive others "seventy times seven times." (Matthew 18:21-22) "Forgiveness" is an act of healing power, especially for oneself.
Art, literature and music have similar effects, allowing us to find resonance in it, releasing our sorrow and loneliness, expanding our horizons and imaginations, making us yearn for a better future, and unconsciously transcending our original limitations. The stories of heroes can be exemplary, inspiring us to hope that we can do the same.
Compared with Western medicine, which aims to eliminate the causes of disease and alleviate symptoms, Chinese medicine tries to strengthen the body's own healing mechanism, which is closer to the concept of resilience. (Walsh, 2008) The body is stronger, and even if it faces more and greater adversity in the future, it will not be easily knocked down. The goal is not to cure diseases, but to strengthen health and enrich life.
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The word transcendence comes from the Latin transcendere (meaning to surpass, to climb). It describes the relationship between two things, such as God and the world, animals and plants, the knower and the recognized, etc., one of which is more than the other, or external to the other. It also implies that there is a disconnect or a fault between these two things. Nevertheless, there are ways to go from one thing to another, and this transition is either physical or cognitive.
There are four interpretations of spirituality: 1. It refers to the innate wisdom and wisdom of man. Example: A spoiled, who has no spirituality, even pulls a spring shirt to compare. --Han Yu's "Peony Song"; 2, refers to the intelligence and wisdom of animals after training and domestication. Example: This dog is very spiritual and can help blind people lead the way. 3. Refers to the understanding of religion. 4. Refers to the soul. From Tang Hanyu's "Peony Song".
Personally, I believe that the transcendence and spirituality mentioned in this article are mostly related to religion, and I will not dwell on them here.
"Adversity always happens inexplicably and unjustifiably, making it difficult for people in it to find a reasonable explanation." There is an example on the Internet today to help you understand.
According to 2021-09-16 14:08 "People's Information" report: On the evening of September 15, there was a major broadcast accident in "Hangzhou News Network", the teleprompter suddenly failed, the male anchor frantically pressed the remote control, and the facial expression was obviously out of shape. A netizen in the Hangzhou news circle said, "This video went viral in our media circles that night, and it was a disgrace! Whether it is an announcer or a director, there is a responsibility, is the adaptability so poor?! Also, even if you have an electronic prompter, you can put a manuscript! Really powerless to complain!
The host involved is 32 years old this year, both the anchor of the city station, should not be the first news broadcast, but there was a broadcast accident, "From the video, it can be seen that after the host teleprompter failed, not only the host was flustered, but the back of the studio was also chaotic." "It can be estimated from here that this adversity (accident) occurred very suddenly, happened without reason, inexplicably, can we find a reasonable explanation? I think it should be. Because there are always times when the equipment fails, but the probability of failure is small, we are too confident, ignore the possibility of failure, and there is no backup emergency plan. If there are manuscripts like the announcer of CCTV's "News Network", even if the failure occurs, it will not be "inexplicable", because "inexplicable" really exists. If we are mentally prepared for the possibility of adversity, this is the manifestation of transcendence and spirituality, that is, the impossible things (adversity) can happen, either in you or in him, but we already have cognition. (Note: The explanation of transcendence and spirituality refers to the Baidu Encyclopedia interpretation)
September 16, 2021 #Counselor said #